O.T. I'm freaking out!!!
 

Last night my roommate and dear friend tried to kill herself in our house. She stole some of my perscription sleeping pills and drank a bunch of booze.

Around 2am she started puking waking me up and fessed up to what she had done.

she told me what she had taken and how many. she had puked them up so I fed her crackers and made her sleep in my room.

I am terrified that she will do this again. My anxiety is in over drive. I have been making out my xanax just to stay some what in control and not flip out.

I'm scared to leave her alone! I'm scared I cant trust her. I feel guilty for not paying more attention. I knew she wasn't acting like her self but I'm so self consume with my issues and rehab.

What do I do? I made her call in to work and she is with me all day. I'm so tired but I'm afraid to sleep. This is so over whelming!

Dear mbrook
 

When someone actually tries to kill themselves, they need imediate help. Do not try to tackle this issue all by yourself. a professional is needed. If this person followed through with her want to self destruct, you would never forgive yourself for not taking some action. Please call an emeregency hot line number and talk to someone. They can direct you on how to get help for your friend. Do take on this full responsibilty on your own. It is too much for any person to have to take on. This person needs you, even if she doesn't admit it. Get the help right now, and talk to someone, before she makes a re-pete attempt. She is calling out for help. Respond to her in a way where she can get that kind of professional help. There are such compassionate therapist out there and all kinds of good help. You must now reach for that to help save her life. I am here for you too, and so is Neruo talk. There is a forum for survivors of suiside, that can also direct you to get more help. Don't let this go. There will be people right here to support you, too. I will have you in my thoughts and prayers right now. Take the approiate action to help this dear person. ginnie

Thank you for the support.

She agreed to talk to someone so I called a well trusted counselor from her church. She is coming over this afternoon.

Do I tell what happened? Do I let them talk alone? should I tell her family? I don't want to betray her trust and confidence but I feel traumatized by the events last night.

I don't feel like my house is a safe place any more.

I am here for you mbrook
 

Definately tell those that can help all the truth. I also posted to a person named alffe, and Chemar, a moderator of the site. They will be posting to you also to offer suggestions. I am soooooooo glad you are taking steps to help. I was afraid I lost your post. I am horrible at navigation on this site and didn't want to loose you. Please keep in touch with me. private message and post to the survival of suiside forum, to reach others who have been through experiences like this. There are many GOOD souls here on Neruo talk to help you. You are not alone, and I have posted to others to help you out too. Don't loose touch with me during this crisis. Others will respond to you soon too. You are very brave, and a loving friend to help her. Don't loose touch I am here for you even if I loose a post. ginnie

Hi mbrook
so sorry to hear of this trauma but glad your friend is ok.

I do think you should alert someone trusted as to what happened as you cannot carry this burden alone, and she may really be in severe crisis that needs professional intervention

Here is a list of Hotlines
http://psychcentral.com/lib/2007/com...phone-numbers/

you may also want to keep this site http://www.metanoia.org/suicide

here is our survivors of suicide forum where the members will be able to give you support and also the best advice possible
http://neurotalk.psychcentral.com/forum29.html

Hi mbrook, what a absolutely terrible situation for you. You're doing the right thing by getting someone to come over to talk with her.

Whatever you do though, please don't deal with this situation alone. She really needs to tell her own family how desparate she's feeling and get some professional advice. You shouldn't be left in the situation you are right now as you have your own health issues to deal with.

Is there some way of getting one of your own friends to come be there with you today?

EDITED to add: I see you first posted about 5 or so hours ago.

Please update when you are able.

http://www.dbsalliance.org/site/Page...uicide_suicide
There is also some really helpful info. on this site.

esp.
Recognizing Warning Signs in Others
What You Can Do to Help Someone
Responding to an Emergency Situation

hello mbrook
 

We will be waiting to hear from you. Let us know that things are OK. we all care here at Neuro talk. ginnie

Hi mbrook. You have done the right thing with your friend. Her life is not your responsibility...she is fortunate to have such a good caring friend in you. I caution you not to feel responsibile for any decision she makes...if someone is determined to end their life, they may find a way to do it. The fact that she asked for and received your help sounds like she wants to live, she just wants to feel better about living.

I hope the counselor from church came and that it helped. Please share this experience with her family and please let your friend know that you are telling them out of love for her.

