Whinge Time...
 

Hi all,

Well, I'm having a bit of a flare at present, hands, both arms and neck - the big RSD/RSI/stenosis/spondylosis/arthritis combo.... and apart from being painful, it makes me fearfully grumpy and bad-tempered :mad:

So I'm going to take this opportunity to have a whinge about two things which drive me to distraction....

I have to remove all the labels in the neck of my tops, they scratch, itch, sting...can't wear 'em! Is it me or is it me, but are they getting harder and harder to unstitch? Are the labels themselves made out of scratchier material, and the thread they use stronger? Almost impossible to unpick without ruining the garment...aaaarghhh, drives me nuts.

And the other thing is those sticky price labels they clap on everything you buy; I think shops should be made to remove them before you take the goods home - the glue they're using is super-strength, you need lighter-fuel to remove them and I just haven't got the dexterity in my fingers anymore to manage it.

Grrr bah humbug harrumph ... anyone else got any pet peeves?
all the best :Sigh:

Those price labels drive me up the wall!!! those and how impossible it is to get into packaging these days. You pretty much need a laser cutter to open some things.

Although, at the moment, my largest pet peeve is when you make an effort to call someone on the phone, and you politely leave a nice voicemail. And they NEVER call back. Ever. And im not saying you need to call me back immediately, but if i took the 2 minutes to call and leave a message it usually isnt just cuz i wanted to chat about the weather. I think this is basically directed at a certain boy i know who lately has turned into quuuuuuiet a jerkfaceloser.

and people who TEXT MESSAGE while driving. That makes me crazy. if you have to use both hands to write someone a little message, please dont do it while your driving. its not a smart idea people. really, honestly it isnt. im not a fan of phone calls while driving, but reading and writing messages cannot be safe.

:)
anna

Hi Girls,
 

The lids on jars drive me nuts. Bill always took them off for me. He did buy me a jar lid remover that works good on most jars but not on some. There are times I have to wait to eat something I want until one of the kids comes over to remove the lid.

I agree with Anna on getting things open. They make those medication bottle lids that are kid safe that we can't get open.

Anna again on the phone calls. Nothing makes me madder then for me to call someone and they don't bother to return my call. I think it's one of the rudest things out there. I have several friends that beg me to call them and still never return my call. I finally quit calling them.

Using cellphones while they are driving. Haven't they made that against the law YET?

The labels in the clothes, Artist, I cut out. I hate them too but I know I might tear the clothes if I try and take the thread out. I cut as close to the material as I can without cutting the item. I hate them too.

I agree on the stick on labels also. They are cut into 4 so you have to get a tiny piece off at a time and it's very hard to do.

*****, *****, *****, that's all I do. LOL

Ada

i hate cell phones...........
 

they should make it a law here in michigan to not be allowed to talk on the cell phones....so many times you see people yakking away, and not paying attention to the road...............

this cold weather is my biggest peeve right now tho.........i want some nice warm sunshine..............send it to michigan...........

i also hate rude people.........they seem oblivious to being rude................i would never intentionally hinder someone or be rude to them...............

Tags!!
 

I feel ya about the clothing tags. I do like Ada and cut them as close to the neckline as possible. That is the very first thing I do to any new clothes, remove all tags!!

We are getting ready to have a major rain event here, something like a week straight!! :eek:

Man that really gets the aches and pains in high gear!

Hope you get to feelin better. :hug:

It's 60 here today and the suns shining. Miracles do happen. LOL

I too hate rude people. I have often wondered how a person couldn't know they were being rude if it's unintentional.

I'm the same 99% of the time and I know you are to gramma. I like to be around people that have a good disposition all or at least 99% of the time. I won't even stay friends with a rude person if they can't change.

Ada

Hey Claudia,

Does that "never intentionally rude" rule apply to bill collectors? Could my wife have been right? Was it my bad to say those things to him? So many bill collectors, I have no idea who I may have offended, how can I possibly make it up to him?

Nevermind...Vic

Very funny, Vic, you'll just have to send them a bunch of flowers with a nice note :p

Ada - jar opening trick, usually works - get the jar in both hands and smack the edge of the lid smartly on the floor, you'll hear a pop, then it should open.

And hey, using cellphones while driving has even been outlawed here, unless it's with a headset....

Cutting off labels leaving a little bit still attached just makes it more intolerable for me, always been sensitive in the neck area and sometimes get a rash reaction...so the whole thing has to come off. (Yeah, got quite a few clothes with little holes in the material at the back of the neck ;) ) c'est la vie...

all the best.

A list....

people that when you say you have RSD go ..................so, why can't you walk?

people that look at me as if I'm brain damaged or learning disabled when I'm out.

I hate tags, labels, pockets, drawstrings, elastic on sleeves and short legged pants.

people that aren't disabled that park in disable bays

health and safety idiots that refuse to let you have any fun and try and create rules banning people carrying me around.

disabled toilets which are too small to get in to

why tablets have to taste so ming. Why tablets can't be made in either a liquid form or any other form. (mine can't be got in liquid).

idiotic bars that don't have straws on tap

forward opening pull doors.... which idiot thought of that?

why toast always falls butter side down

traffic wardens

will be more.....

Why I have NO BRAIN AND AM SOO DUMB

Great thread :)

Rxxxxxxxxxxx

ideas that sometimes work
 

jars
 

Ada...
You can usually open a jar lid easily with a screw driver. Very gently, put just the very tip of the flat end of the screwdriver under the very edge of the jar lid up at the area where the threads are. You want the edge of the blade of the screwdriver to be square to the lid so that the whole blade is under the lid, not just a corner. Then, just slightly - gently now - twist the screwdriver just a little to the left or right until you hear the seal break on the lid... a tiny little "pop" should be heard ... Remove the screwdriver and 9 times out of 10 the lid will then be easily opened.

You can also try putting the tip of a bowl of a spoon under beside the little tab like thing that's on the bottom of the lid and prying just a bit to break the seal.. but the screwdriver is much easier.

You just have to be really careful not to twist to much, or the lid will be to warped to seal back ON.... and not to twist so much that you take a chance on breaking the glass, or cracking it. It only takes a very slight amount.

Jules

hey vicc.....
 

bill collectors and doctors are exempt from US being rude to them.........they usually start it, and then, hey the game is on....................lafffff

i just mean how people stand in the way, not giving an inch, being loud and crude, (for no reason) etc........or just plain hurtful.............

thanks coach for the tips on tags.............they too drive me nuts, especially if i try to cut a part out..............

that is a good one too about talking louder to you when you use your cane........so funny...wonder why they do that?///

great thread............................i will bring the cheese so we can all enjoy the whines..................

Hey, Ada....I have my pharmacist put in my file "easy open lid only" cuz I can't get the childproof lids open either. And I then keep then in my dresser drawer :)

As for the lids on jars. HINT: If you take a steak knife, and take the pointy end and stick it under the lip of the jar, then pull out, so you are pulling the lid away from the jar kinda...and do this around the edge in about 3-4 places, it will loosen the jar so it just unscrews really easy...and it will still screw on securely :)

Vic, I have found that with Bill Collectors or telemarketers, asking them if they take foodstamps gets them off the phone right quick :cool:

Ooooh! But I LOVE pennies. Any type of change really. I save my change. All of it. I have over $1200 in silver, and I don't know how much in pennies, but about 1/3 of one of those tall plastic coke bottle banks is filled so far. See....I'm going to use it for my dream vacation one day. You'd be surprised how much change you accumulate in a month! Try it! You don't miss it, really, and it comes in truly handy!

Just take those pennies and dump them into a coffee can, and I bet one day you'll have enough to buy yourself a grand surprise. That will change your mind about those dirty little things! :wink:

OOOooHHHH this is fun!!!
 

The first one that made me REALLY LAUGH HARD was the doors that pull open!! Who came up with that idea!!??!! :Scratch-Head:

Then the NO PROBLEM instead of "Your'e welcome" or "My pleasure". What is happening to graciousness and courtesy in this world???

I guess that ties into the not returning phone calls, or being rude to people on the phone pet peeve.

