Sorry for being absent
 

Dear all,

I feel so bad and sorry for not coming here as often as used to... My life is a mess...

I cant focus as I used to...

Im trying to loss weight and have started doing some exercise but I feel exhausted all day and cant focus in what I have to do like reading or coming here and post useful or smart posts or comments... :/

Basically I feel "weird"... likea zombie ?

I have personal problems, I mean, school is at least working, demanding like always but working better than last semester, however, my relationship with friends, pseudo-friends and the guy I would like as boyfriend are really bothering me and... keeping me out of inner peace...
Actually, I need help understanding ADD... it is not for me (yet), it is for this guy... He just told me he suffers of ADD and, well, my perspective towards him has changed because I think many of his reactions or actions can be due to ADD and maybe I have been very hard judging him...

I have been searching the internet but I havent found a real useful "how to understand ADD people" book or something like that... :/

right now for example, I cant keep writing because my brain feels exhausted...

Please forgive me. And note that you all are always on my mind. I love you so much

Hi,

Does he act disorganized? Is he late? Does he get enough sleep?

http://www.ehow.com/how_5089048_deal-adhd-adults.html
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=N3UR76RHzMA video
Adults with ADHD
. . . world class procrastinators . . . more than than the normal unfinished projects laying around . . . poor follow through



Mari

Mayo

I want to applaud the guy for sharing this with you. This means he not only
feels comfortable with you. He trust you to understand, and want to be around him with knowing this.

I have two son's that were treated as children with ADHD. And now are leading pretty normal lifes. I can tell you pretty much that one has settled
down and his ADHD is under control. Because his biggest issue was the hyperactivity. So once he got older, he wasn't as hyper, and could learn to control the other things. And did so.

The other one is very ADD, and has to use skills to work through this. But he doesn't do this as much as he should. So he still forgets things. And depends on us to remind him. He luckily has me, his girlfriend and dad to make sure he remembers. His main two things he has to remember daily are to go to work on time, and to take his medications.

OTher than this, we have to make sure he remembers to pick up his medications when he runs low. Pay the bills he is responsible for. Come get mail from me at my house. And I have to call him and remind him about
doctor's appts before they happen usually.

I depend on his girlfriend for the everyday things though. And when he starts to realize that he is forgetting to much. He will usually ask his doctor about adderall. Which is what worked for him.

But with his illness, Crohns, or Ulceraticus colitis. We watch if it bothers him.
He finally feels better. SO we don't rock the boat.

Donna:grouphug::hug:

Hi Majo :)

nice to see you! :hug::hug:

This is a classic book on ADD... apparently the revised edition is out:

Amazon.com - "Driven to Distraction"

It is more aimed at people who have ADD or think they might, than folks who deal with others that have it... but it might provide some insight. You might be able to find something by the same author, or just check amazon or google books, for self-help books on dealing with others who have the disorder.

Don't feel bad about not posting. We are always here and we do know school keeps you pretty busy. I am glad it is going well for you this semester! :):) :circlelove:

~ waves ~

First of all, thank you for being part of my life.... Like I have always told you, I feel like this is the only place where people understands me and loves me... Im tired of my "real" life.... Tired of routine... That includes nit inly going to the lab, read papers and stuff, but also, being alone all the time... I spend too much time on facebook because I feel like I free my mind... And well, I have a good friend there... Who sadly, lives in near Doha, Qatar... And who like you, I cant visit or hug in real :(

Now, thanks for all the help with the ADD, I have been reading a lot, I really want to understand him...
I have to admitt he has totally screwed up my life... I mean, not necesarily in the wromg way, but I worry to much about what he does and what doesnt, and what he says etc... And basically I cant focus in my things because Im thinking about him all day...

Im tired of being depressed... Sick... Fat... Loosing my hair etc... I have tried about this with doc, meds help me 80% of the time, but the otger 20% of my time Im so down and blue and disappointed....

Argh.

Surprise!!
 

Hi FB friend :). So, have a bit of a stomach virus bug, so laying around visiting old haunts, including here! Did you know that I have ADD?? I have the hypoactive kind, kind of 'dreamy' as a kid, tho no trouble with schoolwork, etc. Both my son and daughter were Dxed w/ ADHD when they were in middle school, my daughter later Dxed w/ bipolar, personality disorder, etc, etc.

There are lots of books out there, which are good, and there must be some good articles online as well. Look up C.H.A.D.D., an org for ADHD kids and adults. I used to be active in that org, even went to two Conferences on it. I met several authors of ADHD books, including Ned Hallowell and John Ratey, who wrote 'Driven to Distraction', and other books after that. That is a great book, explains alot about how the ADHD brain works (or doesn't work, depending on your point of view)! Many famous folks, comedians, entertainers, etc have been Dxed w/ ADHD, many as kids, like Robin Williams, Jim Carey, oh, can't remember anymore, but you can find articles online about that, for sure!

Sorry you are not feeling well about you personal life right now. I had similar problems in certain parts of my life, and my Andrea certainly did, too. Don't be so hard on yourself -- I KNOW YOU ARE :hug:. Anyhow, glad to see you reach out here. I knew something was wrong, by the way, by your status updates lately on FB :(

Many {{{{{HUGS}}}}}. Take care!

Hi,

:I-Agree:

I so completely understand.

I want meds to cover me 100% of the time!!!! :)


Mari

Haha, yeah Mari... Sometimes Im tired of my meds... sometimes I just love them... sometimes Im ok, sometimes they work, sometimes they s u c k... oh well... :o

Jacquie, my lovely friend I adore... :hug: I didnt know ! Or couldnt remember it... :rolleyes: My memory is really bad these days... or always ? :o Thanks for your post :hug:

Im feeling really lonely tonight... There are too many things i would like to say to this guy tonight, but I shouldnt... I wont. Maybe it is better to keep a friend even when it hurts because I love him and he doesnt love me...

Blah...

I love you so much !!!! :hug:

where did you meet this man?how long have you known him,?
Are you sure he doesn't have some feelings for you, some guys are really shy.
Being friends first is one way to really get to know someone.
I wish for you some sleep tonight and I am really glad that you posted to us.
We love you too and don't want to see you hurting....
(((((HUGS)))))
bizi

are you talking, unrequieted love?
 

Oh Majo,

I am so sorry. Am I getting this right... that you would like to be more than friends with this guy but he just cares as a friend?

(Are you sure he only wants to be friends?)

I am all too familiar with that kind of pain :(:heartthrob: and the desire to simply remain friends in spite of it.

That kind of hurt really sucks, though! :(

Try to spend your time thinking about other things more. If things are this way, it is not good to dwell on it. But you know that right? ;) And it's easier said than done - I know that! Still, we must try, to keep ourselves sane.

In these areas meds don't do squat - sometimes I do wish they had an anti-love pill. ;)

I hope you will find out things are not as they appear. Maybe he does care more thank you think?

~ waves ~

I met him last April... but since August we have been talking... first, it was nothing, then we used to fight a lot, then we became friends and day by day I feel like I love him more and more... Sometimes I wonder if I just idealize him or what, but I miss him so much when we dont talk and I like to re-read the messages he sends me just to feel better...

He is very special, I have never met somebody like him... he is the only one that understands my tantrums, the silly things I do... dont know... I really appreciate him and I really love all we have been through together...

I had some hope until monday, when he told me he was flying all the way to italy to try to save his relationship with his last girlfriend... "the love of his life" :( :( Thank God he said that thru the phone so he couldnt see my face :( I just could wish him good luck and stuff when to be honest I was thinking the opposite :rolleyes: :( He started to say he doesnt see future in this, and that it was gonna be a hard trip, relationship wise etc but still....

Blah... my friends, it is always the same, no one evers choose me... they have always better options to date, love and marry and I always remain alone... :(

I have to go to silly lab today... and I'd better go to get ready...

I love you. thanks for everything.

Oops, sorry waves, didn't read the entire thread properly :rolleyes:. I do have ADHD, after all :D. But I really did meet and speak with the authors several times, way back in the 90's at a CHADD Conference in San Diego, CA .... could be wrong about the time period, I do have ADHD, after all :D.

I have met the author of distraction also. I imagine it was in the 2000's for me. I have the children's book I believe it was made by this author too.

I have it autographed. Its nice too. Not sure were at this point. Heeee.


Donna:grouphug::hug:

yes it does sound like his heart lies elsewhere. try not to think about this if you can.
You deserve to be loved like anyone else.
:hug::hug::hug:HUGS to you
(((((((HUGS))))))
bizi

Thank you Bizi, Im trying to do so.... I wish time could work quicker so I could forget him so soon.... It is hard because he writes to me and we laugh about simple things but... I dont think I can have him as a friend.... But at the same time, I cant just end our frienship from one night to another... :icon_confused: :icon_confused: :Sob: I dont know what to do :(

Have been really sleepy since yesterday when he arrived to Italy... Seems that Im blue and that's why I feel sleepy :(

I love you, you already know that right ?

Mayo,

You just take time one day at a time. Its the only way it will get better.

Remember your going to be fine. And if you quit trying to find a guy he will come. Donna:grouphug::hug:

he is vacationing in italy? does he live near you?
sorry that you are hurting.
(((((HUGS)))))
bizi

He went to Italy to see her :( they split last year, but apparently there is still something between them... She is italian and lives there....

Thank God he doesnt live near me, but even when I dont see him physically, we talk often... :Sob:

Dont know what to do... Should I remain with his friendship ? But this hurt me every day... Blah.

:hug:

I don't think you should remain in his friendship...this is too hard for you.
just my honest opinion.
love you
bizi

Majo,:hug::hug::hug:

Do what is the best thing for you.

M

Hi Blue. It could be that the right guy hasn't come along yet. Don't give up on love. Hope is very strong,and will get you through allot of things. BF:hug::hug::hug:

Thank you all :hug:

Im in the typical situation: Your brain says leave him for ever, but your heart says keep talking to him and trying...

I was getting used to the idea of not talking to him anymore when he texted me this morning... he was talking about his job and his plans... I asked how was italy going and he said it was very hard and that it was enough with that...Didnt really understand what he tried to say...

I dont think he is the right one, but for one reason or another, I cant just block him from my life... everytime I try, something happens and I actually fall in love even more... :(

This is hard.

Thanks for reading. Greetings from the lab !

I can't tell you how much I feel for you Majo.

Your situation is familar to me, personally. :(

Lots of hugs. I hope you can find the strength and illumination it takes to move on, one way or the other... you know, make it or break it.

Some would say patience is the key, and he might come around - perhaps that is why deep down you are hopeful.

It is hard to know what really is "best" in these situations, even if one tries to be practical about it (let alone when the emotions come flooding in!)

Make sure you take care of yourself sweetie, don't lose sight of that.

~ waves ~

Thank you my sister waves,

knowing that you are reading me here and talking to me always help me greatly :hug:

Mayo

We will be here for you. Sending some hugs.

Donna:grouphug::hug:

always here for you
((((HUGS)))))
bizi

Thank you so much my friends :hug:

I hope you know I will always be here for you too :hug:

Love you so much...

Just thinking of you, little sister! :)

I hope this week will offer you pleasant surprises! :)

((( :circlelove: HUGS :circlelove: )))

~ waves ~

My friends Im so sick.... nasty flu and cough :(

Im feeling terribly....

I love you !

Majo,
:heartthrob: :heartthrob: :heartthrob:
What happened?
I hope that you can get some extra rest.

M

Hello my dear friend, I am so glad to see you here! Wish life events were not so complicated. Some day you will have a more settled life and maybe enjoy the dullness or sameness of it. At least school will be done by then.:hug:

I am sorry that you are sick, feel better soon.
((((HUGS))))
bizi

Thinking of you Mayo.

Good well soon

Donna:grouphug::hug:

Hello my beautiful people !!!! :hug:

Still feeling pretty bad with this silly cough... :mad: Couldnt sleep last night... I have to attend a class tomorrow at 9 am :( :mad:

How can cough be this annoying !?

And Im still talking to this guy :rolleyes: argh. Dont know, sometimes he says very nice words and seems romantic... but man, he sent me a "present" and guess what it was.... a 5 cents coin... :rolleyes: It as funny and... yeah, maybe he is not the one Im looking for... hehe

Love you all.

Will go and have a shower to see if I can feel better :(

I don't think your 5cent coin gift was funny.
what a weird thing to do. to actually go thru the effort of sending something in the mail and have it be that.
I am sorry.... that is weird in my book....just my opinion.
bizi

receiving foreign coin ... I would find it cute?
 

Dear Majo,:hug::hug::hug:

I am guessing by your post you don't collect coins. Does he perhaps? Is he still in Italy... did he send you the Italian 5 Eurocent coin? That has the Roman Coliseum on it (I think). Does that place have any significance to him - or to you?

I dunno.... just seems like a souvenir to me. I've had people ask me for Eurocoins before... a lot of people are interested in them. I've also thought of sending them to my friends because I thought it was a cute souvenir.

If i received a coin i would think it was cute. Not romantic... but cute, nonetheless.:o:hug::rolleyes:

I hope you soon recover completely from that cold/flu bug! heartthrob:

~ waves ~

Wow Bizi...

I'm so terrible with mailing things, I never seem to follow through on my intentions... but if I ever get it together with my coin dealy... I'll have to try and remember to scratch you off that list! :eek::o

... which is a mental list so... i might forget, so, if i ever should end up mailing you a coin... well, in our case it is a given that it would not be a romantic gesture lol, but ... i just hope you wouldn't take it too badly? :o:heartthrob:

so many ifs... probly we don't need to worry about it.

~ waves ~

new avatar
 

Hey Majo I forgot to say...

I LOVE LOVE LOVE your new avatar!!!! :):Heart::)

~ waves ~

i love it also!
bizi:hug:

That's the coin he sent me waves !!! And he wrote ciao over it :o

I do like coins, I mean, I collect every single piece of foreign stuff.... Even toilette paper if it has anything special hehe :o I think it is his attitude.... I feel like he didnt send the coin like you would do, with love, Im sure he sent it like "whatever, why finding anything else ?" you know.... :rolleyes: :(

I dont know.... According to him I think "too much", and maybe he is right and I just have to see it like a present, a little gift meaning he is thinking about me...

In other notes, this cough I have got barely leaves me eat, and function properly... Havent slept in 3 nights now.... Argh, pretty annoying !!!