Wow Melody that is something about your son. Can't say as I blame you for not letting him come home and do nothing. He really sounds mixed up. I think, for what it is worth, that you are doing the best that you can and taking care of Alan and yourself. You have enough of a load. Sometimes a person reaches out but they just can't help. It's just the way it is.

That was sure nice what you did for the lady. It did get her out if only for a little while and got her mind off of things. I'm sure she is grateful to have you as a friend. The 88 year old I was talking about before is a friend and we don't see each other often but we always email. And she is out and about as much as she can. She is a go getter. A retired school teacher and just chose to move to another neat apartment in another town. The reason being that they are making the place where she lived assisted living. No if, ands or buts. None of those people need assisted living. Soooo, there were around 8 of them who moved to this brand new place. Much to do there and she always gets out otherwise as well as do the others. She also is in great demand to play for weddings, funerals, and the like. She's a great pianist and organist.

Oh my, I know I'm way off subject and I apologize for that. But it's good to be able to tell it to people who understand. Take care

Kitt

You know something Kitt: Once in a while, it's nice to hear that there are people living way beyond their life expectancies and that they know computers, e-mails, do stuff and LEAVE THEIR COMFORT ZONES!! once in a while.

I mean, I know ME!!! I can't imagine being an 80 year old Melody wearing frumpy black clothing and no jewelry. I looked like that when I was 40 and never again.

The people who frequent these boards have such pain (I mean the real stuff, not just emotional pain), and sometimes I think it's a good idea to bring a laugh or two (or three).

Really, I do.

And Kitt, if you ever want to hear a story that will make you fall off your seat (believe me, you'll need a box of tissues, you'll laugh so hard), just private message me and I promise you, you will forget if you even have a headache. .

Oh, one more cute thing about my Alan. he never gets words right. I mean never. He doesn't remember the titles of movies, he gets them screwed up.
I believe I posted this little ditty on the boards but I don't think you know this one.
By the way, alan is jewish and I'm catholic and he's born again. Living here is fun believe me. I never know if when I walk into the living room, I'm going to find him standing up praying, shouting Halleluyah! or talking back at the tv.
Anyway, alan says to me. "maybe I should get some rosemary bees" or something like that. I said "what on earth are you talking about this time, (I say this at least once a day).

He goes "you know rosemary bees". I said 'what the hell are rosemary bees?
He goes , "you know what you catholics use in church."
I said ROSARY BEADS????? yep....

then last night he gives me back a video tape of a movie I gave him . He says "here's the Rosemary Murders". you guessed it!!! The Rosary Murders with Donald Sutherland.

He's got Rosemary on his brain. I wonder what he would call Rosemary's Baby with Mia Farrow. Probably Rosary Baby.

be well
Mel

like 'spoonerisms', malapropisms, no matter. Still very, verry good!
As for being the only one to 'do stuff' - you aren't alone..

Last mo. went to neuro-opth. [He'd moved], and I WENT to where I thought I'd seen on the address change card...NOOOOOO wrong block #, and worse, the Address was the same as the building in front of it.. Only got there 1 hour late. [I was told later by a staffer that THAT was GOOD!?] An older lady who saw the doc before me, was standing outside looking for her "ride service"..they'd disappeared. So, I asked her, I can take you, IF you don't mind a crazy PN'ed driver...She accepted [it was in mid-90's and she's recovering from a stroke]. I took her & she's asked me to Lunch in her senior home. I believe she want's people to 'wonder' who I am. That's cool! As long as I can drive, I'm gonna try to help others.

No MELODY! YOU ARE NOT THE ONLY ONE HELPING. Each little thing, or bit, each of us does ADDS UP. And that's not any form of formal 'volunteering' - it's being human to other humans. It's not the sun that brings light to life, it's the sun in the spirit!

Hey! I used to work in a place that allowed off for all religious holidays- One lady was a Bhuddist, Catholic, & married to a Jewish gentleman. Boy! Did she cash IN! Good thoughts to all! - j

That about sums it up!!!

Be well, stay focused and do the best you can!!!

Alan is at the gym trying to look like the Terminator!!

me?? I'm taking myself out to lunch. They serve half a sandwich and a salad.

Just for today, I think I'll take care of ME!!!

by all.
Love ya to pieces.
melody

That's quite a story Melody about those beads/bees and all the rest Makes a person laugh for sure. Take care,

Kitt