I remember in University I read a case study about people who liked to contend with each other. I don't remember any of the details of how they set this experiment up, but the end result was that if you put two people together who did not like each other, they had a much higher chance of falling in love with each other than couples who were just Ho-hum, lifes a bore isn't it? Emmotional people emote.... It is a fact that if you can make someone angry you have a much better chance of getting them to like you later than if you can't get any emmotional response out of someone at all. Indifference is the real problem.
My teacher once said:
We must all go home and learn to be "responders" not "reacters". The choice is always ours.
Just thought I's add my 2 cents worth....