There are no support groups in my area and I have been thinking about starting one. Do any of you go to support groups? If so, what do they do at these meetings? Do you feel they are really helpful?

Alan and I go to a support group of the Neuropathy Association in NYC once a month. The next meeting is on the 21st. A law firm graciously lets the group meet in the conference room. Imagine 15 or so (hopefully it will get more people) coming in (I bring my muffins) and there on this big beautiful black marble counter that surrounds the room, well, there's fresh fruit, fresh carafes of coffee, fresh teas, bottles of Spring Water, platters of cookies. Well, you just have to picture it.

Went to my first one last month. Everybody has a story, and we all help each other. Very nice people. It's run very strict though, no one can talk out of turn, you can't interrup anyone. But it's informative and you learn a whole bunch of stuff.

Hopefully you can find one in your area. Local churches and schools sometimes let you use a room (like they do in Alcoholics Anonymous).

See what happens.

Good Luck, Melody

I go to support groups well in the past for my eating disorder recovery and depression. I found them very helpful in my recovery. I hope when up to it can for pn. I think even if you can't find a pn meeting a similar issue can even help with the mental aspects of coping. Like for ex I went to oa meetings and I only suffered from anorexia and depression. The common bond though was there and it really helped to feel less alone and with coping mechanisms. I agree about calling local hospitals in your area or go on the web too.

If you are truly interested in joining with others to start any type of self-help support group ("self-help" means a member-run group, not a professionally one), there are suggestions at:
http://mentalhelp.net/selfhelp/selfhelp.php?id=866

Best to those who decide to start one!

Take care and hope,

- Ed

American Self-Help Group Clearinghouse
Saint Clare's Health System, NJ
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