Holes in My Sidewalk
 

I love this Alffe!!!!
{{{HUGS}}}

Providential timing on this simple yet profound post.

Thank you!

kinda like serendipity? :D You're welcome!

I like this one.

a reminder....

Alffe -- maybe 12 or 20 months ago I took a copy of this to my domestic abuse counselor. She likes it as much as I do.

Thanks for the reminder once again! The first time I saw this ... was during that first year I left my marriage... was very timely then...

and still is!

:rolleyes:

And this ties in so well with the other thread about the treehouse. We have to work at not letting this 'become' us, but recognize it for what it is and then move on. It's there...but you don't have to let it become you and part of your daily headline news.

Thanks (((Ms. Alffe))). You take such good care of us. :) :hug:

Alffe
 

Thanks love it first time ive read that you r good to us all cally:hug:

Bumping up for those who haven't read it. :grouphug:

I just love you, Alffe! :hug:

I wanted to bump this up again. So timely.

Yup, it's so true. Too bad we can't figure it out after we fall in the hole the first time! :hug:

I love this passage (and a "passage" it is indeed)
 

Dear Alffe

I've been familiar with this for years... I still love to read it over again from time to time. Thanks! :)

~ waves ~

Dear Doody

ROFLOLOL... No kidding! Despite all my tumbles into the pit and years of therapy, I am still not able to skip the rest and go straight to step 5! :o:rolleyes: :hug::hug:

~ waves ~

lol lol lol ...... oh, I do figure it out after the first fall. I KNOW there's a deep hole right there. And I know if I just try a bit harder, walk a little bit better, improve my step and attention I can manage that hole. :o

lol..it's hard when we have "blinders" on...self preservation..:o

And removing those precious blinders can be a pretty painful and surprising process.

Oh My!
 

You guys are way over my head!!! :eek:

I must have double blinders on ... as well as a large brimmed hat and dark cloak! :cool::o

~ waves ~

But, to be able to clearly see where we have been, be it a dark hole or a "prison" takes enormous courage....your lion roared! :grouphug:

We all know better than that young lady! You can't hide your light. :hug:

hey Alffe
 

Awwww, that's sweet Alffe! :hug:

I just meant that I haven't learned to step around the hole... even when I see it coming... and I don't always see it coming (that's what the hat and cloak were about). LOL! :o;)

~ waves ~ in the light... for now :)

When you're in that hole ~waves, remember that it does have sides and your friends are right there, wanting to hold you up. :hug:

sometimes the hole is a secure place..... i did not say a good place, or maybe i should say comfortable ......:(

You got that right. Climbing out of the hole puts you in places you haven't seen for years You are expected to know and do so much and move so fast.
That miserable hole is safer.
Maybe that hole is home?

cloaks, hats, habits... and burkas or bunkers... or am i bonkers?
 

Yes. I know what you both mean. Not only, coming out puts you out where you can be seen... you are exposed... you are vulnerable. Depression easily become a habit.... or multiple habits. And we all know how "habits" are safe and comfortable.

~ waves ~ who seems to have a clothing thing going, between cloaks, hats, and now habits... well at least i didn't say burka which is what i was thinking about.

so many things come to mind..."old habits die hard" is only one of them and now that you've mentioned it, a burka sounds super comfy. :p

Goofy you remain in my prayers and I promise you, it will get better. :hug:

Oh Goofysis... :hug: you have been on my mind! I always know, instinctively, that you are here with us... its just something I feel because I have gotten to know you.

I can't promise you when... but I CAN promise you there will come a day when you can look back at this time and realize how courageous you are!! You are surrounded by love, and like Alffe said, we're holding you here!

I completely understand what you mean when you say the hole is a comfortable place. I tried to have my doctor understand this the other day... and I'm not sure she got it. She's young... and still a young soul.

When things are going good for me, which they really have been this last year, thank you God(dess!)... I keep waiting for my stomach to roll in anxiety... I almost will it to happen... and then my mind turns in circles wondering which "dilemna" I should focus on... to see if "IT" will trigger the anxiety that I have always been so familiar with.

This past year, despite life changing events, I've managed to stay in the moment. Its FEAR that keeps rearing it's ugly UGLY head! I'm sure that's how it is with you dear ((((Goofysis)))))... so many "rock your world" changes for you this year... devastating losses ... and so many unknowns.

You are one brave woman and I am proud to call you friend :hug:

:sing: Addy

time for another bump! :grouping:

Whew ............ a BIG bump......a GIANT bump.

Bumpity bump bump! :grouphug: