I can't take this, anymore!!!
 

I know, I've posted about this, before, but, this anxiety is unbearable!!! I mean, I can't
stop thinking, "I'm 45 and I'm at the half-point of my life and I *don't* want to die, but, one day, I
won't have a choice!! :eek::(

Phyllis

Oh Phyllis, bless your heart. Don't even talk like that. :( Believe me, I've been in your shoes where I was so darned anxious I hated the world, but I really didn't want to die. I fought like the daylights to do whatever I could to make things better. I kept looking for the "right" therapist, the "right" medication, the "right" whatever!!! Unfortunately, since I've got a very addictive personalilty, I got addicted to the anxiety medication. :eek: So I had to stop that!

I found a GREAT therapist, who helped me immensely, plus my husband helped me alot too by telling me to ask myself "What's the worst that could happen?" So I kept asking myself that question when I became anxious and I could always accept my answer. If the answer I came up with was "The world might end, I usually could accept that. ;) If it was " I might faint" --So what?? Who cares? I sure didn't. If it was "I might drop dead" -- Well, so be it. I could accept that too, but no one ever died from anxiety. LOL

So see? There's really not much reason to be THAT anxious, as I found out. I managed to "talk myself out of it" by just asking myself that question whenever I got anxious. Soon the anxiety started easing and in time it disappearred -- and it hasn't come back since. :D Pretty neat, huh?

Just thought I'd share that with you. Actually my husband helped me more than therapy did. Take care & God bless. Hugs, Lee :)

Lee, I'm not sure, you're understanding my issue? I *don't*, want to die, but, I can't quit thinking about
the fact, that, one day, it's going to happen and I'm not going to be able to do anything about it!! :(
I * don't* want to die, but, one day, it's going to happen and I have to accept it, but, I can't!! That's, where
where my anxiety is coming from!! :(

Phyllis























































Lee, I'm not sure, you're understanding my point? I * don't*, want my life to end! I'm anxious, because,


it is, almost over and I can't control that!! :(

Dear Ponygirl
 

Heart jumping out of your chest, can't breath...This is too hart to explain in an reply. My suggestion is to buy this book, Heaven is for Real ;by Todd Burpo and Lynn Vincent. I really believe it will help you. God Bless. Silver

:) Thank you, Silver!! *Something*, *has*, to help!! I'm 45 and I've been feeling this way, since,
I turned 41!!.....:(


Phyllis :(

Sweetie, you've got a LONG life ahead of you. You're no where near the "end." ;) But when it IS our time, we will be with our loved ones, not to mention we'll be with God!!! I KNOW you believe in God!

I look forward to it. Don't get me wrong -- I dont' WANT to die now either, but I look forward to when it is my time. I have LOTS of family who already passed ahead of me, and I will be with them too.

Do you believe in life after death? See, I do. I believe that there IS "some" kind of life after death. We may not have a "bodily" life, but I still believe that we will KNOW of a life. God promised that in the Bible and if you believe the teachings in the Bible, then you know He said we WILL have a life after death. We won't just die, and disappear into nowhere.

So please don't fear death -- for one thing, you're NOT going to die soon. And for another, you will still live after death ! Hugs, Lee :D

Leesa, no, I don't, believe in, God. I don't think, I've, ever, posted around here, that, I did??
I believe, I'll be placed under-ground and that will be the end of it. I'm a very factual person and only
believe in what I can actually see with my eyes. Maybe, that's, the problem?!?...:eek::confused::(

Oh, ok. I'm sorry if I sounded preachy. I didn't know.

But I WILL see you "up there." Just introduce yourself. LOL

:( I just wish that every day would quit flying by like a split second, though!!!!!! :(





Phyllis :(

I know what you mean. Seems that happens as we get older. It does for me anyway, and I'm 63! :eek:

Finally!!!
 

Good to know, someone knows what I'm talking about!! :eek:

Phyllis :)

I'm bumping this up, in case,............................................. ...........
 

:( anyone has any thoughts on how I can knock this friggin' thought out of my head???:confused:
:rolleyes::mad:

Phyllis :p:o

IMHO you just need to accept the fact that we are all dying from the moment we are born. Some of us just get longer than others.

Mr.Alffe's grandmother once said, "A coward dies a thousand deaths, a brave man dies but once". The important thing is to live the time you have.

Abraham Lincoln said "And in the end, it's not the years in your life that count.
It's the life in your years."

:hug:

Dr. Amen works with people who have ANTs...automatic negative thoughts.

This is part one of several videos of his program to remove negative thoughts.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=F90ljFsPXu0

part 2:
http://www.youtube.com/watch?NR=1&v=...ture=endscreen

part 3:
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=RfOHuDqXKj4
has suggestions

part 4:
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=tNt71...feature=relmfu

part 5:
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=WHfEZ...feature=relmfu

Dr. Amen himself used to have serious anxiety issues himself, in the past.

Excellent advice Mrs.D! I never heard of ANTS...well not that kind. :grouphug:

Thank you, everyone, soooo much, for putting up with me like, you have!!
 

:eek: I found a therapist!! I start seeing her on the 21st!!! :D:D:D

Phyllis :grouphug:

Someone seriously doesn't want me to get in to see this person!! Now, I found out that this place has a *bunch* of stairs and I'm in a chair!!:mad: I left a message for the therapist to get back to me.

Phyllis :mad::(:p:o

Hi Phyllis
 

I am sorry you are having such anxiety issues. I don't know if I can help, but I have kind of an unusual way of looking at life. I consider it an adventure, and just maybe there will be an adventure much to our amazement in the next life. All of us get to find out, so I pretend I am Tom Sawyer on some raft, going to explore the great beyond. I am 61 this year. Not in the greatest shape, but not afraid either. I was at one time, until I figured out all of this is one huge adventure, which most of it is unexplored. Hopefully you will life a long long life, and that during your own adventures, your fear will disapate. ginnie

Okay, I give up!!
 

:( I'm the only looney-tune, who, doesn't want to die!...:rolleyes::eek::confused:

Phyllis :p

Hi phyllis
 

You are not a looney tune. Nobody wants to die. It is the hand we are given being human. It is how you look at it, which helps a person to cope. There is a book out that is new, called Mortality. On the best seller list right now.
No religion, or certain ideas, or methods can for sure take anxiety away or the fear. I feel it too, and just choose to go with the flow, and hope my own ending is peaceful. I try to distract myself with reading, doing fun things, and being with my friends enjoying a day in the country. If I fixated on it, I think I would be pulling out what little hair I do have left. Try to live each day, doing something positive, just for yourself. I have a psych friend of 35 years, and gave me some advise when I obsess over something. He said, picture a shelf in your mind, and put that obsession up on the shelf. You are allowed to take it off the shelf for a certain amount of time, then put it away again, and get on with the business of finding some measure of peace and happyness. All of us are in the same boat. Use the good times, for wanting more good times. Bad comes soon enough. It worked for me phyllis, and stopped me from obessing about all the bad things happening to me right now, like loosing my paid for home. Great...don't even know where I will be living. So today, I am working gently out in the garden, I will read, and do something positive so I don't freak. all my best to you. ginnie