Just received some really sad news
 

One of my co-workers just went into hospice. I was worried it was coming,
but I was still shocked.

Please keep her family in your prayers, especially her daughter who I believe
has down syndrome. Who will be more lost than anyone.

Luckily they renovated a house they owned, that was on their land.
Like a guest house. For her in the last year or so. I think so that she
would be set up somewhere.

But its going to be hard for her when the time comes without mom.

And also for my co-workers who have known her even longer than me.
I've known her for 10 years, and I'm taking it hard. She is such a loving
woman and I worried the first time they found the cancer.

And when it kept returning. But when the chemo, kept giving so much
trouble I was really worrying about this.

So now there is no idea I don't think how long. And its really hard to
say good-bye. Period.


Donna:grouphug::hug:

sending warm thoughts your way, Donna. It is hard to see some one you care about suffer. It sounds as though she has been thru a lot.
(((((HUGS))))
bizi

Dear Donna,

This is hard. I'm sorry. Will you be able to visit her once in a while or send wishes of love?

M

Dear Donna,

sending good thoughts your way, as well as to your colleague who is ill and her daughter. :circlelove:

~ waves ~

how very sad. i wonder if she can be comforted about her daughter. how very sad for her and her daughter. I feel badly for you. i just keep on thinking how sad.
bobby

Oh I should have made it plain, I'm sorry. There is at least on
other son or daughter I can't remember which. She has grandchildren.

And a loving husband. I would really love to go visit her. One of
my co-workers has asked if she is up to having or can have visitors.

And I will go even though it is I believe a 4 hour drive. She was on staff
when I started. She was one that helped me start my job, and learn
to be more confident. She has the same supervisor I do. And was helpful
with learning to take her way.

But more than that she was just herself with all of us.

As to loving thoughts, yes, I will go get a card and I think a gift certificate, because its hard to send something else in the mail. But hopefully her husband or daughter can go get it for her.:grouphug:

Maybe it would help her daughter, that she can go get something, to sooth her mom, at walmart.


Donna

Donna,

These are good ideas -- about getting a gift card. Your friend sounds loving and giving.

M

Oh she is very much both.

And I think IN*SOURCE will be doing something like this too.

But not sure yet what. But it will take them a while. So I am
thinking if I get mine and send it now. Then it will be good.

I even think I could send one for a bookstore. But not knowing
which ones they have makes this hard.

Donna:grouphug:

most towns have barnes and nobles but you can probably find out by calling and asking if they could research to see if there is one in her home town.
Just thinking....
bizi

amazon?
 

Dear Donna

i like the book/gift certificate idea. Barnes and Noble is one of my favorite stores. or maybe one that can apply to CD's if your colleague has a way of listening to them.

you know amazon offers gift cards... that gives a lot of flexibility in gift choice for them, but they'd have to order online... anyway... have a look:

http://www.amazon.com/gp/gc

one kind of gift card you can print out from your computer, so it can be included with the card you send. (i am guessing these cards have a code on them that the recipient would then use to the orders online, but i would check how the process works if you are interested).

just another thought.

~ waves ~

Thanks hadn't thought of that one.

I will do some research. now more ideas than the walmart one.

Donna:hug::grouphug:

Wow, I didn't even get a chance to buy either the card or the gift certificate.

My co-worker died today. I know need to figure out the best way to
honor her memory.

For one thing, I'm thinking of sending the gift certificate anyway. Just
giving it to her daugther. For something for her.

I know its had to be a hard time for her.

Donna:grouphug::hug:

Dear Donna,

I am sorry. :grouphug:

Sending the gift certificate anyway is a good way to reach out to the daughter.

M

A hand written note speaks volumes in todays fast paced world.
So write her a letter and give her a gift card.
Great idea, I am sorry she died. That is so hard on the families.
bizi

Oh so sorry for your lose my friend ! :hug:

I think sending a book plus the typical flowers and a note to her daughter could be a nice idea...

:hug:

I wasn't considering flowers mainly because I'm pretty sure there will
be many already. She was loved by many. I wont be surprised if
many of the states special ed. directors of special ed. co-ops don't
send them too. I know IN*SOURCE will send them from all of us.


I am leery to send or give her daughter a book. Many reason's.
I don't know her reading level for one. But also I'd have to be careful
about the content too.

So I'm still thinking the gift card would be better.

I know she has what you would call services to go with her work
services. So she would have someone to help her get there to use
the card.

Donna:grouphug::hug:

Okay, I have a huge dilemna now.

I so want to attend the funeral. Its on Friday, and I have to
figure out if I can get there and back in time for Derrick's game.

Ugh, I was hoping it would end up being Saturday, even though
i might have to cancel another planned activity.

But life sometimes has to be changed.

Donna:grouphug::hug:

Well, you can always give her a little box of chocolates and/or cookies and, one flower... it is always nice to see some "color" among all this "darkness"... that's why I think flowers are never enough...

I was going to start feeling depressed today and suddenly got 2 flowers... one yellow, one pink... they completely changed my mood... so... *ok, just my 2 cents about flowers :o )

Oh well, you have your family and I think that comes first and it is normal, so, perhaps you should attend D's game ?? If it was an emergency, Im sure you will be doing the opposite and Derrick would understand... but at the end, it is a funeral... :o

:hug:

More the problem is I'm his ride.

Heehee

Donna:grouphug::hug:

maybe just go to the viewing if they have one or the calling before the funeral. then say your good byes and go to his game.
I don't attend funerals anymore.
bizi

Viewing is on Thursday night. And its during the time I have a workshop.

Ugh, and the time before is before the 10am funeral we will see.

I just have to work out the time span.

Donna:grouphug::hug:

Dear Donna

i thought i'd posted already. i'm a ditz.

i'm so sorry about your coworker. i feel badly for her daughter. your thoughts on the coupon make sense, in regard to letting her helpers help pick out something appropriate since there are many unknowns.

do what works best for the viewing and the funeral. for the funeral, maybe you can find Derrick an alternative ride. if you can't, or prefer not to, you can honor your friend's memory in other ways. it will be ok, one way or the other.

warm (((hugs))) to you

~ waves ~

Waves, Its okay, I knew you were thinking of me and us.

I am not going either way. I decided since my cold or sinus's is acting
up good right now. Its not healthy for me.

It would be at least a 4 hour drive one way. So I had planned to go
tonight and stay over night after my activity tonight.

But last night, I started getting so tired and feeling blah again.

So I just decided it wasn't worth the chance of getting sicker or getting
someone else sick.

So I will send a card and thoughts later.

And I will send something to her daughter too.

Donna:hug::grouphug:

Dear Donna,

I hope that you get over the virus and feel better. It was good that you stayed home tonight.

M

Thanks, I have been working to get better.

I didn't sleep well last night. And I slept today till noon. It was a sound
sleep I'm pretty sure.


Now to top it off, I have low brake fluid. I am not a car nut, or even
really know how to put this in. So it will wait on Dale tonight.


So no going to game tonight.

Donna:grouphug::hug: