A Daddy's fear...
 

Friends, it hasn't been fun here in Oswego, IL lately...

Yesterday, we found out that our daughter Holly was a victim of "sexual assult" a couple of weeks go; it happened while I was already attending school, but before her school began. That puts the incident some time in late August... Holly was afraid she'd get into trouble if "she told her parents," but she did share it with her bestest friend, who kept the secret for a while, but it began to keep her awake at night. So, she told her folks, who in turn told my wife Barbara; Barbara called me at school yesterday, and I came home early to deal with the incident.

Apparently, the attacker is a pretty strong dude and a little bit older than Holly; he saw her on her bicycle in our front yard, grabbed her by the jacket and pulled her alongside of our house, then reached inside her clothing and groped her breasts and her crotch. She was able to escape his grip and run into the garage. Coincidentally, he was walking past the house again yesterday afternoon; when Holly saw him, she dropped her bicycle and dashed into the garage, shut the door, and ran inside the house. Barbara happened to be discussing he situation on the telephone at the time.

So, I got home, heard Holly's story first-hand, then called the sheriff. The officer came over, listened, and we all had to write statements independently of one another; Holly's friend, Emily, had her dad bring her over to our house to tell her story and submit a statement, as well.

Apparently, the sheriff's department knows who the perp is, and wheels have begun to turn. We got a phone message from some investigating detective already this afternoon, and have to talk with him in the morning...

For those who don't know, our "little" daughter Holly is a "mentally challeneged" adoptee; she was 5 weeks old when we received her on Christmas Eve, 1986 as a foster child. (We are licensed foster parents for the state.)

Frankly, I'm glad the sheriff got to the perp before I could... [img]http://www.v6power.net/vb/images/smilies/******-o.gif[/img]

Much love and

Ponyboy I am so very sad and sorry that happened to Holly. She is such a precious little girl and to have that happen to her is terrible.
I know you will handle the situation and give loving care to her so that she can overcome the assault.
That discusting boy needs to be in jail!

{{{{{{{{HUGS FOR HOLLY}}}}}}}}. Gaye

Ponyboy,

This is a parent's worst nightmare....How terrible for Holly...I hope they lock the coward up and put him away for a very, very long time so that he cannot hurt anyone else's child. It is absolutely terrible that Holly is not safe in her own yard...I will keep her in my thoughts and prayers.

GH

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oh my gosh gene, i am sooo very sorry this has happened. i am at a loss for word. in tears. my prayers to you and your family.

your anger is justified. i hope they get him and prosecute him to the fullest. then let the guys in jail take care of the rest.

hugs and choccy for your dear holly.

we are here for you gene.

I am having a hard time finding words. I feel the same as all the other posters and all those to follow (I'm sure).

(((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((Holly and Family)))))))))))))))))))))))))))))

My thoughts are with you all at this horrible time. I'm soooo sorry:mad:

I'm so sorry to hear this! I hope they lock the guy up and throw away
the key!:mad:

(((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((Holly and Family)))))))))))))))))))))))))))))

I'll be praying for you!

((((((((((((((((((((((ponyboy &family))))))))))))))))))))
at a loss for words. Would get censored if i said what i think.

hugs,
sims

i pray she will be ok.

OMG, ((((((Gene)))))),

I'm so sorry.

I'm glad she told someone. A lot of kids don't tell anyone. Makes it worse in the long run.

There are so many -- so many -- women who've been molested or raped as children or young women.

Make sure your daughter knows how to keep herself safe. Make sure she knows, too, that it wasn't here fault.

I hope they lock that b***d up for a long-long time. BUT, if they don't, make sure your neighbors know about him.

I'm praying for all of you, especially your precious girl. Hugs.

Barb

Ponyboy~
What can I say that won't get deleted as was mentioned?
(((Gene & family)))
You are all in my thoughts and prayers.
Get him off the streets!!
Hugs,
Jan

I said this on your other post, but, here it is, again.
I pray, the S.O.B. gets "life"!!!

(((Gene)))
I left a message for you on the other thread too but just wanted to tell you again how sad I am to hear this and that I pray for Holly to recover unscarred from this traumatic experience. How blessed she isto have you and Barbara to love her!

Something similar to this happened to my daughter when she was 7 and it is an awful feeling. When I was told, all of the blood left my face and I thought I was going to pass out. It is hard to describe how you feel when this happens. Fortunately, my child didn't realize what the perpetrator was planning to do and she wasn't affected by it emotionally.

I watch too much CSI but it is educational.
Maggie

Praying for you. My son was molested by my husbands friend and he didn't tell me for a year or two after it happened. :( Sadly the guy only got 1 yr in prison. Tho he is suppose to register for life as a molester I think. We did go thru counseling thru Victims Witness. I also had been molested as a child. I think it is just disgusting. I hope they have caught him.
Prayers,
GM

(((((((((((((((((((hugs and prayers))))))))))))))))))))))))))
I just wanted to add how sorry for you and your family that this happened. Something similar happened to a kid on my route, and his parents and the police made a really big deal about him doing the right thing by telling someone, and remembering the details that put the bad guy away. I hope Holly knows she didn't do anything wrong, and how good she was to tell, and that the bad guy will not be able to hurt her again, because she was so brave! Hope you are doing OK too.
Carolyn

Your family and the friends family have done all the right things. Holly is lucky to have such a loving fmily to put all this behind her. So strong of the girls to point out this horrible person.

