Lonely, but...
 

It's a trade-off. Sometimes I get really, really lonely. Yes, I'm married, and he's a great guy, but sometimes I get lonely for OTHER people. But then there's the trade-off.

Relationships take energy and assume commitment. I don't do either very well these days. Sometimes I catch myself thinking "Nobody ever calls me." Well...most of the time I don't really WANT to talk on the phone, so I tend not to call people...or call them back.

I don't really want to go places (see other thread), and neither of us do company very well. That pretty much narrows it down. So to over-simplify it, I don't want to be lonely, but I don't want to be around people. I can hear my mother saying, "You can't have it both ways". Well, apparently I can.

Am I making any sense at all?? Sorry...this is the time of night I get really philosophical and really stupid at the same time. :D

Makes total sense to me. :hug: I feel the same way most of the time.

I never thought, when I was younger, that I would feel that way, but that's exactly how I feel, B2Y. I don't have the energy to entertain friends anymore and that's why I don't have as many.:confused:

Blessings, you need a PET!!! ((((warm hugs))))

B2Y, I know exactly what you mean. I have a friend who is single and lives out of state. She calls me every night and two to three times a day on week ends. It is too much responsibility. I have other things I want to do.

I call my mother once a week. She always tells me that she looks forward to my phone calls and they make her day. I could call her more often. My long distance calls are free so money is not an excuse. I don't call her more often because I do not want to be bothered.

I have an Aunt who also lives out of state. She has asked me to send her my phone number many times. I do not send it because I do not want her to call me. Receiving phone calls annoys me.

I though I felt this way because I might be depressed. I'm glad to hear other people feel the same. Maybe it is the weather.

KK, just because a lot of us feel the same doesn't mean some of us aren't depressed! I find it hard to separate fatigue from depression, lassitude from apathy.

Me too!! Why is that?? :confused:

I feel a little lonely and neglected when nobody calls and yet, I hate it when the phone rings.:mad::rolleyes: I comunicate thru my PC...here. facebook and e-mail. It makes me nervous and anxious to talk on the phone.:eek:

I'm an idiot, no doubt about it.:D

I like getting phone calls from people I know (and like). What annoys me is when my phone rings at 8:55 PM and it's a survey taker acting like they know me. They use my first name and start the conversation off with "Hey, (my name)!! How are you?!" Trying to make me think it's a friend or someone I know. It's only then that they tell you they're doing market research and would just love my opinion. :rolleyes: Wish I could come up with a decent "opinion" so they'd stop calling me! :p

Well, then, Sall, we're BOTH idiottes! I get anxious and nervous when I'm on the phone, especially if I don't initiate the call. Not all of the time, but a good share of the time. My thinker works better on the computer than in real life.

Ditto...lonely, but I have phonephobia; I don't like to bother anyone. I also don't tolerate groups very well anymore, and usually have to go home early. I get anxious and the noise is too much.
Blech...:(

I complain that the phone doesnt ring, but when it does I scream out WHAT???!!! what now??!!! its irritating, and never rings at a time when I am rested, and feel like chatting.

I told DH that if anything ever happens to him, im done. im living the life of a hermit. :cool:

I guess we're all idiots!!!:D:p:D

What a wonderful group to belong to:rolleyes:;)

Wow, glad to hear I'm not the only one who feels this way! I never even answer the land line anymore. I figure if it's anyone who knows me they'll call my cell or text me. And I would much rather text or email than talk on the phone. I've explained it as having to divide my attention - I'm looking at one thing (or place) and trying to listen and pay attention to a completely different thing. AAGH! Overstimulation!

There needs to be a 1-900-MS-PORN for that
 

"You are so brave!"

"I think you are wonderful!"

"Let me send someone over right away to do your yardwork."

"I think I'll ask the Doc to write a Rx for you to get regular home massages by a young hunky dude."

"Of course you deserve a nap!"

"No need to worry about your housework -- I'll have Stephan take care of that while you nap!"

"I'll have dinner delivered to your door at 6:00 tonight."

"Let me intercept your phone calls and notify you if any are important."

"Let me call ____________ and tell them you can't possibly attend that event due to your busy schedule."