A client passed away
 

When I went to work today I found out my one parent has passed away by her own hand. She was schedzophrenic. (sp) I thought she was doing very well when I last saw her, but understand last week things were not well with her. She usually pays a week in advance and this past week did not pay. The visit night had been switched, so I was not there.

This has devestated so many of us, in the program, her family, and support groups and her church.
I am in shock and feel like my chest is crushed.
Di
I had a hard time falling to sleep. Back to try again....

Hi Di.

How sad for you this happened. She must have felt tortured in her mind.
Most people don't understand this illness very well. How can we unless we suffer with it?

I am sorry her treatments didn't work.
This lady still needs our prayers as does her family and friends. It is so sad when mental OR physical illness does not respond to treatment - what a tragedy :(

How many children did this lady have and how old were they?

I have felt that crushing chest feeling when I received bad news lately.
I hope as each day passes that feeling will lift. I hope you get a chance to see her family.
This lady will no longer mental pain but those left behind will never forget.

Sometimes it just feel like there is no ........... Hope

((((((Di)))))),

I'm so sorry :(

I hate suicide. I believe you know my history -- been on both sides of suicide. Be 40 years this month since I lost my younger Brother.

It's taken me a lifetime to learn that the suicidal urge only lasts an instant. If we can get past that instant, we can survive. I wish -- I pray -- that we would teach as much about suicide as we do about wars and buying cars and mathematics and movies :SIGH:

I remember that feeling you're describing -- it's a feeling of absolute helplessness.

Di, you HAVE TO KNOW that that dear woman's life was better because you were in it. Don't blame yourself for anything. You gave of your soul and a lot of people don't.

I'll say a quiet prayer for her tonight. And for you, too, sugar. BIG HUGS. And love.

Barb http://img.photobucket.com/albums/v9...sad-candle.gif

Hi Di
 

Hi Di,

You have to know my thoughts and prayers are with you and the family of this disturbed patient.

I understand as a nurse, that you have this crushing feeling I too have felt this when one of my patient dies. It is not your faullt by any means and you have no control over mental disease, not tht this makes it any easier......let the feeling out by having a good cry. get a box or two of tissues and a good box of chocolates and sit and let it out.......I use a sad movie and then it all comes out (the Notebook works well for me)....not to give you advice, only shareing my own....but then I guess I am giving advice to help heal your heart. You only have one and it must contine despite the devestation....DO NOT confuse this with me belittling the situation.....as I am not I have every sympathy as I have been on the brink of suicide and have tried to commit suicide at 18. it is not easy and she must have been suffering greatly....not your fault again.......

Take solace in our prayers and support and let it out girl.....we care and are here for you.

hugs and sending boxes of tissues and really really good chocolate....belgin.

Victoria

hugs
 

i am so sorry to hear this bad news. i think the key word is schizophrenic, i don't think anyone who does not have this disorder can really understand the reality she lived in. it is so hard on the program when suicide occurs despite all the help, and there are no easy answers. i just try to think of the people who are truly helped and who improve. take care of yourself and hug your loved ones extra tight.

Di,
Sorry to hear about that client and do hate to say it but if she was intent on commiting the action there is nothing really that you could have done. Give me a call if you want to talk about it !!! I am and will be awake, so after dropping Katie off @ school feel free !

Talk to you later ... Mark-n-Goober

My heart is heavy for you. I am sure you made this woman's life better while she was here.
monkee

My thoughts are with you and her family and friends.. May God comfort everyone through these difficult times..
((Hugs))
Dawn

((((Hugs))))

my thoughts and heartfelt prayers forher famliy and those she left behind.

di, there is a wonderful group on survivors of suicide here. lots of help and support. they may have ideas to help with the kids. and yourself.

suicide or even an attempt follows generations. as much help as they can get the better. reaching out like you did.

I know you care so deeply, for so many.
Thoughts and prayers for you and her family.

Thank you
 

To All,
Thanks for the supportive thoughts, prayer and thoughts.
When I was working in law enforcement I experienced, finding and investagating deaths of victims. At the time you deal with it seems almost removed. Like you are dreaming and its a horror film you will wake up from, or a studio set that is just fake, surreal.

The gal was in volved in our visitation program as a family. we did not have counciling or treat her problems, but found her to be a loving parent and caring for her child.
I wasn't there last week, but the staff noticed a change, best expressed as closed and quiet, did not want to talk to anyone.

From my work, I know the cases that succeed do not ask for help, they do'nt want it, they have made the decision and will go through without reaching out.
My greatest heartache is the family left behind and devestation of a nightmare come real.

We have meeting today, I am leaving shortly.
The hugs you all sent helped a lot.
Di

Di..
 

I hope the meeting offered you some solace as well as some encouragement to keep working with these precious people who so desperately need your help! You have so much to offer to these dear ones who are in such painful emotional places.

I am so grateful that you have a heart for these dear ones that so many others would rather not involve themselves with. It is heart wrenching when something like this happens to all those that are left behind. I am sure your client was unable to see that her action would cause all of those around her such pain.

I pray she is able to be at peace now, and that her family and friends will also find the comfort and encouragement that they will need at this time.

I also pray that God will give you the strength and wisdom to help them pick up the pieces and continue on. And I also pray that God will shower you with blessings for your love and concern for "the least of these."

((Hugs upon Hugs Sweet Di! ))
G~

Di, what a terrible situation. I don't know what to say that hasn't already been said.

Prayers for the family, the patient and the supportive caregiver(s).
((((hugs))))
Anne

Di,

What a heartbreaking situation - you must be emotionally drained! I'm sure Katie will be happy to give unlimited hugs, and those are probably the best thing for you right now. Take care of yourself, spend time with your family, get the men to fill that hot tub for you!

Sending prayers for the child and family left behind, that they find help and healing from this loss. And for you, for emotional strength and courage to carry on helping make lives a little better for children and families, while recognizing that not all want or know how to ask for help they desperately need. And for the mom, that she is at peace and at home with the Lord.