update on my Mom
 

Looks like things are going quickly. The hospice doctor says that she has 2-3 weeks although it looks like it will be sooner than that. She is singing Face to face with Christ my Saviour in her mind and saying it is louder. When she sleeps she has a sweet smile on her face and looks like she is directing a song like my Dad did. She has very few lucid moments. I am afraid to go home tonight.

Awwwwww, Doydie..:hug: That's the way it happened with my Mom. She went into Hospice for pain management and as soon as she was relaxed and out of pain, she traveled closer to heaven. The Doc gave her weeks, then days. She was ready to go.:hug:

I know she will go peacefully where she is and with you there. My Mom waited till I had to leave to run an errand. She didn.t want us there, I guess. She was already in God's hands.:)

God Bless You..:hug:

:hug: Doydie :hug:

It's hard time no matter what, but it sounds like your Mom knows where she's going...that is a blessing you will treasure. Prayers to you. :hug:

Here I am at 6:30 AM. I think the last time I was up this early was when we took the family to Disney World. I slept pretty good. i convinced Mom to let them put a catheter in. Now she won't have get out of bed for anything unless she just wants to. The doctor comes in in about 30 minutes.

heavy days indeed. You are very brave, and need much courage. Be strong, and stand tall. We are all here waiting if and when you need us. You have a whole room full of folks that are whispering prayers in your name. Let us loan you some courage. :grouphug:

I'll take that loan. Today is my birthday and I have about 30 heartfelt messages from people out there in cyber land that I wouldn't recognize if I saw them. My Mom, sister and I had a long standing tradition of always going out to the same restruant, having a nice meal within our budget and topping it off with coconut pie. We were able to have Moms in her nursing home room. I had told Mom earlier this week to conjour up the memory of the meringue in her mind and give me a big kiss with it. I cold care less for the filling, I just LOVE the meringue. I guess I'm going to have to conjure it up and give it to her. My youngest daughter has given me a sweet present but I doubt anyone else will remember it. This daughter would remember it because we had to bury her Grandpa on her 18th birthday. So she has a very tender heart for me right now

Happy Birthday, Doydie. :hug: I know you probably don't feel like celebrating......but maybe if you just thanked your Mom for giving you the gift of life that would bring a smile to her face. My Mom used to tell me she didn't understand why Mom's weren't included in the celebrating on someone's birthday. If it weren't for them there'd be no celebration. :)

If I could have a coconut meringue pie delivered right to you I would. :winky:

This will have to do......

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that must be that mile high pie I have heard of. Looks good. I will tell her thank you and hopes she hears.

Doydie - Many hugs to you. :hug: Keeping you all in my prayers.:hug:

Today has been truly a mixed bag of tricks. She slept and wouldn't wake up at all until this afternoon. Mom has a dear friend that lives in a different senior complex than Moms and they hadn't seen each other for a good while. i knew we had to get these two ladies together. We had already made arrangements to pick he p this afternoon and take her to see Mom at the nursing home as a suprise. Well all of that changed when they discharged ehr and put Mom in hospice. since Mom has had so few times that she is lucid I wasn't sure if we could make this happen. So Mom woke up this afternoon, said she wanted to see her so my DH and i went out to get her. They truly enjoyed the visit. Before, during and after 3 more people came in and Mom just got totally exhausted. Her hadns are shaking so and it is so hard for her to hold a phone but she sefuses to let me hold it and ti doesn't have a speaker phone. So Mom yells at my brother and says he is treating her like an infant. I know and my brother knows this isn't Mom. he is a hospice chaplain and I have read the material that at the end of life sometimes they revert to behavior that they were never allowed to have and it is all pent up inside them so it just spews out and the family gets the bad end f the stick. Maybe she is just exhausted from all the visits. But this weekend the WHOLE crew is coming in starting with tow couples tonight. One of them has a very loud voice and the other lives her in town and has chosen not to visit even though we have told him her situation. So now it's to late to see Grandma as Grandma was. Hopefully a good nap will help. I just wish i could take one to! Thanks for listening.

Oh, the doctor said this morning it is now less than one week. it's going to fast yet now fast enough. You now what I mean. All is know is that this is hard. i have told so many people that I feel I am the lucky one because I live here and have more time with her. But yet their memories will be of the Mom they ahd at Christmas, the sweet, caring, loving Mom and Grandma. My memories are of a confused, very sharp when she is in pain but still has glimpses of the sweet loving Mom.

Some one out at the desk has an awful smelling perfume on.

hugs,,doydie :hug::hug:

My thoughts and prayers are with you at this difficult time, sweetie...:hug:

Even though at this time you think you will only remember her at her end, in time the good memories will override those, and you will remember her and bless her in your thoughts. You will also feel grateful that you were there for her.
Those of us who have experienced this always have a hole in our hearts. My mom passed when I was 20-she passed at about 4:30 am-I think she wanted to be alone so she wouldn't burden my sis and me...I miss her still, and feel so grateful to have had her for my mom...:grouphug:

It has been precious to watch Mom. She will be sleeping and then just start smiling. I wish there was a way to know who she is talking to and what they are saying but maybe it's private and needs to be said before Mom can go. So I will just let the mistique go on because I know some day some one will be watching me do the same.

