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I'm sorry, but I cant let your dogs out.
OMG! I am sooooo tired of this woman who lives down the street. She doesnt take the hint. She constantly asks if we can let her dogs out, or do little errands. "oh since you are already going to the store, can you pick up a couple of things for me?" and the list has 20 things on it! Every single conversation I have had with her for the last two years ends with "oh, btw, what are you doing on friday or Monday?" she will call middle of the day and say "we are running late, do you think you could pop over and let the dogs out?"
Well, Monday she called and asked DH if on Thursday he could let the dogs out. I was standing right here, and he said "no, im sorry, but we are helping another neighbor and cant be here. sorry" she dug for answers "where are you going? what is going on? when will you be back? Will you be back before us? if so can you still pop the dogs out?" OMG! He clearly said "NO, im sorry we cant let the dogs out." She pushed and pushed, and then he said "I gotta go, let me find you later." What she heard was "let me get more details, and I will let you know." UGH! She called today and wanted to chat and chat and chat and I said "im sorry, but I am up to my neck in things to do today, I have to go." and she interupted me to say "so are we all set for Thursday?" I said "um...I dont understand. what for?" she quickly jumped in with a "Frank said he would let the dogs out while we are gone. We are leaving at 7am and wont be back till 7pm, and he said he would take care of the dogs. I am just making sure we are all set" (in her sing song voice) I cut her off before she could hang up and corner me and said NO! (loudly) we are NOT all set for you We CANNOT let your dogs out. and she started to protest about how WE would not be gone all day and someone has to let these animals in and out! I said "well, Im sorry but I CANNOT let your dogs out." I suggested the other neighbor may be helpful (she invites them to lobster dinners, clam bakes, boat parties and so forth, we only get the dog invites) She said "I dont know what I am going to do!" I said "neither do I, im sorry, I cant help you." 20 minutes later, she calls back, quite perturbed, clearly upset by my snub, and said "look no one can let these poor animals out and I simply must insist that you find a way to help. Can your son help? or Can YOU stay home while your husband does the errands so we are not stuck? I said Are you kidding? and then I unloaded on her. I said LOOK! we are NOT your personal dog sitters, house watchers, landscapers, dock removers, appointment waiters, or your fetch crew! I have MANY things of MY OWN to get done, and NO! I will NOT stop MY life so YOUR dogs get let in and out. I suggest you either put them in day care for the day, or call a pet sitting service! I may be gone a 1/2 hour or I may be gone all day, but YOUR animals are NOT MY PROBLEM! and quite frankly I am tired of you assuming that I am your beck and call girl. Please! take me off your rolodex. I am more blind than sighted, and I dont feel good. When I leave for a long time I HIRE people to come watch my animals. When my yard needs help i HIRE people to fix it. I suggest you start doing the same. I feel you are taking advantage of some very nice people, and I am truly sorry that you are stuck, but its not MY problem. Please stop calling here. and ...I hung up! MY God! I am so tired of being afraid to answer the phone for fear of being trapped. AT least twice per week they want to run off on play dates and fun things and since we are home they want us to watch their animals, their house or their stuff....NO NO NO! I dont care if she is ticked off or not. Have you ever been just tired of being nice to someone who has no desire to be nice to you? Sheesh! get a clue! So, she called back and said "dont cut me off! what is your cat sitters name?" So, with as many rich friends as she has, and as many contacts as she makes, she doesnt have one on call already? OMG! She has to use mine? NO other neighbor will help her? I can see why now. Sheesh! Get away from me! |
get her deb! I had my neighbor text me last night to ask if i had plans today. I said yup, sure do. Her kid shows up less than 5 minutes after we got home last night and didn't leave until I made her go hom after 8. WTH?? When did I open a day care??
I don't mind trading them for dog sitting but I wont let my kids play over there because they talk about grown up stuff, such as their sex lives and don't care who is in the room. GAHHH. I feel your pain. |
I am as generous as they get, but DANG! I feel used. I feel like she is cheap, and thinks we are easy. She has the attitude that because she lives in this big ol house that folks are supposed to treat her like royalty. Well, if you are dumb enough to pay 17k per year for taxes alone before you turn on the first light, or get insurance or grow the first rose (which her home is manicured, not just landscaped) then good for you, but me? I spend my money on my animals, my family, our needs, and our comforts.
