My Dad
 

My Dad would have been 93 today, and I'm really sad that he's not. I miss him and Mom every day of my life.

Hugs to you.


I know what you mean. My parents would be 86 and 90 if they were still living. My Dad loved kids so much and I miss having memories of him and my grand kids. I have memories of my Mom with them and that will have to do.

I miss my parents, too. I had my surgery (11/22) on their 74th wedding anniversary. I considered it a good sign. :)

B2Y, I feel the same.:hug:

My dad's birthday is coming up in Dec. He died at 57... he would have been 73 this year. 6 grandkids and he only knew 2 of them. I'm blessed to still have my mom around.

:hug::hug: B2Y:hug::hug: I too feel the same. We are coming up on the one year anniversary of my Dad's death. I miss him so much. I can relate to how you feel.:hug::hug:

sorry about your dad. mine is 82 and the grim reaper has been after him for years, but he's doing better than me in day to day living

I totally understand! My mom has been gone since 2006 and my grandma since 2009 and it still ticks me off that they are gone.

In fact, I was just wondering the other day when the holiday season will stop making me cry. Just how many years have to go by before I feel like actually really participating rather than going through the motions?

My mom would be 65 and my grandma would be 88 right now.

Holly, my mom and dad have been gone for over 36 years now...and I still miss my mom and cry during the holidays. I remember her baking cookies and pies, cooking Christmas dinner. It was her favorite time of year.
I think back now and smile more than cry...she taught me so much...she was a world-smart woman with an 8th grade education.
My dad and I didn't get along well, but I understand him now and love him, and also feel blessed at all he taught me.
I wish they could have seen my kids, but they have from up in heaven...

:hug: to all of you who have lost a parent :hug:

This is why today after I got off the phone with my parents (who thankfully live about 10 minutes away) I was so happy to have talked with them and be able to tell them I love them. Every day I get to do that is a blessing.

I'm sorry, my Grandma died 5 years ago and I miss her dearly, but I can't imagine going through life without my parents. :hug:


11/22 is my daughter's birthday, what a great day :) Sorry so many have lost parents :hug: :hug: :hug: to you all.

Today was the first time that I din't glance over at where her old home was as I was going down the highway. Guess I am finally healing.

But I have thought about them both a lot today. Billy Graham is sick and I know that they would just absolutely love to be able to pick his brain once he arrives in heaven.

I am lucky that I have my inlaws...MIL taught me how to be a wife and mom. But I miss my mom sitting next to my bed tucking me in when I don't feel well, especially nowadays. I miss her warmth and nurturance...

My grandparents died over 40 years ago...sometimes it feels like just yesterday. When they would bring me home after my 2-4 weeks summer visit, I would scrooch down in the back seat of their '54 Chevy and cry half the way home. They were around 80 when they passed.

My Dad was just a few weeks short of 80. My Mom was almost 86 and had been on "borrowed time" for years. So neither the loss of my parents nor the loss of my grandparents was "unfair" or a tragedy.

But the downside, if there is one, to being close is that even the happy memories are sad. I was unconditionally loved by my parents and grandparents, and I don't think there will ever be a time when I'm not surprised by sobs when I picture myself listening to the Red Sox on the radio with Gramp, walking "overstreet" with Grandma, playing acey-deucey with Dad, or talking on the phone with Mom.

It gets less frequent, of course, but it's always there...that combination of joy and pain when I remember.

B2Y, you're so blessed to have those memories. It seems more sad at this time of the year.....at least it does for me......because we had such good memories and we know that (in real life) it's not going to be that way again.

But, I try to look at it this way. If I had gone first and they were left to remember me I'd want the same good memories to flood their minds. Even if it meant sadness or tears for a brief while. At least we know that one day.....whenever it's destined to be......we will be with them again and they will know how deeply they touched our lives. :hug:

It was like that for me with my grandparents. We were so close and there were always a lot of tears when visits were over. Grandpa would always slip me a little cash and say "don't get your Grandma to crying now". It never worked (and he knew it wouldn't but it was his way of "doing" something) - Grandma and I were always a mess. Grandpa was 10 years older than Grandma and he's been gone since 1994. I just realized he would be 98 right now. Wow!

I never got past that even when I grew up. When Mike and I would fly out to visit them, he always spent the first part of the flight back consoling me. People must have thought someone died! I even cried after our wedding when I had to say goodbye to them before they flew home.

My Grandma flew out for the birth of my first baby. I remember driving her to the airport after the visit and not being able to drive back home for awhile. I just sat in the parking lot crying until I was calm enough to drive the whole 10 minutes home. Then, I spent the rest of the day crying.

How blessed I was to have them! I can't help but wish they were still here with me, though.

To me the hardest part of life on this planet is losing loved ones...I sure hope everyone's right and I'll see them on the other side...

Apparently you were not their first child....or were you?

My Mom and Dad were divorced, when I was 12, so I don't miss him as much as I do miss my Mommy.:( They would have been 96 and 98..

Talk about communication, Mom and I played Jeopardy every night, over the speaker phone..:cool::D. I don't play it anymore..:(