Why is when you say no to someone, they just do not listen? I am luckier than many of you, I do not have constant pain most of the time. If I overdo, or wear the wrong shoes, step on something wrong, you know, all those other things cause me to have pain. I am now walking a mile every morning, and before I get home my hip is crying most days...so I will not go over 1 mile. I went to the beach Sat, walked to far, and had a rough time getting back to the car..I wasn't paying attention to how far I had gone. I have more issues with balance, numbness, tingling, vibrations, than I do with pain, and I am thankful for that. My feet do give me the most problems.

So, a stupid question for all of you...can anyone still dance? I had a wedding to go to today, and just sitting and watching was causing hip pain. My co workers kept trying to make me dance. I know if I was to dance, tomorrow I would be in pain all day, and maybe for days. How do you make people understand? I do not look like I have any problems, so sometimes they must think I am lying to them. They nag me about eating, and they know I will not eat away from home..I also have severe reactions to being glutened..so why nag? Can I get you a drink, anything to eat, coffee?

I guess this is a blow off steam type of thread!

Have something that LOOKS like a 'drink'? AKA Water w/a slice of lemon in it?
Slow dance w/someone, essentially standing in place and swaying a little bit?
No more no less... the pay-backs are too much.
And, yes! The going too far and wondering IF you can get back? That aspect takes a LOT of conscious thought and planning [as much as it's hated]. The planning part always must be with us.
I truly hate hitting those brick walls with hundreds of pounds of concrete on my legs! I'll stop, rest, regroup & marshall/Command my mind and body and get home ASAP! Then crash. How long I've gone and how hard it was to get back determine the REST time I mite need to be semi-human again... without growling.
Hugs and better things! - j

i second the slow dance in circles thing. One where you have someone to hang onto while you dance. I took a nice header last week, the kind where you trip and keep stumbling forward trying to regain your balance, well i didnt regain it. fell flat on my face. do what you can when you can and if people dont understand well what can you do.

You did a "header", I did a nice "footer" the other night in my bathroom. I kept trying to regain my balance and kept going backward into my cabinet. I have three nice knob marks inside of a huge bruise on my mid back. It hurt, but I am sure it looked funny as hell, especially since I was butt naked.

I hate the fact that I loose my balance and fall. I think it is because I don't always feel the floor under my feet.

And, I triple the agreement with the slow dancing. Come on now, I think we can all do that...

Mere

i did mine in front of a whole field full of people. it got a few laughs.

Ohhhhh, now that is embarrassing... I hope you weren't hurt too badly...

Mere