Well, I've been absent for awhile. I've read everything and caught up with everyone. My husband had eye surgery on the 1st of May. It was an eyelid lift and resection. We are talking serious aftercare from me. He had both done at the same time to get it over with. We would not have done this if we had realized all the detailed care I'd have to do. I've slept in his worn out (won't let me get rid of it) recliner since the surgery. I have to get up at 2-3:00 a.m. to put more ointment in and on his eyes. I won't bore you all with the rest of the many details. This isn't something that was voluntary or un-nessary surgery. It was affecting his vision by about 50%. Not safe to drive.

Sleeping in a recliner with my butt issues and back issues has been a whole lot of serious fun. I'm walking like Melody all bent over. But if I go to bed and am comfortable I don't wake up when I'm susposed to. Today, he was going to drive himself to the doctor. He can't even see to read the newspaper and I walk out to get in the car and he's behind the steering wheel. I said NOT!! to him and told him he would get out and I would drive. And he says why?

He's fought me every inch of the way with letting me do what is written on a 3 1/2 page typed sheet of paper for aftercare. I am very bent out of shape with men at the moment. I suspect most women on here will agree that I have right to not be happy with him. We see the doctor again tomorrow and I'm hoping she (yes..she) takes a bite out of him.

Sleep well and have less pain all.

Billye

Hi Billye:

Your hubby is so lucky to have you. All our hubbies are lucky to have US, now aren't they?

I fear they would be lost without us. I know someone who had that eyelid surgery because the eyelid was so droopy she could not see out of one of her eyes.

So here's hoping that soon, he's all better, you're walking straighter. (I am straight as we speak, thank goodness).

So you take care of YOURSELF too!!!

We gals have to stick together!!

Take care,

Mel

Give 'im heck Billye! You and the doc gang up on him! Eyes are nothing to mess with or be casual about. Men can be such stubborn A**es. Sigh.

Ifn ya don't! All I would do is PLUNK THE INSTRUCTIONS for his 'care and feeding' during recovery under his NOSE and Chirp out Time for # 2! now...and NO COMPLAINTS.... IF so call yer doc and have some stranger come in and do all and I mean ALL the 'details'! HERE is the phone?

Amazing how grown-ups become kids in some ways when we've got owies?

Now for me, these days, spending life in the 'recliner' is really far better more comfy than being in bed? But...that's me. I can also appreciate the need for a good nite sleep vs/ being 'vigilant' for the med doses.. That is the drawback of snooze alarms?

My only solution aside from bed is to find a 'recliner' that is YOURS? One that can support you for the interim times and, at times the long term times.

Billye, what a way to be going w/o help! I sure wish you could find some that could just do some 'simple things' for the duration! My heart is with you and have some 's!!!!!! - j

Well,
I tattled on him to her nurse. So she comes in looks at me and says "Is he always like this?" He says "Like what?" and she says "A difficult patient." Then she proceeds to tell him that the outcome of his surgery is strictly in his hands, that I don't HAVE to do anything.

Then she tells us that he must do everything on the list for two more weeks and he starts complaining. She looks at me and says "Make a schedule and have him read it, agree with it and sign it." "If he doesn't agree with the schedule, have him call me about any part of it he doesn't agree with."

We did this and I put it on the fridge with a magnet. Now if he argues, I can just point him to the schedule.

It has his signature on it.

Billye

Am I glad you checked in,I have to have my eye's done,my brother just
told me one at a time..I am getting that broken nose fixed as well..As for
that chair I always end up sleeping in mine and can't get up in the morning.
I really don't want to do this but tired,of looking at my drop lids.And at least
I know it's a broken nose and not a brain tumor..Hugs to you all seems like
oh times day.Sue

I have trained them!
Husbands in particular are often the most recalictrant of creatures. Sigh.
Sure sounds like you've to the back up on your side to make life more tolerable tho! Bravo good lady!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
's and all plus some fuzzies too! - j


PS That wasn't a 'tattle'...That was a statement of fact that others sussed out as well! Feel absolutely NO GUILT about it!

OOH tho? Watch out for 'lost' magnets tho...they could disappear ya know? And you will know by who [or is it whom? does it matter?]

Reading this is like reading a Melody's hubby story!

But what amazes me, Billye, is that a year ago I can't imagine you being physically capable of doing this. As much pain as you are in these days, the recovery, as seen from this, is remarkable.

He's a lucky man, that guy who wouldn't buy the laptop! Yes, I do know he is a darling.....and he takes good care of you when you need caring for.

I have a tad of envy of you married folk; life is certainly easier when you have another sentient mammal to share it with!

Sentient mammals!!!!

I LOVE THAT EXPRESSION!!!

I'm going to go call Alan a Sentient Mammal right now. Let's see what he says:

lol lol lol

I walk over to him while he's watching tv. It's a commercial. I say to him "Alan, do you know that you are a sentient mammal??

He removes his headphones and says: "I'm a What???"

I said again "you are a sentient mammal".

He says: "WHY??"

I said "no, not why, this is what you are, you are a sentient mammal, don't you know what a sentient mammal is??"

He says: "I have no idea what you are talking about, I'm watching LAW AND ORDER".


LOL LOL LOL

yep I miss putting goop in my husbands eye,well not that...But when
our men are sick or have sore eyes.Billye I to admire you your one
strong woman and your story was so funny.. Hugs Sue LJ it was nice
to see your feet pop up..