I figured out what causes MS
 

it's crazy families. I swear.

Think about it. Besides, MS what is the one thing we all have in common??

YUP!!

Sorry, been dealing with crazy family stuff and I have realized there is not possible way to salvage certain relationships and my shrink may be right. It is a shame when your own shrink tells you that your sister is toxic and for the sake of your own sanity you should walk away.

I was questioning this, and felt very guilty about it. I have some weird guilt that i carry because we don't like one another and have nothing in common. But I realized lately that i really am better off not to have her in my life unless she gets off of the downward spiral she has been on for the last 20 years.

I have also realized that my disappointment in her is my own fault because I keep expecting something other than failure out her and out of our relationship. I am just done. I have to stop beating myself up over things and people that I have no control of and cannot change.

I agree. I've got family visiting upstairs right now, and all of a sudden, my MS symptoms (numbness, some pain and a headache) decided to kick up. So, I'm downstairs hiding in my room, while I've got people and kids making tons of noise on the wood floor that's above me. (it's like living in a drum, I swear!)

It's easier to come downstairs and hide, rather than sit up there and have the two adults telling me off, or telling me how I need to do things...or acting as if I'm faking the current MS symptoms (limping, nearly falling)

preaching to the choir. My sister is like the village bike, everyone has had a ride, and she wonders why no one in town respects her. Drug addicted, and bat guano crazy! I was told long ago to just let her go her own way.


You can be my sister if you want. I promise to take better care of you than your current one. :hug:

It's just weird how, when you're in the middle of an uncomfortable flare (which actually has been getting better lately) and you get a visit from people who annoy the snot out of you, or who you dont particularly like, it makes the MS symptoms a little more pronounced.

It's not that I dont like my family members, I just dont feel all that great right now, and having extra people in the house makes me...anxious. Especially when 2 of those people are children and I just dont like the noise they make. (I know, I sound like a horrible person, but I just dont like children, even if they're related)

These particular relatives also tend to make me feel like they dont want me around. Not sure if I'm imagining it.

At least they're not drug addicts, they're just annoying.

Ya know, it doesn't have to be crazy, mean or ignorant families who bring on the old MS SX. I have a wonderful caring attentive family and yet........:eek: :holysheep: :thud: :hissyfit:...they can keep you on your toes with worry, stress and, yes, noise..:D

Thanks guys. I am just beyond frustrated because I see what she is doing to her children and I cannot do anything about it. The oldest is 21, the middle child is 17 and the youngest is 10. Their father is just as bad as their mom, and if I call CPS it would only be the youngest child who would be torn out of the situation and placed outside of the family.

And the latest news.... she is now dating my niece's boyfriend's cousin... who is 20! ummm, yeah. But somehow I am the badguy for saying something about it. Oh well, like I said, i cannot control the situation or her so it is best to cut my losses and walk away.

Hey Dej, you can be my new sis anytime. Maybe we should introduce our sisters, they might be friends you never know.

my sis would only be friends with your sis if she was willing to share her prescription. She is so tunnel visioned right now about finding more and bigger and better pain pills. Sad, really sad.

I have for decades scratched my head and wondered how I got lumped in with such a wild bunch. My brothers are abusive bible thumpers. My sis is a drug addicted, many hungry, lost soul that wanders the earth in search of comfort that can only be found from within. My mother isnt able to figure out her own day, let alone raise kids, and my father was constantly out to sea with the Navy. Somedays I wonder how I lived thru my child hood.

Island for crazy siblings
 

Maybe we can put all of our crazy siblings on a deserted island. I've got 2 sisters and 3 brothers to contribute.

Yeah mine doesn't ask how I am doing. She does ask what meds they have me on. She is a pill popped too but hers always comes from one ailment or another. She is still in the excuses why I need drugs stage of her addiction.
I say we ship em to mexico. Cheap drugs there.

mine only wants to know how I am so she can compete. "oh you have MS? I had a heart attack!" style conversations. She is so man hungry, and searches for all of her self esteem and self worth in the eyes of another. She wants to know what type of pills I am on now. I tell her "none! they pulled me off all of them. and I feel much better." I would never let her know I take pills or she would want to sit beside me with her hand in my pocket book.

Sheesh, I would chuck in all of my brothers and sisters if we are starting an island, but be warned, my sister would roast your sister on a spit just for a giggle. Really twisted. Not sure I would subject your sister to the abuses of my brothers either. What a mess!

I'm a "tad" concerned reading this thread. To this day, and my mom is now 86, when lucient would tell you out of six kids I was the worst. Also my oldest sister was not so highly thought of by my parents as she was man crazy, married at 18 and moved to Oregon.

My sister and I are considered the "strange ones" in the family. When we call each other and her husband answers I identify my self as the, "Black Sheep of the East, is the Black Sheep of the West available?"

I am happy to say that those of us who have had strained relationships in the past, some lasting years, have all come together holding no grudge or animosity toward each other any more.

OK! Now "THAT'S" strange!

Craig I LOVE that you fixed things with your family, but this far, my brothers and sisters are not willing to admit there is a problem, let alone try to fix it. My sister has burned thru more than $50k in aide from me over the years. Since she had children I was not willing to let them starve or freeze to death simply because mom was a nut job. I would call the oil company and pay them directly instead of giving her the money, and then find her selling it by the gallon in her back yard. Clothing was sold to the neighbors for pennies, or returned to the stores for cash. Food was half used, half sold. It took me a long time to realize that no matter how hard I tried I wasnt going to get her to see that she was hurting her children. They are grown now and both speak of some pretty horrible days growing up hungry, cold and without needed medicines because mom couldnt be bothered even tho others were standing there to help.

I pray many days that my sister wakes up and gets the help she so desperately needs. She is abusive to my elderly mom, and steals from her on a regular basis. My mom who gets about $800 a month in SS ends up with a tiny amount to get her own needs met. She is compelled by sis to "pretend to be painful" so that she can get more meds. She signs up for extra services and then gives the food, vouchers, or assistance to sis who cant qualify. My mom chooses to do without to do what she believes is a noble act. Its sad! My niece was so aggressive with my mom I had her removed from the home, and my mother clung to her as if she would stop breathing without her. Bruised and confused my mom just didnt get it.

I think what we are talking about goes beyond black sheep status or just being different and marching to the beat of your own drummer. The behaviors and antics are hurtful, shameful, and dangerous to other family members.

Aww Craig :hug: you make my heart sing. :hug: