Directed? By learning what you are mourning and venting about! Of Course!
We all suffer PAIN! There is no question about that, and, doctors don't even have good, consistent definitions of what pain IS or the degrees of pain we have! That said? Venting/Mourning here is safe [as long as doc doesn't know your e-mail or 'name' on line?] And it is with folks who understand what it is to have IT, have IT constantly, and have IT NOT go away. Ok, well, there are 'times' when it's less SO than others, but for the most part? Unless you work to take your mind off of it? IT IS THERE AND ALWAYS THERE! It feels like we are in a leaky boat? But we are together sort of in a leaky boat!
Beyond the mourning phases tho is an BIGGIE? That is: WHAT NEXT? Up to you and only you!
Face it, we are NOT fun folks to be around when we're hurtin'! Folks now ask me 'How am I doing?'-I just reply... OK, all things considered! and leave it at that! Too many people can't relate to the pain unless or until THEY get it-then, you will be the first person they call! Learn to talk short, concise and sweet with the facts and realities. Start practicing on your docs? New docs always need 'orientation'. Best to perfect descriptions BEFORE you need to go to the ER? Those guys have REALLY SHORT ATTENTION SPANS! Pack as much info into 45 SECONDS [yep, seconds] as you can! It could save your life!
For an exit? Web up Mary Chapin Carpenter's two songs: I feel Lucky & The Bug! Hopefully we are beneficiaries of lucky things and not splats!
Of course, the beyond allotted quota of hugs all around! We are GOOD as a collective mind? Aren't we? But we are the sum of our parts! - j