Just a sad day, could use a prayer
 

:hug: DiMarie

my prayers are lifted for you.

we love you:grouphug:

Cheri

:hug:

awww sweety...you have my love and lots of prayers.

tell us a funny story about de from grade school. i know my kiddo's don't think all the things they did or said were funny at the time, but we sure do now.

one of the funny things i remember about my brother from 6th grade. he was the shortest. and hyper. oh my goodness could that boy drive a teacher and his class nuts. he had the most awesome teacher that year.

when she could sense that he was ansy and gonna cause trouble...she send him out to go run around the playground. lol. i would see him from my classroom...running and running. it sure worked. he got straight a's. he ended up being 6 ft tall. :)

there will be days like this. i know. but many of us understand and will always be here for you. i'm really sorry about your x. it's just the way some people are. they will never change. all we can do is pray for them and not let them bourdon our hearts.

Di, I suppose you will have many up and down times for quite awhile. Such a long time of the care given and now an abrupt change and the loss of De.
we are here to listen and help if we can, we always care about you.
:hug: :grouphug:

Di,
I am so sorry that your heart is empty and broken. It always seems that the weeks and months that follow sometimes can be the hardest. The house is empty and our everyday busy trips and visits are no longer there. Maybe if you can just try to stay busy that might help you out a little.
Your so sweet and I know how everyone here wants to help you heal..
Your in my prayer that your heart will heal with time and your emptiness will be filled with wonderful memories and busy moments.
Many gentle hugs my dear friend.. :hug:
We do all Love you.. :grouphug:
Dawn

Dear Di,

I am so sorry you are having a rough time. My heart and prayers go out to you. We all adore you so much and want to help in anyway we can. I know the emptiness is hard. Give yourself some time to grieve and heal. We are here for you.

Sending hugs your way:grouphug:

Di, my prayers and thoughts will be on you today. You will come through this.

:hug:
Anne

Dianne,

I found this short music/pictures and I hope it gives you some escape from the burdens you carry.
You are the rock that your family looks to and that is a hard place to be when you are sick yourself.
God bless you for your efforts and hard work.

www.takingabreather.com

Love,

Martha

My thoughts are with you Di
 

Only time will truly help, not heal, but help lessen the pain of your loss. We are all here for you whenever you need us! One thing you might try is a massage - human touch is so very comforting right now, and massage seems to release some of the strain and sorrow we keep bottled up. Don't be surprised or embarrassed if you start crying - it's very healing!

And please try to eat and rest even though you may not feel like it - your body needs it. Ask your Dr about adjustments or additions to meds for sleep/anxiety if need be. You still have so much on your plate, you can't continue to do all of it if you don't care for yourself first.

Sending e-hugs and prayers for comfort, strength and peace, plus

all my love, beth

Hi Di,
 

I know what you are going through each day. It seems like it has gotten worse for me instead of better. I must have came out of the shock that everyone says we go through at the beginning.

I see Bill outside in his teeshirt working in the yard at times, I thought he was standing over me in bed night before last. I can still remember how he laid in bed at night and how he was always throwing his arms or leg over me but then he'd say he knew he couldn't stay like that because it hurt me too much.

The last picture we took of him was 2 days before he died. He had gotten a deer and him and Susan were goofing around in the dining room and he put the antlers up to his head and she took a picture of him looking like a deer. The man had a sense of humor that never stopped.

I know exactly what you are going through. He would leave for an hour and he'd stop over at Susan's on the way home and call me to talk to me.

I worry about Susan because he called her 20 times a day. He would ask her what she was doing and she would say the same thing I was when you called 20 minutes ago.

He would pull jokes on the boys all of the time. I think that's why Devin is having the hardest time. He would get so mad and yell for me to make Grandpa leave him alone. He wouldn't leave them alone for a minute. It was like having 3 kids in the house. Travis would call over here and ask me if all three of the kids were behaving.

It's like we have so many little memories of our loved ones that are like a movie playing in our mind.

I kept wishing I could get well sooner so we could start doing more together. I knew we didn't have long after his last stay in the hospital. I just really worked hard the last year of making it good for him.

We just never know. I cry for you and De and I only hope that you start seeing better days. It takes time but I keep wondering how much. I can't even get out of bed of the morning anymore. He was my reason for getting up.

As far as support, it doesn't matter how much people try to support you, it doesn't do the job. I have my sisters and brothers calling me every other day, Susan and Travis check on me constantly, my best friends call me every day and there are days I can't even pick up the phone, I'm so depressed.

I am very thankful for those people in my life but it doesn't fill the void. I'm sorry that you don't have more support. If I lived near you I would be talking your ear off and maybe that would get us both through this.

My boys are here tonight and I have to fight back tears so as not to get them upset. I have pictures hanging everywhere of Bill for Devin. He asked me to put up more. it's nice but it's a reminder.

My prayers are with you and I hope and pray that God can get you through this.

All my love,
Ada

Oh Ada, you just brought me to tears. I am so sorry for your loss and Di's.

Many :hug: to you.

DiMarie,
Things are going to be hard for you for awhile- don't be hard on yourself through all of this. I don't think you can ever "get over" the loss of a loved one. Just hopefully it will eventually get a little easier. I can't know what you're going through but just the thought of something happening to my son is just unbearable. But, having a 3 yr. old grandson who is the light of our lives, just like I know yours is too, I think keeping him right now might be a really good thing- nothing like having someone around you who is so full of love and also who loves you and everyone else unconditionally. You may cry lots of tears while you have him but he will bring you happiness too- there's just something about those little guys that can make you feel better, even if it is only for awhile.

Everyone is generous with their hearts...
 

D,
You are on mind mind all the time.
I The only thing I can compare your loss to is
Last year when I was fighting for my life through chemo.
The grandkids kept me going...
They have a special nack of bringing out a smile.

It's ok to grieve
Everyone has their own way
And Di can gireve anyway she wills to, k?
We are all here for you in our hearts and spirit

Sent you something in the mail today
PMing you my # if you need someone to yell at, to cry with, to smile and tell me all the fabulous things De did in her life.
Cyndy

Hi Di,
 

Sweetheart, :hug:

Will you adopt me?? Can I be your sister??? :Security:
I wish I were closer so that I could be the sister you need to lean on!!

Some would call this irony, I like to call this God at work...
just minutes ago I received this message from a dear friend of mine whom I had just shared my Workman's comp. saga with...
she sent this...

A young wife sat on a sofa on a hot humid day,
drinking iced tea and visiting with her Mother.
As they talked about life, about marriage,
about the responsibilities of life and the obligations of adulthood,
the mother clinked the ice cubes in her glass thoughtfully
and turned a clear, sober glance upon her daughter.

"Don't forget your Sisters,"
she advised, swirling the tea leaves
to the bottom of her glass.

"They'll be more important as you get older.
No matter how much you love your husband,
no matter how much you love the children you may have,
you are still going to need Sisters.
Remember to go places with them now and then;
do things with them.
"Remember that 'Sisters' means ALL the women...
your girlfriends, your daughters,
and all your other women relatives too.
"You'll need other women. Women always do."

"What a funny piece of advice!,
the young woman thought.
Haven't I just gotten married?
Haven't I just joined the couple-world?
I'm now a married woman, for goodness sake!
A grownup!
Surely my husband and the family we may start
will be all I need to make my life worthwhile!

But she listened to her Mother.
She kept contact with her Sisters
and made more women friends each year.
As the years tumbled by, one after another,
she gradually came to understand
that her Mom really knew what she was talking about!
As time and nature work their changes
and their mysteries upon a woman,
Sisters are the mainstays of her life.

After more than 50 years of living in this world,
here is what I've learned:

THIS SAYS IT ALL:

Time passes.
Life happens.
Distance separates.
Children grow up.
Jobs come and go.
Love waxes and wanes.
Men don't do what they're supposed to do.
Hearts break.
Parents die.
Colleagues forget favors.
Careers end.

BUT.........

Sisters are there, no matter how much time
and how many miles are between you.
A girl friend is never farther away than needing her can reach.
When you have to walk that lonesome valley
and you have to walk it by yourself,
the women in your life will be on the valley's rim,
cheering you on, praying for you, pulling for you, intervening on your behalf,
and waiting with open arms at the valley's end.
Sometimes, they will even break the rules and walk beside you...
Or come in and carry you out.

Girlfriends, daughters, granddaughters, daughters-in-law, sisters,
sisters-in-law, Mothers, Grandmothers, aunties, nieces, cousins,
and extended family, all bless our life!
The world wouldn't be the same without women,
and neither would I.

When we began this adventure called womanhood,
we had no idea of the incredible joys or sorrows that lay ahead.

Pass this on to all the women
who help make your life meaningful.
I just did. :Heart:


All though this story mentions children growing up and leaving home, and a lot of life's other milestones it doesn't begin to address the devestating grief that you and Ada now know and live with.

I am so, so terribly sorry for both of you, for the unfathomable loss that you both are trying to accept and learn how to live with; the moment to moment coping skills needed to get you through something this grievous are beyond my understanding.

I am so grateful for this community of sisters and brothers I can come to when my Spirit is crushed, and I am so grateful that we can all come here to seek support and understanding.This is a very special place!! :grouphug:

Take care of yourselves Di and Ada, allow yourselves to not be "the rock". You both need to allow yourselves all the feelings you need to feel, all the tears you need to cry, what ever it takes to allow yourselves to grieve this devastating loss; of which only time and healing will slowly and eventually dull the intensity. If you can find a support group that you are comfortable in, or a supportive church group, or women's group that could encourage you and help strengthen you, that could be very be helpful. Maybe they could be "the rock" for the time being...?

I will keep you both in my prayers!!

God Bless,

G ~:circlelove:

Di- I'm working on a photo siggy of De for you - I need to resize it yet

Ok I got it done- well 2 versions actually-
http://i137.photobucket.com/albums/q...4/imagessu.jpg
http://i137.photobucket.com/albums/q...ojo84/de-1.jpg


If anybody would like me to make one for them let me know what kind of background or colors you like.

