DDs house burned down!
 

my adopted DD lives in another state. She and her real mom made friends long ago and decided to share a house together. Mom has been away in FL and is home for a visit. real sis is on the first floor and BIL is on the 2nd floor and she and her b/f are on the 3rd. She was at work. The whole 1st floor is gone, and gutted, and the 2nd and 3rd floor are washed out, burned and unsafe to try to get to your stuff if any is left.

The Redcross was there and handing out vouchers for motels, and money and food. She is a severe Gluten reactor so she cant eat what you and I could pick up.

All are fine, no one was hurt other than the poor animals who didnt make it out. This little family has really struggled to try to keep communication going, and were trying hard to mend fences of days gone by. Her RL daddy died a couple of years ago after helping them find this home to try to reconnect with each other. She sobbed and sobbed on the phone that it was the last place she knew her daddy in and now he is gone. She is so grateful that she has had all of this time to get to reconnect with mom and dad and sis. I have been so proud of her.

I offered her and b/f a chance to come live here, but she has work, and friends, and commitments that have to be met.

Please whisper a prayer for them.

found the link. Chris cook is DDs b/f.

http://www.wfsb.com/news/27054615/detail.html

Oh, Dej, How terrible! I'm glad they all got out safely, though. Material things can be replaced. I am so sorry to hear about the pets. Bless their hearts. I'm saying a prayer for all involved.

I am headed to be with DD and help her in this crisis of her home burning down. She called tearfully asking if I could please come be with her, even if it meant a motel room or me being stressed. I jumped at the chance! I am packing now and DH will drive me and leave me. I will find a ride back. DH will stay with Jack the cat who seems to be having a good day. He isnt on any meds other than a shot if he needs one, and DH can do that.

So, if I miss out on any of the juicy stuff, save me a peice. I will be back maybe on Saturday. I need to help this child find a place to live...undies...socks...shampoo...she has nothing.

Her real mom isnt good in a crisis and stumbles and stutters. She has come very far thru the years and we are all very proud of her, but there is nothing like a hug you and make it all better kinda mom when you need one. So, im off to hug it all away.

Good luck and travel safe.:hug:

wishing you and your family the best.

I am so sorry. Such a hard time to be so vulnerable. she knew who to turn to that would help.

DD is ok. she is quite stressed and that kicks up many issues for her. She cannot handle items that have been contaminated with gluten products as it makes her very ill, so to eat in a restaurant unless gluten free or special care is given to what utensils touched what foods...she can get quite ill. She is frightened now that she doesnt have the comfort of her own kitchen and a promise of what foods are safe...its all been so stressful. I was surprised at how quickly she fell back into my arms and wanted comfort, love and support. real mom is trying to insert herself as authority and failing badly. really hard to explain, but I am happy to be here to be her support in such unsteady times.

fully insured, actually over insured so all will be replaced, renewed and rebuilt. One cat was found alive, and is being fostered by an uncle. Needed fluids at the vet and was released after an exam. none of the other animals survived and this crushed the 10 y/0 niece who lives on the first floor.

Ty for the prayers, love and support. its very stressful here, but in a couple of days I will have her in a new home, and get a rental company to fill it with furniture and electronics. For now love is what is needed, and comfort that its going to be ok.

real mom and I had a long talk last night. She was upset that DD was preferring me for comfort and guidance and seeking my counsil instead of her, and wanted to know if she had done something so terribly wrong that her child couldnt trust her. I had to point out that as a very young teenager she was allowed to wander from this womans house, and not given much care or guidance when she was in it. when we took her in we gave her massive amounts of medical care to figure out what her troubles were, we listened, we hugged, we sat down to speak, instead of shouting across a room...we validated her as a young woman and helped keep her on a path. All of these things lay a big imprint on a young woman and it cant be helped that mom simply couldnt/wouldnt be there. So, I had to comfort real mom too last night for her own transgressions which has led to this place where what she thought was healed still shows the cracks of where it was repaired. Really tender territory to walk on.

we are headed out to the house today. the insurance inspector is allowing us in to see if we can salvage any items. We are also looking at a few apartments that I lined up today. She has decided that she no longer wishes to share a house with real mom even after the house is fixed. Real mom is having a hard time with that.

So, its a big day, say a prayer.

Dej - Keeping your DD in my prayers.:hug: She is so fortunate and lucky to have you in her life. You are a good mom.:hug:

I pray all will turn out ok for you all..:hug:

DH is coming in the AM to get me. DD has adequate housing. and I am spent. the tension between residents blew and it was nasty today. Fire Marshall determined christmas tree to be the cause. All the papers that needed signing are signed and money is in hand to get rental and food and furniture...I simply cannot be anymore effective than I have been. She is standing up on her own two feet, she has found her voice to talk to real mom and bros and sis...so...my job is done, and she is standing strong. I can go home and sleep.

10am is my train out of this place. TY for all the prayers and well wishes. it was appreciated more than you will ever know.

I know it has been a rough few days... You know I love you and you all have been in my thoughts and prayers. Don't forget to just breatheeeee....
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WOW Dij!

I'm so sorry to read this. I've been busy working on my book so I am just now visiting the forums. You, your DD and family will be in my positive thoughts and prayers.

Thank you for sharing this with us and keeping updated.

It was the christmas tree? Was it originally a live tree, or one of those artificial ones?

it was originally a live tree that was half dead when purchased in early december, let alone to be lit and decorated in early March. This girl is careless, reckless and unconcerned about matters that dont directly benfit her. its is terribly tempting to bad mouth her, and unleash a vent, but I wont.

DD is fine. All the trinkets and treasures that she wished to have returned to her were found. She has pleasant housing, and found her voice completely last evening to express her wishes to move on and not return to living with any of them. Real mom was under the impression that where ever this child lived, she would be invited as an horored guest. It was quite a painful realization last eve when she found the opposite to be true. I was very proud of this young woman for finding the voice, and the courage to use it.

It was a tense, strange, anger provoking stay and I am happy to be home. Ty ty ty for all the prayers, well wishes and thoughts of good cheer. The first in a long line of many inusrance checks came thru and we have managed to convey to the insurance company that she wishes to remain apart for the lump sum payments that were being sent to mom and divied out as she saw fit. Now payment will go directly to DD. so, all is settled.

TY TY TY. im tired. im dirty, im angry and off to veg out.

Glad you're home, Dej. Sounds like a stressful event but some things that needed to be addressed were. Sometimes it takes a tragedy to reveal the blessing. :hug:

That's cool that her stuff was found. I hope none of it was too water or smoke damaged.

They had a live/DEAD tree that was still decorated in March?! O M G:eek:

That's scary! I use an artificial tree, but I try to make sure everything is down before the middle of January. The reason we dont do live trees is that they would always dry out too quickly no matter how much water we gave them. (plus, they tipped over on us a little too often)

I think it's cool that your DD was able to tell them that she was getting her own place. I bet she'll be really happy having her own space. (if she's renting, hope she got renter's insurance, just in case!) Hope she enjoys having her own place now.

real mom who protects the dumbo girl to all ends was quick to tell the fire investigator about this that and the other things, but continually failed to mention the tree. I told her she has one hour to figure out how to bring it up or I would. Fire guy kept asking what was in that corner, and mom kept saying a guinea pig center for the kids to play. Kept bragging about how 1st floor DD home schools and how many text bookts and musical instuments she lost...BAH! after one hour I walked up to fire guy and said that it has been rumored that a Christmas tree long since dead lived in that corner and stayed lit 24/7 and perhaps he could ask a direct question about that. then it was an "oh yea! I forgot all about the tree" style conversation. Fire guy said AHA! it fits perfectly with the pattern, the timing and the reasoning. i kept my mouth shut that this "home school" mom was away 99% of the time and many times the 10 y/o was left in charge of the other two babies. I LOVE this 10 y/o she is incredibly bright and a wonderful child and deserves better than what she got. she got her first monthly cycle the day after the fire, and learned that the 2nd cat out didnt survive the night.

I have an incredible amount of frustration, anger and venom for other occupants of that home, but managed to hold my tongue, and kept my DD focused and on the hunt for her treasures. Everything she wanted has been found witht the exception of a single earring, and she is going back today to find it. There was a layer of soot and collapsed roof on most of her home with a ton of water to soak it all, so many of her treasures didnt get hot enough to burn thru, but those things she really didnt care about were incinerated. God is good, even in ugly times.

I am so proud of this young woman who thru tragedy found her voice, and was given a platform to use it. I held all others off of her while she said her peace. I refused to let them talk over her, or push her with thier own needs, and wants. Red Cross has been beyond generous, and other organizations have been coming out of the wood work to help. From housing to food, to transportation (the plastic tabs on her b/fs car door handles melted off!) she has found just how generous folks can be.

The prayers for her continued bravery and courage are appreciated as she must co operate with others to get her things, and reparations.