Take care Gene.

{{{{{{{{ponyand family}}}}}}}}}}
This just makes me sick!!!!
Why on earth these people feel the need to prey on little children.I will NEVER
comprehend!!!I am sooo very sorry this evilness had to come into your child and your families life!!
Please be sure and call about family counseling-even though you might not think you need it..Sometimes it helps to have someone to talk to...
Take care!
I'll say a prayer for lil holly tonight and the rest of your family..
~Kell~

Gene, there aren't any words to tell you how very sorry I am that your family is going through this.
I have 2 daughters and 1 son all over 30 and all of which have been molested, myself included and I know all to well the effects that this can have on a child.
Please do all you can to see she gets counseled by the right person someone that specializes in these cases.
I agree with all that there is no form of justice that would be to good for this scum, however prepare yourself that justice most likely won't be had unless this jerk has a lot of priors and is being watched because he has been doing this and more of late.
I'm so sorry to say this, I just want you to prepare so that if this turns out as many of these cases do it won't be as such a shock to you..
Feel free to contact me if I can be of any help to you at all, God knows this is one of the hardest things for a parent to deal with.
Gentle/caring hugs,
LindaM(suede)

Gene - stopping by here on a more serious note - I'm so sorry that that jerk subjected Holly to that - and thank God it didn't go any further. My daughter, who is now 23, went thru that type of thing and beyond on God knows how many occasions unbeknownst to me or my hubby - this was around the age of 11 and up, and it went on for at least months, could have been years. It was the good Catholic family right on our block with three sons, all close around my daughter's age, and touching was only the beginning of what went on - 3 good little altar boys, and I only found this out about a year ago, TEN years after the fact - she kept it to herself all of that time. I swear, when I drive by their house, I want to throw a bomb inside or burn it down or something. The old man was abusive to his boys, and they so very kindly 'payed it forward' - it JUST MAKES ME SICK. She's got so many problems and battle scars now, and it's too late to do much now - now I understand some of her acting out behavior when she was around that age. So glad that type of thing didn't happen to your precious one.

GOOD FOR YOU FOR REPORTING IT RIGHT AWAY AND HAVING THE COURAGE TO DO SO.

What else can I say, :( Jacquie

Off topic, Jacquie, but that little grandson of yours in your Avatar is almost as cute as our little grandsons are... ;)

I can certainly see your pride is justified!

Back to the topic, we're supposed to have a chat with a sheriff's detective tomorrow morning about Holly's "treatment" at the hands of that creep... :mad:


Much love and

Thanks, Gene, I think he's a doll, too, and already talking & making his needs known at ten months of age! OMG, I fear he's going to be a handful when he's in his terrible 2s :eek: . I wish my son and his wife good luck - he seems about as incorrigible as his Daddy was - heaven help 'em :D .

Let us know how talk w/ sheriff goes, wondering how these things are handled in various parts of the country!

Have a great week! Jacquie

Ponyboy ;

I really feel sad , to think she had to go through that , and thought she would be in trouble :confused: .
>>>Now HE will learn how people feel about "sexual offenders " , he will have that title for a long time ! > He is old enough to know that he did the wrong thing.
There has been alot about "predators" on Dateline NBC , it's a shame that we can't rid the world of these dirtbags.
» Dateline NBC » 'To Catch a Predator'
http://www.msnbc.msn.com/id/10912603/

She shouldn't be afraid to go outside !

Art

Ponyboy, so sad to hear that she has gone through something so very traumatic.
Glad to hear tho that you talked to the police, and that she was able to confide in a friend and that friend told you wife.

I hope this gets handled quickly for you with the police department.

DaisyMae

Hi Gene. Just saw this. Man oh man, what is it with these creeps who lurk in our back yards???? You cannot feel safe in your own home? Thank GOODNESS it came to light, that it didn't go further than what you described and that they know who the guy is so he will pay. You know, people with that problem never EVER change, they cannot rehabilitate. The ingredient that makes them that way cannot be removed, like flour from a cake already made. So I hope they don't go easy on him. He will probably do this again and again to other young girls.

And, since she is challenged, it makes it more disgusting and outrageous. I found out that there are websites in some states (hopefully yours) where you can go in and locate any sexual predators in your area who have had to register. Wouldn't have helped in this case, but maybe it will help for others.

Here is a link for one in NY, and maybe if you change the state there will be one for your area: http://www.criminaljustice.state.ny....arch_index.htm

Here's the FBI's site: http://www.fbi.gov/hq/cid/cac/states.htm

We all have to protect the children of the world at all costs. It makes me sick that people like that are out there.

I hope Holly can recover from this and live her life as a happy girl. So sorry this happened, Pony, and I'll pray that things work out for you.

Maryanne

Gene,

I'm so sorry. What a devastating experience for your family.

I hope this guy is stopped and you get some justice.

Just a few moments can change lives. Why can't people stop and get help before they hurt others?

I'm so sorry for Holly. :(

Ponyboy
I'm sooo sorry that your daughter had to go through such a trauma after all she's been through already. My heart goes out to you and your family too.
My prayers and support are with you as you and your family go through this mess.

I'm so sorry that you and your family, especially Holly had to go thru all of that! You and the girls have done the right thing by alerting law enforcement officials. Bless you all, it takes a strong family to go thru it together.

Best wishes,

Kim