I have noticed that some of the clothing manufacturer's are "stamping" labels into clothes now to avoid scratachy tags. For instance JJill, Target, Kohl's and Mervyns are stamping them in to tops, Some underwear companies are doing this as well.

Kudos to all for the tips on removing labels, lids and the like!! :Good-Post:

Gromlily ~ :)

Btw LisaM !!
 

Is that little cutie on your avatar a lab?? :Excited:

G ~ :)

My little pooch
 

This is Dolly.

Nope - that's my Tucker! He's my golden. I have a Lab, too, though. That would be Josie. I attached a pic of her - she's SOLID muscle and when she wags her tail her whole BODY wags (so we have to put things up high when we let her in the house or it's like a tornado tail comes thru! :) !

Oh, and I have also attached another picture of Tucker now that he's grown a bit. He is coming up on his second birthday :D

Would you like to see Phoenix or Jessie or Bailey or Bud? Bud is my dragon. He was my valentines day gift last year (and yes, that IS what I asked for LOL!)

Allen, what did you do to that poor thing?????

The rudest people I don't like, are those who KNOW you are coming in the door right behind them, and they just walk in and let the door go. That happened to me at the gas station this morning and you get so used to people holding the door until you get there to take it, that you aren't prepared for the one in a million who let it go. This "gentleman" just let it go, and I just about busted my face on the door! LOL!

And wouldn't you know it, he and I BOTH needed coffee refills, so we were both standing at the coffee station next to each other. Did he think, perhaps, that I was going to drink it all up so there'd be none left for him????

He was wearing a scarf, and I felt like tucking it into the little swinging trash lid that was between us when he wasn't looking, so when he turned to walk away, he'd be suddenly stopped and jerked off balance,
:Slip: coffee flying everywhere, and land on his rear. :p
But then I figured that would make me just as rude as him.

It was a way to kill time on my hour and a half ride to work though...imaging the different manners in which he would have fallen, :thud: the different looks on his face...kind of in a cartoon way, ya know. I take my evilness out in my head, that way it's not taken out in person or in public. LOL!

Meanest dog
 

I have ever owned! That little hairless has bit more people than my lab, chow, and any other dog I have ever owned. You gotta watch your toes around her LOL :eek:

The little ankle biter makes everyone run in fear! It is soooo funny watching grown people panic at this puny little dog. All you have to do is face her, and she will back off, but if you run, oh my she gets ferocious!

LOL!!!

What frustrates me is when, for example, I can't run to keep up with people, they go "Come on, slow poke!" When I explain that it hurts to run (walk....stand.....exist), they say, "Well, you look fine." or "You could walk yesterday." or..my favorite...."If it hurts, why aren't you in a wheelchair?"

Argh!!

(BTW - I'm new to the boards, and I promise I won't complain all of the time, but I really loved reading this thread! Somehow, it made me feel so much better! :) )

Thanks for the ideals on the jar opening. Another ways works sometimes is to turn the jar upside down on the burner of the stove and heat it a little and it pops off sometimes, not always though.

I really get stressed when I can't open something. Like chip bags, or other bags that are suppose to pop open when you pull on them. I keep a pair of sissors in the kitchen now for bags I can't open.

As far as the doors. I can't believe how hard they make some of the doors open. You can't even pull them open. I find it hard to believe Goodwill stores have doors that we can't open. I complained at a tire shop once and they fixed to open easier.

People are ruder nowadays. I always say I'm from the old school where you were taught to treat people as you want to be treated. That is not the case nowadays. Not even in department or grocery stores.


Another pet peeve of mine is people playing favortisim. I hate that wheather it's in a family, job or a group. I came from a family of ten and I saw less favortism in my family then in the modern families of 2 or 3 kids. I hate to see people favor one kid over another or one employee over another. I don't get it.

Ada
Ada

People think too much that if you look fine you must be doing fine! Argh... If only they knew the pain! It is hard for anyone to understand (not here!) what it is like to live in pain 24/7. Well, they think if you look fine, you must BE fine. Not at all. I DON'T WANT to LOOK sick or un-well. I want to look good. Even if I don't feel well!

Totally IHH./ broadway babe.....

I hate that "but you look so much better"

.........Unfortunatly you managed to miss the fact that I was up all night, had tears this morning and then decided to try and hide the pain because I want to try and get on with my life. They don't realise that just because you wear makeup or try to dress in more that jump suits it doesn't mean that it doesnt hurt. just cos I don't scream it doesn't mean that I don't need to.

Love

Rosie xxxxxxxxxxxxx

Thanks. :hug:

Yeah... people don't see me crying my eyes out on a HORRIBLE day (well, my therapists and family do)... or crying in the middle of the night, getting no sleep because of the pain, etc, etc, etc. No one knows who isn't you; other than fellow RSD'ers.

Of course. We want to look "normal" even though we never feel it.:Crazy 2:

Sometimes people have good intentions and really do care. So try and remember that. Even though it makes me crazy when people try and offer their advice, try and tell me that they "tore a muscle" and know the pain... etc... :rolleyes:

The other day a man at the PT place I go to told me that he understood... and he was telling me about his stiff/ frozen shoulder... and that he had been coming to PT for 3 WEEKS. (And I have gone for 4 months so far...:p).

I try to just laugh... so I don't scream. Between the pain, no sleep, the comments, etc...

Well intentioned people. Try to not let them get the best of you. They don't understand; they can't; they may never! They think they do... let them think so! :)



:grouphug: Hugs to you all! :grouphug:

Hey IHH

Sorry it's just one of those days where nothing anyone can say will make me feel better - I'm just fed up with this.

Usually I'm ok - I have the possy, I have my other mates etc etc but I just want to be normal - I'm fed up of not being able to do anything. Fed up with deterioating, fed up with always being too tired, in too much pain, unable to focus or think. Fed up that I can barely move anyway and am losing even more movement now. Fed up that no one is ever going to understand what I live with, fed up that one of the boys touched my leg and it still feels like it is going to kill me, fed up that because he forgot the level of pain I (we) live with every day because i don't look like i'm in pain I will spend the rest of the night in tears. And then I will be expected to get up again and be "normal" and "happy" and repair the make up and pretend the pain doesn't exist again.

I know my mates care..... I just don't know how to accept their care. I don't want pity. I WANT to be NORMAL...... I know they try the best they can to empathise with me, to understand what it is to live in my life.... a place where your body screams silently 24/7, where freedom is pretty much reliant on your peripheral vision and your imagination....

Oh well.. tomorrow is another day!

Love

Rosie xxxxxx

My turn
 

Well for me it is the doctors. I wouldnt even be in this predicament if it wasnt for the stoopid doctor mistake, and all he said was ooop's! After he denied everything, then cussed me real good.

Then all the others that followed kept telling me there was nothing wrong, it is all in my head!! :mad:

After 4 years, and a few doctors, finally one tells me " has anyone ever told you your disabled? " That is when I found out it is RSD! Just a little late to do anything about it!

Here lately they decide not to accept my insurance, and I spend a month in withdrawals. Now that is over, the pain is back with a vengeance, and I am looking for a doctor that wont fall asleep on me!!! Snoring from a doctor is soooooo rude!!

After dealing with all the freakin stoooopid doctors, people cant even get close to my hot buttons cause I know they dont know any better. I guess neither do the doctors :Speechless:

Here is a good letter to the families/ friends of RSD folks:
http://www.rsdhope.org/Showpage.asp?...1&PGCT_ID=2953

This is going to sound SO wrong, but....I love this place. Seriously.
I can finally actually talk to people about this sort of thing that understand!

In fairness to the situation, I must point out that my father spent most of his life in pain - he was born with a congenital problem which meant that he had to have his left hipbone removed at birth, and he had lots of skeletal problems throughout his life. At 45, he had a hip replacement, and now lives essentially pain-free, for which I thank God.

I also thank God that I had someone in my life who could begin to understand what it's like to live with constant pain. However, even he can forget, and for everyone else - Dad limped, and still does. It's obvious that he's disabled. Unless I'm having a REALLY bad day, I try not to limp because it doesn't help, and because my left leg is beginning to deteriorate from overuse.
It's a catch-22...if I limp, people will see that I have a problem (which most of the time I wouldn't really like anyway), but then I'll have a worse problem.

If I don't limp, I get the "person in perfect health" scenario.

Frogga, do I understand by your signature that you are also a student? If yes, hooray! If not, hooray anyway!

:I-Agree: Good post, BroadwayBaby! I totally agree. :)



LisaM, your doggies are ADORABLE!! Especially your Golden Retriever. Aww... :) I have a 2 1/2 yr. old Golden, and his name is Sammy. He is a loveable sweetheart. He makes me feel better some days. Pets are good that way. Well, then they do some things that really irk you... but then they have the sweetest look... ;)

Hey BB

Yeh, I'm now 21 and in university (studying psychology) - it's abit different cos I live in the UK.

I agre with both of you - it's great being able to talk to other people with this!

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Aw, thank you IHH! Tucker is the joker of the bunch. If we're ever in a bad mood, Tucker can ALWAYS make you feel better. About him, we say, "He just does FUNNY STUFF!" that's the only way to explain him. And if there's a lap to be found, well, he's in it! He weighs almost 100lbs, but he'd rather be in your lap. If you're standing, he's leaning against your legs with all his weight. LOL! We have 5 dogs all together. We love each and every one of them.

Story behind that is that me and my SO were obviously made for each other. We met on match.com, see, and he had 3 female dogs. I had 3 male dogs. We ended up moving in together, and when we did, we had the "Four Legged Variety" of the Brady Bunch. But then I lost my Riley - who was another Golden Retriever, when he was just 3 years old. He had epilepsy VERY bad, with seizures daily - sometimes upwards of 5 a day. I did everything I could to save him...but in the end, God wanted him, I guess. I think that's the only time in a very, very long time I got drunk. My SO was shocked when, thru my tears I asked him to get me a beer. Then 3 minutes later I handed him the empty bottle and asked him for another...and 3 minutes later, another...and so on and so on. And I don't drink AT ALL, so you can imagine how toasted I was. That's not me. It broke my heart in a million pieces.

Here is my Riley's memorial page.

http://www.canine-epilepsy.com/Memorial2004.htm - Scroll down the page to the golden retriever "Riley" and that is my baby. I still miss him :( I got my Tucker just before Riley passed away. Oh, wow...that means Tucker will be 3! The age Riley was when he passed! Awwwwww!

Sorry...can you tell I love talking about my puppies??? LOL!

LisaM,
 

I can tell you love your pups. That is great. :)

Thanks for telling me about your babies. Hard to believe you let that 100 lb. dog sit on ya! :D :D Big baby! :)

AWW! Riley is beautiful. I'm so sorry, Lisa! I know how hard it is to lose a dog. :hug:

Hey Lisa and IHH

Your pups are gorge!!!! I can identify with losing Riley :(

I used to have 2 white alsations and 6 cats..... We rescued the dogs from a shelter whenn they were 8 and 10. When we got them they had been badly abused, didn't know how to live in a house, cryed if you weren't with them, and were petrified of being fussed in case we beat them up. We worked so hard to get them socialised (imagine one 100pound dog and someone in a wheelchair at dog training! it's bad!)

But Fatpig died about 6 months ago from throat cancer and I was gutted - I still miss him today.. when I was really sore he'd come up to my room and just "hmph" at me... he was just so cute.......... (and about 100pounds as well... but he thought he was much thinner than that and would get into bed with my sis or my mum at night... (he was taller when he sat down that i was when I was sitting in my wheelchair!!) - but we have been left with Booboo (Fatpigs "SO") and 5 cats (we lost yimbo)

Losing an animal is dreadful - losing fattypoos was the worst thing ever, the whole family went into mourning over him.. especially when we buried his ashes under a rose tree next to yimbo's...

But, I wouldn't be without them!

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for my friend :hug:
http://i79.photobucket.com/albums/j1...d/brownies.jpg

i am so sorry for your pain.

Aw thanks, sweetie, better now after my choccy cake :)
all the best!