FIL is in heaven
 

FIL passed quietly this morning...had a rough weekend, watching him slip and MIL not understanding why he wouldn't open his eyes and did he love her?

She is confused...we all left the room while they took his body out. When she came back in later, she asked where he went, and was so upset when we told her he was gone. got upset again when they took his WC and hospital bed out. She has asked if he'll come back...then she has moments of lucidity and cries...it's going to be rough...

I'm so sorry Debbie.
This will surely be hard on everyone.

Know that you are all embraced within the kindest of thoughts and prayers :grouphug:.

With love, Erika

So sorry for your loss Debbie and for all of your FIL's Family.:(

My Bro, his Son and DH probably grabbed him for a golf foursome, as soon as he got to heaven.

I hope you can get through what follows without too much stress and sadness.:hug:

I'm so sorry for all of your family. You are all in my prayers.

:hug: Debbie :hug:

I'm so sorry. Your family is in my prayers.

Debbie,

You have been an excellent DIL. Remember to take care of you in the coming days.
ANN

I am so sorry Debb. It is so hard not knowing what is going on. All she knows is that her loved one isn't there, just like a child. My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family:hug:

Doydie you hit the ail on the head. My sister in law thought it would be good to move the furniture around once Dad's hospital bed was taken out. Mom took a nap & woke up totally disoriented...and kept talking about it the whole time we visited her this evening.
She will be busy the next few days...then reality will really set in. They were joined at the hip...she misses him SO much already. 69 years of marriage is a long time to get used to a person being around...

Oh and thank you all so much for the sentiments. Many of you have experienced this type of thing and know now difficult it can be. MS Sxs are going crazy so I go home & lie back in my chair hoping they calm down...I don't want to end up in the ER...Need to be there for MIL & DH...

I am sorry for your loss. :hug:

Please know you and your entire family my heartfelt sympathies and understanding. You have been a good and true woman to him and your MIL. I am sorry for your loss.

Finally getting a day to recover. The past few days were hard on my body-prob had a pseudo exacerbation. Balance issues, tremors, walking problems. MIL was so good once she saw him rested& at peace. Had a lot of people come to the visitation & funeral.
She was so upset at mass...then we had a luncheon & took her to the cemetery chapel for closing prayers afterwards. When the funeral director said " the services are now concluded", sister inlaw picked her up our of the chair & said ,"time to say goodbye."
MIL said,"goodbye?" "yes." MIL began crying, laid her head on the casket, kissed it, and turned away. That set all of us off...
She seems to be doing okay today, but she is still having the kids visiting. Once her routine tips back to the new normal, we will assess whether or not we can keep her where she is.
They had a wonderful life together, and taking care of them the past 7 years has transformed my marriage-we know how to cherish one another, and know how precious having someone love you can be. That was their gift to us.
We promised Dad we would continue to look after Mom, and the caregiver has agreed to say on. Thank the Lord-that way she won't have so many changes.

Made me cry, too, Debbie. :( I'm so sorry for your loss. How's DH doing?

It was the days following the funeral.....when everyone started getting back to their normal routines......that were the hardest for me. It was like everything returned to normal - for everyone else. But I was left asking "what am I supposed to do now?". It'll be rough for the next few months for her but hopefully she'll adjust. I know she's elderly and has memory problems. Maybe she can develop a new routine for herself quickly. :hug:

Kitty, DH is doing better now.. The kids from out of town stayed for an extra day to hang out which always makes him so happy.
They're going home today, so the New Normal will begin.
MIL seems okay...cries occasionally, but is eating at least.
When FIL was in the nursing home she would be fine for the first two weeks but then her Alz Sxs would exacerbate. So we will watch her to see if this occurs as time passes.
We are putting her on a waiting list at a catholic full nursing facility in case it is needed...they have a memory care unit there.

I'm so sorry to hear of your FIL's passing, Debbie, but what an inspiration.....being married sixty-nine years! May God hold your family especially close these trying days.........and please take good care of yourself.:hug:

MIL is doing VERY well! Having trouble with word retrieval, but otherwise she is happy knowing he isn't suffering anymore. The caregiver is keeping her busy. We are weaning off our visits-she needs to get used to the "new normal".