What Is Going To Be Different This Year?
 

In the past, I have always considered everyone elses feelings, wants, needs and desires first. I've made it easy for my Family and Friends to put me in a comfy little niche, where the can ignore me, untill they need me.:rolleyes:

This year I will put myself first, for a change, and not let them forget about me. Whether I can participate or not, I wish to be included and not forgotten or put aside. No more nice quiet little gimp. :D

What are you going to do different, this year, to help make your life a little better?

Next......:grouphug:

That sounds like a great plan, Sal! Make some waves this New Year!!!

I'm going to get organized, lose weight, same old stuff. :confused:

No more Ms Nice Guy Crip! DH and kids expect it. Did not share my chocolates from BD with others. They're mine and good and expensive and not a lot of them. I'm tired of sharing and getting nothing back. Went out for lunch on Sunday. Gave none of my ribs away. They were delicious. the corn fritters and fries too.

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well good idea, Taking care of ME will help me take care of the family! I want to get some physical exercise in each day, helps my mood, and body thru this crap!! so either walks or yoga each day... for me!!

and trying to snuggle the kids more, and remember that each day goes by is gone for good, so to focus on the family more than the work stuff from work!! yeahhhhh sarah

Im with sal pal! :D no more Ms Nice girl.

I will no longer put others first. this is the year of ME ME ME! the DH is scared that he is gonna have to do alot more work this year. yep! its coming.

SallyC that is a good plan and you stick to it!!

Last year I did just that. I started putting ME first and it is great. :) Now my family is much better about it.

This year I am working on something for myself again (aren't I the selffish one?). I'm learning how to eat properly. And not just with utensils. :p I'm learning what is good for me to eat, how much to eat and how to eat in moderation. Changes that will stick with me for the long haul. I started this in December and so far so good.

Weight loss...as difficult as it is for me, that's the goal for the year.
Wish I had the nads to demand more help with the inlaws, but I don't...maybe next year?:confused:

I am also going to put me and my health first this year. Last year was a bad year for me. I put everyone and everything before me I would push myself to hard and ignored signals to slow down.

I let people take advantage of me and take me for granted. Not This year Friends. I have grown a back bone. and have learned from my mistakes.

Yep 2010 will be the year for Beth:D;)

Amen!!!:hug:

Kinda like you said, Sal. Not to sound selfish, but me first. Nobody else is gonna comb my hair or do my make up and I'm tired of walking around looking like a Halloween decoration.

I'm more important than the dust bunnies, the dirty clothes, the dishes. Maybe there's not much I can do about the pain, but if I can't feel all that great, at least I can try to look presentable even if just for me.

I'm going to put myself together every day, unless I don't feel like it. Gonna feed myself decent food, make my surroundings nice, pleasant to look at, functional for me and peaceful for me and my pets. Prioritize, me, then the critters, and everything else after that.

Inject a little fun into the day whether it's a good show, a good book, a good talk on the phone. When it's nice out, I'm going out, not stuck here cleaning, fixing, painting, working.

:o

I want to lose that 20lbs I gained last year, but it's not gonna be easy. I keep living by the *No Carb left behind* motto.

:D

Aren't mothers and wives wonderful??? I want one. No wait. Mine is dead and now I'm the wife. We tidy, give the last morsel of food to others (kids think I must be stupid, the way I give the good stuff up and stupidly do without or choose the bad, at 17 DD is started to look at me unbelievingly), we tidy and fuss, clean linens and towels to others, etc. No more!!!! MS has made me less tolerant, I really need what I need. When I ask, DH calls it nagging. I think I quit. He makes tasty meal full of grease and creams and thinks my bottom is spreading in this chair. Well Duh!!!! Any correlation you think?

Kicker - my dh still doesn't get a lot of things either. We went to a really nice restaurant. He wanted to try wine with dinner, but for some reason, didn't want to do so alone.

I don't drink wine - bad for migraines. He knows this, or should by now. He mentions wine a couple times - and this is not the first time, while I was in FL with him. I decline again. Finally I just calmly said "It's been a long time since I got kicked out of anyplace - you want it to be here? You want to start something?"

I don;t start it, but I will finish it. I almost got us *removed* from a nice steak house a few years ago.

:D

*Stop telling me what I want to eat already!*

I know I need some "me" time each day as does dh and Mom. I called a family meeting and we all discussed our needs.

DH likes to nap after lunch while the tv is on in the living room, Mom likes to have quiet time to read in her room after breakfast and I like to do my exercises in the morning by myself and have a while to read after lunch.

We all have these times to ourselves and we all respect each others needs for time alone as well as family time.

So far it's working. :cool:

Fiber -- lots of fiber:D!

Like you said SalPal "meeeeeeeeee"

Last year was not a good one. With the buying of the house and remodeling, it was supposed to only take 8 weeks, it went to 9 months.

Yes just like having a new baby. Even with the contractors, I let them walk all over me, and my DS & DDIL lived their life and because I didn't complain, thought everything was going all right with me.
It was fun cooking in a small section with a toaster oven, micro, and a
electric wok they thought I could use. I have had it with keeping my mouth
shut. This year the big mouth is on a role.

I already started with christmas, when my niece wanted to come and
spend a couple of days with her 1/2 sister and two teenage boys. Can't do that. Come when you are heading back to Fla. without the boys and only
for a short time. It worked!!! I only made a pot of Pea Soup from the ham
bone left over from christmas, anything else, you are on your own to help make.

I have gained so much weight from over eating, do that when I am stressed. Going to change, have to get rid of the stress. No more spending
money for things on the family going to spend it on meeee.

The one thing I do want to do and it is for everyone

GOING TO SAY "I LOVE YOU" more often. Life is too short.

Jappy :grouphug:

That's why I like you, you're full of juice!!!!!

Another Amen..:hug::hug:

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Good for you!

Doesn't it seem like we ALL have been through the same thing?

We all prided ourselves on jumping through hoops for everyone for all those years.


Well, no more circus poodles here!

;)

I'm a mother hen...always have been so it's hard for me not to just automatically say "let me do it" or "here, I'll help you".

I have two grown sons. Two men. I am a 49 year old woman with MS. Is this balanced? I don't think so. But.....I've created my own monster and I cannot expect everyone to be on board with my changes immediately. It's gonna take some time but I've got nothing better to do! I have the time!

I've explained to them that I am on a mission to save as much money as I can. My LTD will not last forever. Do they want to support me when it runs out and I'm left with not enough to cover my monthly expenses? I think not. And I don't want that either! :eek:

This year I'm not going to be so quick to jump to the rescue of everyone else. Maybe I need to be rescued sometimes. :cool:

Hello my dear Sallypally!! Since I don't make NR's resolutions anymore, I was thinking that what I really need is to try and have a more positive attitude in general.
I despise Winter and cold weather really does a number on me both physically and mentally, but since there's not a darn thing I can do about it right now, I've decided that I can and should find something positive about it.

Today it is bitter cold out, there's a snow storm coming our way, BUT hey~~the sun was out and that's something to be happy about. eh?? I'm still trying to convince myself that I can do this. :rolleyes:

Tomorrow is another day and doggonit~ I'm going to find something positive in it. Hey, what can I say~ I'm a work in progress. :)

Hey DaisyMay/ WIMP(work in much progress), that's what's great about negative days.....it's much easier tO recognize the Positive, when you see it. :D

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I used to do that too, step in and try to help. but have been standing back and letting them figure things out lately.

I said something to my 20 y/o dd to the effect: I think I gave you the false impression that you NEED me. You're really quite capable, look at you. :cool:

It's you're brother we're not too sure about!

:D

I've convinced every one I hold the Universe together. Now it's hard to tell them I don't really. When I taught ED kids, my job was to hold the universe together when their worlds exploded. But now I'm tired, I can't do that anymore. DH not what become I expected (or he expected of me) in new normal. Neither one of us signed up for this. But it's not going to change.

Hey Salpal~ OK, this kind of goes along w/my earlier post. I kept my PT appt today, as knew the weather was only going to get worse as the day wore on, so as I was pulling back into my driveway, I got out of my vehicle to check the mailbox.

It was snowing and totally white out, but I looked up and there in the sky was a fuzzy, dull looking sun w/a halo around it. The SUN was poking through during a snowstorm! I just stood there looking up & getting covered in snow. I had a few honks, but I'm sure they were just trying to say ''Hey You!!! Get outta the darn snowstorm"!!!

Granted, the sun was only out for a couple of minutes, BUT write this on the wall....

DM had day #2 of making the best out of a bad day.... I smiled, I felt positive and even though it's still snowing~~ I saw the SUN.

DM - :cool:

I wanted to get outta the house, but stayed in due to the snow. Luckily, I got an email from a friend, made my day! YAY for staying in!

:)