[MKane]

My farm is for sale and I've had some interest in it. Everyone asks me where I'm going to go. I don't know. I can no longer take care of this place which is a high maintenace horse farm. But I'm also having trouble just keeping my house clean. cooking, laundry,etc. It took me an hour yesterday to put clean sheets on my bed. I don't know if another house would be appropriate, or assisted living. How do you know?

[paula_w]

i'm going to be living alone with family in the same area. i've given assisted living some thought, but would like to try to maintain a studio or one bedroom condo myself first.

i think some of the deciding factors for going into assisted living would be your ability to drive or get around, your safety from falls, your ability to cook and feed yourself nutritionally. Keeping the place clean falls somewhere in a gray area of personal tolerance.

But you need to not fall and you have to eat.

good luck with the decision.
paula

Originally Posted by MKane

My farm is for sale and I've had some interest in it. Everyone asks me where I'm going to go. I don't know. I can no longer take care of this place which is a high maintenace horse farm. But I'm also having trouble just keeping my house clean. cooking, laundry,etc. It took me an hour yesterday to put clean sheets on my bed. I don't know if another house would be appropriate, or assisted living. How do you know?

[stevem53]

Mary..As much as I know you love the farm and the horses, dogs etc..I think its a wise decision to sell it at this point..Certainly not an easy decision..You may find a smaller house, etc more manageable in comparison to the farm?..Maybe something low maintainance would work for you

[Chicory]

If you are old enough for a retirement community, often you can get a small house or condo in a community where assisted living is also offered. So you can live independently a while longer and then when you need assisted living, it is a short move within the same community.

[Twinkletoes]

Awww, that's too bad you've gotten to the point where you need to let go of your farm.

There used to be a poster on the MS forum who swore she was going to retire on a cruise ship! She said the cost difference between that a nursing home wasn't much. And when your family wants to visit, they get a big discount.

Obviously not a solution for everyone, but something to consider. You wouldn't have to change your own sheets or cook.

Good luck to you, whatever you decide.

[lou_lou]

I know that our independence is very important
but when I fall or crawl and if I was so exhausted I could not fix my own meals, it is time to allow myself or yourself to let people help you live better,
and safer, I hate living alone... but I have family -

even so - sometimes it is good to not count on them -as some tend to resent caretaking...

[jcitron]

Mary,

I'm sad to hear that you have to give up what you love the most. This is the part that hurts I think with this terrible syndrome. We see our abilities chip away slowly bit by bit, but we stay positive and act as though nothing is wrong until we can't do it anymore.

Now instead of getting rid of your horse farm, is there a possibility of getting a live-in companion to help you? This would allow you to keep your house and still have someone take care of the other things that you need help with.

Just a thought.

John

[Ibken]

I was thinking if there's room for another horse, maybe you could offer R+B to a person and his/her horse for help. Of course it all depends on the person - maybe word-of-mouth via your animal network or advertise - Craig's list? You really never know what might turn up for you. Sometime's beyond your wildest dreams! I just hate to see you give up the farm....I can relate big time. Good luck...Ibby