Hugs to you doydie:hug::hug::hug:

hugs. thank you for the update. Its one of my first stops in the AM to come see how you are doing. :hug:

:hug::hug: Doydie! It is such a difficult time and yet there is something so beautiful in it. My Dad did the same thing as your Mom. I sat with him for a few hours the day before he passed. As I sat there I watched him in awe and wonderment. His lips would move and I, like you, wondered who he was talking to. I didn't want to disturb him and talk too much as this was his journey Home.

Please know that I am praying for all of you!:hug:

Mom has had less times that she has been responsive yet she still has her spunk when she is awake. Tomorrow the little ones come. My 9 year old grand daughter had some tough times in school today but I thanks God for a wonderful teacher and guidance counselor that had tender and wise hearts. I'm sure the 4 year old will want to climb in bed with Grandma Pete. I will be nervous as she does it but know that if that's what she needs to do to say goodby that we must allow it. My brother who is a hospice chaplain will be the first one to get in tomorrow. Just liek me as an RN it's hard to change roles. He is afraid of what he will see. Will he see her through a sons eyes or a chaplains eyes

We both slept well. So I don't know if Mom is now 'sleeping well' because of disease or Morphine since I don't think she had any at all last night. If she did I was sound asleep and didn't hear them in here. the little ones will be here today

All the family was here today except one daughter and law and grand son. She tried so hard to stay awake today that she was in more pain so they had to keep on giving more Morphine. By the end of the evening they had given her 300 mg of Morphine. I hope she sleeps well tonight.. My two brothers who lie out of town and both have to drive 4 - 6 hours tomorrow both wanted to stay with her tonight. What precious memories will be made in that room tonight. She was very visibly weaker today. Tomorrow before everyone goes back home we are going to form a circle around her bed and pray. We have all given her permission to go. We are all ready for her to go. the woman in the bed isn't our Mom nay more but yet she still is in the way she showed us all love tonight. My little 4 year old grand daughter sat in Moms rollater beside her bed, held her hand and sang Jesus loves me to her. The 9 year old coldn't get enough courage to approach the bed even though she made several attempts. We know that tomorrow evening she may be gone.

Those rollaters sure make good extra seats!

:hug: Doydie:hug: I will be praying for you, mom and the family.

((( Doydie )))

Dearest Doydie,

You and your family have all come together at this very important time in your Mom's life and provided excellent support. You are an inspiration to us all especially if we have families not in concert when it comes to our elderly parents.

You and your family are in my prayers and I'll be sending positive thoughts your way. Keep us informed, please.

Peace be with you all.

praying. :smileypray: hugs :grouphug:

Sending prayers and extra hugs for you, Doydie. :hug:

Mom had a rough night. Maybe it was because I wasn't there when they turned her and gave her the last medicine!. My brothers stayed, then my sister was afraid to leave. i called my brother for an update and the picture he gave me I decided to also go in. But my nice recliner was taken, the lousy chair bed was taken, the two chairs put together in the kids playroom with an ottoman in between was taken so I took the floor in the family room. After that I tried taking two chairs and facing them and seing how much of a pretzel I could loook like. Then I tried the recliner that really isn't a recliner. You can put your feet up but it doesn't back. I know I got some sleep so at 6 I gave up and got a candy bar and hot chocolate. After all it's Hospice. you can have anything you want at anytime. at least that's what they tell my Mom when she ask for a diet coke. A family whose loved one died 2 years ago always brings in donuts and cereal and milk every Sunday helped with the rest of my breakfast.

Her color is worse, temp is up, she has blisters on her back that would be in the same place as shingles but she is getting blisters everywhere for all the fluid that her body is holding since her kidneys are almost nonfunctional

Doydie,

God bless you as you go through this with your mom. This is so difficult for you, and yet so important for both of you. I'm so glad you're able to be by her side. This is so stressful and will be a test for your own health. I'll keep you all in my prayers. I went through a similar situation with my mom over five years ago. Please remember to take care of yourself. :hug:

Prayers for all of you, dear...your mother will surely be at peace soon. She is blessed to have you there. :grouphug::grouphug:

I pray for your mother to be at peace and for you to find peace in the process as well. I know all too well how hard this is.

Mom gets weaker everyday but the pain increases. They are going to insert a sub-q button. I have no idea what it is but the nurse says it only takes her a second to do it. It is hard for her to swallow the liquid pain med now. She hasn't spoken or recognized anyone in two days/

Kneeling in prayer for you and your family.
Standing tall beside you just to be by your side.
so proud of your strength and determination to go the full mile.
You are loved. :hug:

:smileypray: (((((Doydie))))) :smileypray:

:hug: Doydie :hug:

Doydie...adding my hugs and prayers:hug::hug::hug:

Me, too. :grouphug::hug:

Also adding my prayers and hugs. :hug:

Continuing to keep you all in my prayers during this hard time.:hug::hug:

Thinking of you sweetie. I know this is a very rough time for you. :hug:

Hugs and prayers Doydie. May God give you and your Mom peace.

Hugs and prayers to all of you.:grouphug: