So angry at "he who shall not be named"...
 

I'm really mad that I can't talk about what is happening in my life because of HIM. This is he one place I truly feel safe and he has taken it away. Unless I learn to speak in code!

It's hard enough for some of us to read and understand posts anyway, a code would just make it crazy.

Just a vent about one more thing he has ruined for me. I'm doing the pity party dance :).

Don't we have private groups?

Yes we do, and they can be made private, invite only where only those in the group can read the posts. One draw back is that with invite only, you have to invite every single member you want to see your posts but it might be a starting place.

Am I the only one who doesn't have a clue?

Only code I know (pig Latin) Hat-Way?

I'm trying to think of a way to say this without giving my identity away :).

The man that I share my life with is causing me much pain and stress. I'm trying to escape it. I'm upset because I used to feel safe coming here to talk about things in my life that were upsetting.

I have to hide my identity because he may search for my posts to see if I am talking about our problems and my dilemma. Does that help?

I would like to start a group :). How do I do that? If you can help with this, pm me. Thanks in advance!

NOW I get it.

http://neurotalk.psychcentral.com/fa..._social_groups

[Can I create my own social group?

As a registered member, you can create your own social group (providing the administrator allows this). Go to the groups page and click 'Create A New Group'. Complete the title and description for your group then select the type. There are three types of groups:

* Public - open to everyone. There is no restriction on who can join or who can post messages to it
* Invite Only - require an invitation to be sent to join them. Invitations can only be sent by the group creator or forum moderators and administrators. Invitations are sent by clicking 'Pending & Invited Members' at the bottom of the page for that individual group
* Moderated - open to everyone to join but messages need to be moderated before they will appear. They are moderated by the group creator and the site moderators and administrators]

I just tested the Private social group, and it seems to be still readable by other members. :confused:

PMs may be the most secure way to share some topics.

:hug::hug:s my friend. it sucks that this has to be so hard.:hug::hug:

Sorry, I guess I do not quite understand. Just one week ago you stated that he who shall not be named did not even know how to use the computer. Do you now know that he has been searching for you on line?

it made me sorta wonder as well. How does he know how to even search for you? are you able to erase your browser history when you are done? or does he just google your normal nickname? and btw, who cares what he sees? Tell him its none of his beeswax and to mind his own hive. You are a grown woman and come come and go and do as you please, no? Or has he not figured out that you are outta there yet?

If I read this right, I think you nailed it with your final question Dejibo. Sounds like maybe she got good advice to not use her normal name and not to talk publicly about her plans in places he might find them.

He doesn't know any of my plans. I have to keep it that way because he is volatile and I don't know what he may do. Someone may tell him to look for me online and he does know that I am on the NT site.

Dej, if he behaved like a normal guy I wouldn't be outta here :). I can't do and say what I please. He will try to use it against me in any way he can.

When I first saw this thread, I thought it was going to be political..:D

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I'm too tired for politics now, Sally :D. My world has 'shrunk'. :).

It's funny that this thread came up. I just heard a radio commercial for a law firm that only handles men in divorce. It talks about how they can investigate through social networking. It is timely that you decided to change things.

Also, you might want to consider having a moderator delete any previous threads regarding "he who shall not be named". Even if he isn't savvy enough to search, he can find someone who is.

I want to let you know that I found a safe, secure forum to post about this stuff :). Women in the same circumstance.

It isn't the same though without you guys :(. Love ya all! :hug:

Btw, I'm not leaving NT :). The other forum is just a place to talk about stuff I can't share here. :hug:

You can PM me anytime you feel like venting, Jodygirl..:hug:

Me too. You also know how to find me on facebook.
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Thanks everyone :). To be honest, I feel like I'm dumping all of my garbage on people :o. I'm so wrapped up in this mess I can hardly think of anything else. It's getting embarrassing. It's like having a song stuck inside my head that I can't shake loose.:rolleyes:

Jodylee, we aren't just people here. I haven't been as verbally helpfull through all this but I have kept up with your situation and are praying that you will find peace. Some of these 'people' in here are your soulmates.

You're not dumping. You're just getting through a tough situation and letting your friends help you. Once day......when this is long past......you'll probably be instrumental in helping another woman get through this same thing. :)

OMG, K!! How did you know?? I have big plans for the future :). I want to get involved with some sort of nonprofit organization to help women that are disabled and are stuck like me :D!! I have been disgusted to find that there are no resources for women living with this type of thing. I AM going to do something about it. It's my new mission in life.

That's great! :) Sounds like something that's sorely needed just about everywhere.

Well, when you get up here to Pittsburgh and start out on your mission, I would like to help you. I got out of two abusive relationships. I finally figured out after two that it wasn't the life I wanted. So, I would love to help.

Thanks, Holly :).