Di
 

Dear Di,

Althought I can not say I know what you are feeling, I myself have gone through too many tragedies. I have not lost a child, but have lost very close family members. My aunt went through losing two children....I saw first hand what it did to her. You have to grieve each day, one day at a time. Let it come and accept it's going to come. Each day will get a little easier for you in time. I wish there were magic words or pills that could take this pain away, but there isn't. Talk lots, laugh lots at those silly memories and talk to her as if she were by your side each and every day. Let those tears, anger and depression come, don't run away from it. Reach out to those that can help and support you, even if they don't completely understand you pain, having someone to just listen to you will make a difference. I so wish I could do more for you, but am here to lend supportive eyes (reading your throughts) and fingers to hopefully type you back some comforting words.
Rachael

Thanks Jo
 

Thanks Jo, can you pm or email the sig for me.or do I right click on it?
Today was really bad again. I did try so hard, I had to work,. I watched my grandson too.

I have doom and dreed feeling. My oldest is driving actross two states, and I am fretting. Must be normal under the circumstanse,
I just want to hold her so bad.
I am so sorry to be sounding so down, I really am trying. A good portion of the day is OK, but, still lurks the emptiness,

Right click should do it - I'll PM it too.

Di, and Ada...you both are in my prayers. I've never lost a husband or a child, but I did lose my sister and my mom, both of whom lived with us before their deaths.

I guess there's not much I can say, but I can send you a hug...:hug: :hug:

Bless you...

Donna

PS Jo, those are beautiful sigs...

Di,
We've only chatted a few times on the old BT a few years back, but my thoughts and prayers are with you and your family.

Marabunta
Auburn, CA

When one does beleive, it may be the end of today, but the beginning of tomorrow and what is to be shall be glorious... free of pain and suffering.. here for U and all of us here, just ask what I can do!:grouphug:
Mark~n~Goober

Hi Di,
 

I had been thinking about you and hoped that your day was going a little better..
Many Hugs.. :hug: :hug:
:grouphug: Love you
Dawn

Di and Ada,
 

Thinking of both of you. Am hoping that you can go easy on yourselves, and find even tiny glimmers of joy in your daily lives to help pull you through these hard times.

Hugs.

:Wave-Hello:

thinking of you,

:heartthrob:


Johanna

Di,

I am so so sorry about the loss of your daughter. I wish there was something I could say to make it better Just know that I am thinking of you.


Sandy

Wish we could relieve the heartache
 

DiMarie; I am so sorry! God must have needed another angel in heaven.
My prayer's are with you.
:grouphug: Hairdresser

A bit better
 

Why God?
Why God did you have to take her away?
Couldn't you wait, a month, a year a day?

My heart is broken, empty and so sad.
I'm lost feeling helpless and angry and mad.

God spoke, and I heard him clearly say
I haven't taken your child away

I gave you a daughter to love and hold
She became to sick to ever grow old

I have called her home to be with me
So I could cure her and make her well, Do you see?

I knew she needed special parents to care
That's why I sent her to you,You'd always be there

Hi DiMarie,
 

I just put on some makeup so I am trying not to cry but I wanted to say I am hoping you are doing better.

I am going to Devin's basketball game today and I started crying awhile ago about Bill not being with me to go see it. I was talking to him though telling him how proud he would be of those 2 boys. They are straight A students and both are so good in sports that the coaches actually call the house and beg for them.

Devin had a sore throat Monday and Tuesday. He had to miss practice Monday night and the coach called and told Susan if he felt ok they really needed him in Tuesday nights game. They won and he got 18 of the 27 points. Which surprises me because he is so small. He's 12 but he's not taller then most kids nor bigger.

They both got talked into Soccer in March by my Nurse. Her husband is the coach so this will be their 4th year in Soccer and then they both will go in to football this fall. Dustin will be on the High School team and Devin will be on the middle school team. Devin is also in juggling.

Those two are what is keeping me going and it's still hard. I spend so much time alone and I barely leave my bedroom. I had to do this though just once for him. I always try to see at least one of their games.

I am glad you are spending time with family. I can only imagine what you are going through. I am hoping each day brings you a little more peace and happiness.

My thoughts and prayers are with you through this.

Ada

MY HEART AND LOVE GO OUT TO YOU
MANY HUGS AND KISSES, TOO.
THOUGH YOUR LOSS IS BEYOND BLEAK,
MUCH LOVE IS HERE FOR YOU TO SEE.
WE ALL CARE.
WE'RE WELL AWARE THAT YOUR DAUGHTER IS WITH YOU ALL OF THE TIME.
SHE'S IN YOUR HEART , SOUL, AND YOUR BLOODLINE.
SHE'S IN EVERY THOUGHT, EVERY BREATH YOU TAKE.
SHE IS YOUR LOVE AND ALL FOR ALL FOR GOD YOU THANK!!!!

MANY BLESSES TO YOU, SWEETIE. PM ME ANYTIME. WE CAN SPEAK OVER THE PHONE. I AM HERE FOR YOU.:hug: