Please allow me to re-introduce myself!
 

I am so sorry that you were treated so unfairly. I know you dedicated many years of your life, not to mention hours of your day unflinchingly to a place that I opened the door and ran from. I had some awful conversations with several in the higher arena and I chose to come here and be with folks that listened, cared, and were actually in my corner. It was a horribly hard choice to make, but one I have never regretted.

I hope you find the same warm welcome here that I found when I jumped the fence and asked for sanctuary. Altho I may not have the exact ideas on some subjects that come up, I am always treated fairly, respected, and heard even if I am on the other side of the fence.

Welcome from me. :hug:

Sparkers!!! Of course you are welcome here!!!

I am so so sorry for your pain of having to leave a place you love. Especially since you were not even given a good reason. Can you sue them? :mad:

We can be a bit slow but sure here, so don't think just because you don't get a bunch of fast reponses, that we don't want you.

This is the only place I have always felt welcomed, even when I'm bad..:icon_twisted:, which is not very often, of course:rolleyes::D

Please stay and enjoy and fogeddabout "those who have betrayed you".:hug::hug:

Sparky! Yes, I remember you! Ahhh, I'm so sorry to hear something crummy has happened to you. Wish I had an easy answer for dealing with stuff. Sometimes all I am able to do is lean on the Lord and wait for it to be over. You don't want to hear any platitudes, I know. But you're in a good place here, surrounded by people who care. And it WILL get better. It won't rain always.

Hey Sparky,

I think we're a pretty tolerant and understanding bunch over here. Of course you're welcome!

You're going through the grieving process right now. Throw a few pillows, rage and complain all you want - we're here for you.

C

Sparky,

I'm sorry, I don't have any words of wisdom for you.

Just a welcome back, an I'm sorry for what you're going through and a :hug:

I hope things start getting easier for you soon!

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CarolM and nemsmom, thank you for the kind words! A couple days before this happened I told me BF to burn an old wooden plant stand. "Burn it, just burn it; it's falling apart!" I said. Then had tears in my eyes, realizing I was talking about the company I worked for. I knew everything was coming to a head. :(

Karenr, my department may self-destruct but I believe the company as a whole is here to stay. They provide a wonderful product! Unhappy people behind the scenes will keep quietly doing their job.

Sparky!

Hi I remember you!

So sorry you are going through this difficult time.. all I can offer is a kind word..hugs and know we're here for you.

Cindy

Hi Sparky, I've been here intermittently, and I don't remember you, but glad to see you. I too have bad memories, some of them of work, but more of them related to family and university years. I pray God often to "heal my memories". Some days, they go away. Some days they come back suddenly; I'll remember a situation and see it clearly in my mind, and I may start to cry. And so much of these situations were directly related to my physical limitations--probably as in your case? (I don't know what your job was). Because I looked normal, apart from a slightly meandering walk, sympathy was not often forthcoming. I myself did not know what was wrong, and tended to believe reports that I needed mental readjustment. I tried hard to do that mental readjustment, and most of the trying was wasted, but I must say I did learn some things about myself and life through the "wasted" effort.
Hoping the bad memories go away soon and stay away. Yes you are grieving a big loss.
I hope BF is helpful in these times. My husband was so helpful when I was down, just by being there and on my side.

I too have been banished from that same company...
 

I know exactly how you feel....I have my moments where I say, chuck it all, there are also moments I weep for the reasons why, and think I might have done something wrong to deserve this.

I was here a long time ago, but I doubt I am remembered. Just wanted to chime in and say you are loved....(I know you you know this, coming from me, but it bears saying again)

;)

Hey Sparky! Remember when you met me and my DH for that dinner in Chicago? Somebody else was there but I'm drawing a blank on that. Of course you are welcome here! I still go there once in awhile for their arcade but rarely anymore. I'm sorry they treated you unfairly. You did a lot of work for maintaining that website. :hug:

I think I left the area just after the mass exodus about moderating posts. Many folks were fired up and didnt want to have to wait for someone to read, approve of, then finally post their posting. It only took a few minutes, but it felt like censorship and it upset many. It was stated very clearly to me that its not what the site wanted, but was a demand of the MS society that it be done that way. I contacted the MS society and on several levels was told NO WAY was that their rule. The individual sites that represent them can set their own rules. That was just ONE of the many layers of half truths, and untrue things I found going on there.

I adored some of the people there. it was a wrench to let go and walk out that door. I was trying to tell some that I too have MS and its hard for me to sit at my computer for 6 hours to moderate postings. If I can sit for 6 hours, why wouldnt I get a job? it was a hard thing for me in the early days, but I was so information hungry. I read everything I could get my hands on. I worked hard to educate myself about this disease. From what the experts said to what the patients with the disease said.

I have found this place to be more inclusive, and more compassionate and anyone from any forum can jump in anytime and just hug you, or wipe your tears, or calm your fears, or share their experiences, or simply say how happy they are to see you. Even posts such as "where are you?!" or "what have you wiggled in public today?" Funny things to make us laugh and draw us together. There are no lines drawn in the sand to say "you cant speak directly to another patient, you must say it thru me." (that was another site). I tried on many MS websites for size, and this one suits me just fine.

After leaving my post, I was shell shocked, over worked, over tired, overwhelmed and it was an adjustment to not sit at the computer for hours and hours and hours. I was just able to concentrate on MY needs, and being helpful and friendly without the iron glove on. I hope you find the peace, and the rest that I have found in this place. it truly has been a healing well for me to sit and think, or drink, or whine, or cry on MY schedule. its come to be a home for me. I hope it can be the same for you.

Welcome to NeuroTalk, Sparky! We welcome everyone here and hope you continue to come to this website and share your experience with us. We're a really nice group. :)

Sparky, your plight brings back a sad memory for me, of a similar situation I was in with another Company. I was not let go completely, but was asked to step down and take a demotion. I left, hurt, never to return.

So I know what betrayal and petty jealousies can do to a person and a Company.:rolleyes::(:mad:

Please feel better and thanks for joining our happy sick little group.:D

Hi Sparky! Welcome to NT!

I remember you. I'm so sorry about how you were treated. :mad::( Although, when many of us left the company, we left for a different reason. I'm glad you found us over here and look forward to reading your posts and input.

Sparky,
I remember you also...been awhile!!

This place is so great for us...info, hugs, laughs, tears, whine, cheese...the whole works. Occasionally we get a tiny little slap on the wrist when we get too political, but it's to keep us all close knit, IMHO.
That other world I used to inhabit? I got tired of the lock-step attitude...I began to worry about my posts all the time. And being pre-approved before being posted got under my skin big time.

Keep us up to date on how you're doing...:hug:

As has been mentioned in the past perhaps it is prudent to remain focused on this community so we can preserve our long standing atmosphere of friendly support and respect for diversity.

It is really nice here, kind of laid back but supportive and tolerant of different experiences and points of view. :)

Hi Sparky,

As you should know, everyone is welcome at NeuroTalk ;)

Sometimes the best way to deal with those things causing stress is to step back and put some distance between yourself and whatever is causing the stress.

You can sometimes get a better perspective and calm when stepping away from the source. Finding things that occupy your mind and body helps.

I remember you Sparky! Glad to see you hear, I think you'll find quite a few old friends!:grouphug:

Hiya Sparky! I remember your pickled brain avatar, lol!

Welcome here! Make yerself comfy. I hope you remembered to close the door!

:)

I hope the Valarerian Root worked, hon! Love you, my friend!!

:hug:

Sparky, so sorry this has happened to you :(
When life gives you lemons make lemonade-since my husband threw me away a little over a year ago I've been making lemonade-it's getting better :)

Hang tough
Linda (incolorado)

I apologize for talking about other forums...I was angry, and hurt, it won't happen again.

Hi Sparky!
 

Wow! Nice to 'see' you! :)
I can ONLY imagine what went down ...but just for a second: you've got friends to connect and reconnect with, here; that's a better thing to focus on. Walk away from the drama wherever it was, take the positive with you and leave the rest behind for the others to gnaw on if that's how they want to spend their time (and you know some of them do, poor souls). I'm just tickled you're here! You're a delight in my book, always have been.

Becca44 - friend from way back. :O)

What goes around, comes around!!!
 

M.S. is such an isoloating disease. Being kicked when your already down is a horrible thing. I know as I recently suffered a similar fate :mad:!

I hope this thread has shown both of you that you are welcome. :grouphug:

Unfortunately, you cannot unring the bell once it's already been rung.

I should not have had to regain my good standing as I did nothing wrong in the first place. It was demeaning. However, with so few lifelines when it comes to M.S. support, I swallowed my pride and did what I had to do and need not be congratulated.

Here's hoping with all find the support we need :).

Be Well,
Tawanda

spark, so good to see you. welcome to NT.
one thing that helped me when i left my career was to let myself grieve for the loss. my leaving was under less than stellar circumstances.

maybe you could write a letter (but not mail it) to the company and spill out everything you feel.

and maybe you are suffering from some PTSD surrounding these circumstances. would some really short term counseling help?

just some ideas that helped me.

Hey Sparky, sorry to hear that the company treated you so poorly after your years of service. Jocelyn has told me several times that she would have appreciated at least a "thank you very much" when she got finished her tenure. She of course got bupkis.

I think of you every spring when the hummingbirds head north. I still use the link you sent me to watch the migration. :D