She is constantly telling me how broke she is, and how much money they owe, and how much financial details it takes to run her life. I DONT CARE! I large case of TMI I dont need nor want to hear about how you steal money from your husbands accounts because he makes you split the bills 50/50 and he has such a large income (because he cheated the state with a workers comp case) and you have a measly little baby income. I dont want to hear that you cant afford a new car when yours is newer than mine! I dont want to hear about how expensive your vacation was to st martin and how the prices have risen on your time share in Hawaii, or how much the jewels your grandmother left you were appraised for. STFU! The neighbors had a very nice young grandson visiting, and all she could yammer on about what how this young man was wonderful because he was due to inheriet some large fortune from some very well known family, and how he will never want for a thing all of his life. I said "oh, so if he was a little poor boy from around the corner he would be trash and have no future, but since he comes from money, he is wonderful? Whats wrong with you?! its folks like YOU that tried to keep folks like ME from making any thing of myself. Had I listened to the folks that cried about how I would never go anywhere because my parents were poor, I would be in a world of hurt. Does it make me less of a person because I came from poverty? UGH! The thing is, she herself came from meager beginings and immigrant parents who worked hard to give her a nice start in life. Unless you are wearing YSL you really dont look dressed enough to visit her home. Excuse me, but my Target clothes are good enough. My walmart purse holds money just as nicely as your Tangello bag. UGH! Im so fed up with this place. I am rearching for sale by owner styles of selling my home. I want out of here! This place is crazy and so are the folks that live here! |
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Thank you for the messages public and private. I guess this lady touched a nerve in quite a few of us. I am nearly blind! She thinks I can simply drop what I am doing (cause I am only resting, right?) and run over to her million dollar house with unlocked doors and let the dogs out. you can bet your bottom dollar that if anything got broken she would be charging me the deductible from her insurance policy spouting how I was the last one there. so, NO! I wont put up with it anymore.
I have grown a strong backbone, and am fed up. I am no longer answering her calls, and she like me can HIRE help. I was out taking pictures of my house because I am going to list it, and she came over to tell me that I was doing it wrong. :rolleyes: That I cant use shots of the lake because "YOUR house isnt lake front!" I said, "yes, but it IS lake VIEW and I am allowed to list it as such." She had several smarty pants comments behind that one, and I said "did you just stop by to harrass me, or was there something more important?" Said she just wanted me to know if I had any hopes of getting it done right that I need to listen to her. UGH! I said "well, unfortunatly for you, my camera battery is dead and I need to go recharge it before I can even consider which things I want photos of next. Can I put the mountains in the back ground in the photo or do I have to exclude them because I dont own those either?" She said "you know, you can be quite rude when you want to be." I said "honey, you have NO idea how deep my rudness can go. PLEASE stop talking to me like I am stupid. I can and WILL list my house anyway I see fit. thank you for the advice, but I will not be using any of it. Have a nice day!" and I went inside. I left her standing out on the edge of my garden. (which she is upset that I wouldnt allow her to transplant her flowers into my organic food garden) Some neighbors make a neighborhood a joy. Others make it a terror. I cant wait for them to go south for the winter and wear out someone elses ears. What part of I am handicapped dont you get? The electric fence doesnt work so you have to chase them. One dog is a basket case and a nipper and you have to force him out, and the other is now blind/deaf and really needs to be carried in and out. NOT ME and NOT ANYMORE! Thanks for the support. Seems we are all of like minds on this one. |
Have you put up that sign advertising the price of your services yet? I'm dead serious here! :hug:
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For your own fun, let her know, keep a log! I was thinking about your situation a couple nights ago. If you are forced into a conversation, you should ask if they have personal injury liability on their property. Let her know you have been watching tv and really admire Nancy Grace and Gloria Allred as model professional lawyers that are able to sue for extraordinary amounts of money.:D:D:D |
Dog sitting fee - $20/hr per dog (you dont have to actually be letting the dog out for the fee, if she just asks you to watch them, the meter starts then)
House sitting fee - $40/hr (whether or not you're actually in their house) Therapy services (because she tells you about her problems) - $200/hr Waiting for the cable guy fee - $500/hr (because you never know when the cable guy will actually get there) |
Definitely agree with others that you should say, "I will gladly let your dogs out. It's $20 per day in advance, cash. No cash, no let the doggies out."
That'll make her go away... |
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Have fun with it Dej. Be as annoying as you want (but with a smile and sweetness) and be passive/agressive. If the dogs are not let out, they will find a place to use in her house...let her know the dogs will be okay if she does not let them out, it is only urine and poop she will need to clean when she gets home. |
I'm giggling at all this, but not when it comes to the care of animals. That comes first in all of this. Poor doggies need a caring home. :(
My DD and Family just got back from FLA, after a weeks vacation. The 20 yr old did not go, so she house sat, dog sat and cat sat for the week. There are doggy day care places around and if noone is going to be home with the animals for an extended period of time, then either of these two options are needed. You are not responsible, Dej, unless you have an understanding of care for the animals. However I couldn't help making sure they were cared for, so I probably would do it, if she didn't!! Then I would call the SPCA! |
When I had my dog, for the last five years of his life, I refused to take a vacation or do anything that would have required that he be put in a kennel.
When we moved to the house we're at now. We took him to the kennel that TinyMonsters' breeder had recommended. That kennel was owned by a woman who bred the same breed of dog that Tiny was. We thought that it would be a good, safe place for Tiny to stay while we were busy moving. Since we also had houseguests while we were moving (my sister insisted that we put Tiny in a kennel because she thought he would traumatize her kids. He was a BIG dog and she was afraid he'd eat her kids or something) My sister's kids werent the ones traumatized. Tiny was. The owner of the kennel we put him in was out of town for the two weeks he was at her kennel. She had her nephew taking care of the dogs. That kid was a sadistic <swearword>. He nearly beat my dog to death. So, after that bad experience, I refused to let anyone else take care of Tiny and did it all myself. I wouldnt even let relatives come over and take care of Tiny. That's how much I lost trust in the world for taking care of him if I couldnt do it. Dej, your neighbor might want to re-examine whether or not she wants to be a dog owner, since it seems like she doesnt have the time to care for them on her own. Hopefully her dogs are loved when she's home and has time to deal with them herself. |
Man, that woman has gall don't she? Remember, when you sell your house, WARN THE BUYERS of the crazy dog lady :eek:
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Ughh talk about thick headed and clueless about others...
she really takes the cake - I like all the recent ideas LOL. I wonder if she wore out her welcome with all the others in the neighborhood and you are the ones left to use?? :rolleyes: |
She called my house 8 times! I didnt answer, and she didnt leave a message. she keeps hoping DH is gonna pick up, so she can sweet talk him. Having been fed enough BS today I got in the car. I am too tired to walk down, and too upset to call. I rang her bell and she answered with a puzzled look on her face. I said "is your husband home?" puzzled she said "sure...why?" I said "are you going to invite me in? or shall I stand out in the hot sun all day?" she said "oh, please come in." started to ask me to take my shoes off, but I wasnt wearing any. DH came around the corner and I asked them both to show me to someplace to sit down, I wanted to talk to BOTH of them.
I said (paraphrasing here, but you get it) Look! I have had enough of the BS here. I am quite tired of being spoken to as if I am beneath you, and I am quite tired of being the last one on your list for your fancy dinner parties, but the first one when you need dog poop picked up. You have NO idea if I am a pauper or a princess, so please stop acting like you ran a credit check on me and I came up lacking. #1 I live in a small water view house because I WANT TO! I dont want the taxes, upkeep, or BS that comes with owning a water front home. I CHOSE the home I am in on purpose, not out of money, but out of my desire, so stop acting like you are better than I am because you live here, and I dont. #2 I am tired of your wife telling me how much credit troubles you are having. I DONT CARE if you only owe X on your house and how many credit cards you have. DONT CARE! I personally have an 823 credit rating, have ZERO debt, owe nothing to anyone, and that includes answers to you. I probably have a thousand times more money in the bank than you do and I know that because your wife blabs it to everyone, AND it doesnt matter! I went on to say things like I am a good person, kind, thoughtful, generous and sweet, and YOU (pointing at the wife) have struck my LAST nerve! I am quite tired of the cat and mouse game and it ends here and now. I do NOT want to let your dogs IN or OUT. I do not give a dang if your trees get wrapped in the winter or if your roof caves in. You are to STOP treating me and others the way you treat us. WE are good people and YOU are taking advantage of us, and IT ENDS NOW...GOT IT? so, unless you are ringing my phone to invite me to lobster night or a day out on your boat, dont bother. I am sick. I have MS and I dont know if you know or care, but I have my hands full with MY problems. I dont give a damn about yours. HAve the courtesy when you invite someone over to STFU and talk about them once in a while. I went on and said a few more things, and was heavy handed, but it needed to be aired out. Then...her husband stood up. DEMANDED that she apologize to me. Said he has NO idea that we had been excluded from the guest lists, that his wife has been telling him we kept saying we were busy. He screamed at her like she was small child, and he an abusive parent. He lit into her with some words that would make sailors blush. I plopped down the business card of my cat sitter (who does ALL errands) and said Erin will be happy do anything from shopping, to walking dogs, washing windows, scrubbing floors or sitting and talking to you, BUT she charges $15 per hour, and will do anything you ask. As for ME...NO NO NO NO NO MORE! STOP ASKING! and if you dare to speak to me just ONE more time the way you spoke to me today, I can and will end this debate. So, think before you speak. I headed for the door, and you could still hear her husband screaming at her when I was climbing in my car. So HA! I snitched her out. HA! |
wow - might be why she is soo annoying - maybe he abuses/beats her if he would scream at her right in front of someone....:(
sad sad world.. but maybe you got you point across and her bothering you will stop. |
good for you for standing up for yourself.
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your cat sitter's name is Erin? :)
Your neighbor is what we call a snob. Sounds like her husband is not a snob. I bet it felt good to tell her off like that. I dont think I'd ever be able to do that if it were me. When you describe the way your neighbor acts, I always get this picture in my head of Mrs. Kravitz on Bewitched. |
I have lived here for more than 5 years now, and each year sees her grow more and more annoying. Today was not an easy day, and I was simply pushed to the point of breaking. it was either get in the gutter with her, and start slinging mud, or act like a lady and go tell her off WITH a witness who could either comfort her, or help correct her.
Now for those that are thinking this is an abused woman, PLEASE know that she is NOT! I too fell for that when we first moved here. I got horrible stories on how abusive her husband is from her, and as we got to know him AND her, we saw that SHE is manipulative, hides the truth from him, bends the truth when he finds it, steals from his bank accounts, hides money from him, and bad mouths him to any one who will stand still long enough to listen. She emascualtes him at every corner. Its RARE for him to stand up to her. If its hot in her home, she will waltz into the room and loudly announce "if you are all wondering why its so warm in here, my husband has no thought of anyone but himself, and spun the heat up to 78! it will cool off soon, as I have regained control of the thermostat and returned it to a cooler area." Now, why couldnt she just turn down the heat, and speak to him after? Trust me, she gives every bit as good as she gets. She is the instigator and I wouldnt live with either of them long enough to find my shoes! I dont feel sorry for her, and I dont believe for one instant that she is trapped there. She has made too many statements that if she leaves, she gets NO money due to the prenup, so she will stay TYVM. UGH! So, please dont think I make a habit out of such confrontations. I am normally a southern sweetie and will smile at some of the worst insults, but there are those days when I can be pushed over the edge, and show up dripping wet and angry that you pushed me in the pool. |
Dej, this is harrassment. It's the very definition of harrassment. If she keeps it up, get a restraining order. This is total madness, imo.
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You go girl! I was wondering how it would go after we talked yesterday and I see it went quite well :D
now, I need you to fly down here to alabama and let my dogs out. they have a car rental at the airport and you can get directions to the house from google before you leave... and oh! don't get here later than 2 in the afternoon, and if you're going to stay the night, you will need to change the sheets on the guest room bed; you know how to use a front loading machine so have at it http://i17.photobucket.com/albums/b53/vvvikki/1rofl.gif |
Yeah, definately not a battered woman. Battered women are rarely if ever domineering in another part of their life. Just a jerk is all:winky:
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I thought there might be a money reason for her staying... sounds like a match made in heaven...sounds like they emotionally abuse each other- a sick way to live...but I guess many do it when $$$ involved.
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And when you're done at Vikki's house can you just zip over a little to your East to my house in GA and give Tigger his medicine? I'm just having the worst time gettin' that pill down his throat and I hear you're pretty good with cats. :o |
UH, my doggy has an itch that needs scratchin.:D
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Dej, you've done it now! :D Good thing we don't have your phone number! :cool:
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Woo hoo, you go girl
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