Dear Jack,

There is much that you and others have posted that I did not read and am not aware of. I must admit that there was a time long ago when I felt wary of you.

However, I just read your post this morning on this thread, and, I think it is beautiful. It feels we are getting more of an opportunity to know who you are , and I would like to sit in a coffee shop and get acquainted.

rose

Thank you for those kind remarks. And, I do remember you from Braintalk and your knowledge of B12 and I did take that in.

I have already removed a recent thread that was not in keeping with the guidelines, and have now had to delete and edit some posts here too.

The fact that discord on this board has already made Yorkiemom not want to post is bad enough. Please let's not have more insensitive words causing more upset. I am not singling anyone out, but appealing to all.

This is a great forum with very supportive and informative members.
It would be nice to see things settle down again

thanks

i am removing this post in the interests of peace on the board

--but had not posted in it until now.

I admit, I was a bit confused as to exactly what issues were being debated.

Near as I can determine--and correct me if I'm wrong--jakatak had orginally posted some rather despairing updates on his condition; this was responded to in various ways, some of which fell more into the "tough love" than "sympathetic commiseration" category. This then blew up further, and Yorkiemom thought it had gone over the line sufficiently that she'd like to take at least a time out from the board.

Now, I can't speak for everybody else's feelings and interpretations of posts, but I don't think anyone here was so egregiously uncaring or insulting as to be beyond the bounds of acceptable posting.

We all have differing perspectives, and because we will express them, we inevitably will come into conflict. This is not necessarily a bad thing. Out of the dance of thesis and antithesis often comes synthesis. A major function of these boards is to present alternative viewpoints, and to have them vetted by others.

Inevitably, some will think that these viewpoints are not being expressed is as optimal a fashion as they would prefer. That's within acceptable bounds as well, I think. I would hate to have people stop posting for such reasons, though.

So, whatever feelings have been compromised, I still personally would rather have those people here discussing their compromised feelings rather than just lurking silently, or leaving entirely. I realize they may be able to glean what they need from just reading--here or at other places--but I still think there is something valuable in the feedback one gets from other posters, even if it's not always one likes or finds useful (or even comforting).

Just my take on this. But it's in a selfish interest--I think the board is better with the aforementioned people than without them. (And I suspect that just about everybody here would have a similar view.)

That was incredibly insightful and a post that everyone should read and take to heart. I regret my original post. I regret allowing myself to put into words what was a very upsetting and frustrating moment in my ongoing battle with incredibly painful feet. As a probation officer, I have had clients who have committed suicide, and they did not call out for help. They truly wanted their pain to end. I know that I was looking for a solution to a problem that in all likelihood is not going to magically go away.