You've come to the right place for support. At the top of the Survivors of Suicide forum there are a lot of helpful threads. here is the link to them..http://neurotalk.psychcentral.com/thread238.html

Please know that you can talk to us....as can your room mate :grouphug:

Her church counselor came over and they talked for about an hour.

I told her that I can't solely be responsible with this knowledge and that we need to tell her parents. She cried and said she didn't want them to know.

I said that they love her and she needs their support. She only wants to tell them that she is having a hard time and not about the suicide attemp.

I called her mom and they are coming over tomorrow night.

My friend is bringing me a lock box for my meds today.

She promised that she would not do anything tonight. But I'm still afraid and I may make her sleep in my room again.

This is all sooooo much!!

Not sure what time it is where you are? Is it too late to organize for someone else to stay the night there if possible so you are not alone as well.

Edited: I didn't phrase that very well. I really meant so that there are the 3 of you in the house. That way you may feel less afraid for her.

She promised to not do anything. I just don't feel like my house is a safe peaceful place anymore. My anxiety is high.

I'm thankful she didnt take my xanax and succeed in her plan.

She doesnt want her parents to know about her attemp but I think they should. I told her that we would just tell them she is having a hard time and needs their support, but the more I think about it I want to tell them.

I know it would be like betraying her but I think she needs to be honest and there shouldn't be secrets.

Advice?

I'm thinking about you two mbrook and hope you had an uneventful night. So glad her parents are coming over and will be made aware of all that's going on. Is she a college student? Upset over a romance? Just general depression? Don't answer any questions if you don't want to...but a little more input into her circumstances might be helpful.
You are doing all the right things....our son killed himself many years ago and it changed all our lives forever. I would not want anyone to have to go through that nightmare.

Sending you positive thoughts this morning...keep us posted. :grouphug:

http://neurotalk.psychcentral.com/forum29.html
 

Hi again mbrook..I would post here....http://neurotalk.psychcentral.com/forum29.html

Sending warm hugs. :grouphug:

And I highly recommend this book...SUICIDE, The Forever Decision by Paul Quinnett

This book is written for people who are thinking about killing themselves and for those people who know, love, or counsel them.
It is written by Mr.Quinnett as the counseler he is....having a conversation with you about staying alive.

It is a paperback and you could probably get a used one on Amazon. :grouphug:

Don't Let Go: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=BjJ2gKcO71M
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Please get your friend to watch the above video...

No one really wants to die they just want the inner turmoil to stop......................

She is blessed to have a friend like you.


David

Hi mbrook
 

I so agree with other posts, get help. Get someone else over there. Please tell the truth to someone who can intervene with professional help. this should not be all your responsibility. Call the emergency hot line. this stress and worry you feel for your friend isn't going to get her the help she needs. Get to someone who can help. ginnie

Last nigh I had her parents come over and we told them everything. Today she called and talked to the church counselor again. We are calling her dr to get in contact with behavior health and get her some MD help.

This whole thing has been traumatic but I thank God she did not succeed in her plans and is now willing to get help.

hello mbrook
 

You did a wonderful and compassionate thing for another human being. YOu got help when it was needed. Thank you for coming to her rescue. WE all care about the both of you. ginnie

She has an appt with her DR and the church counselor is going with her. I've talked with her parents about her staying with them for a few days.

I need a break, I'm not sleeping and am always checking on her. I get worried when she is too quiet and I can't see her. My neuropshycologist suggested the break because my anxiety is so high and without rest its getting out of control.

Thank you all for listening and for your help!! Its nice to know your not doing all this on your own

THANK YOU!

hi mbrook
 

NT won't go anywhere, we are here for you. I so hope your friend gets all the help she needs. You did the right thing. You may have helped save this womans life. It is fantastic that she is getting the council she needs. Lets us know how both of your are doing. I know you have been under alot of stress. Get help for yourself if you need to. When there is a crisis, it drains you so much. You need a lift yourself. My prayers are with you too. ginnie

Re: yes, stay with parents
 

Yes, please have her stay with her folks. You need a break from the constant stress and worry. You will be a better friend to her when you are rested and not edgy. Maybe a short stay for her in a hospital will be recommended. I am glad for her the church rep. is going with her to the doctor. this is the time she needs all the direction she can get. Rest yourself, and allow others to take over in her care. I am thinking of both of you. ginnie