Sweating about the move
 

I am sure you all knew this was coming since we did finally hear something about it, I am not so sure this move is going to be easy to get through. Any moving stinks, I am sitting here feeling really stressed about it all because we're going to be getting a new couch and things are going to be so different, I know it's going to be better, but I am scared stiff about how it's going to work out regarding my son. :confused:

We're not moving some of the furniture, donating it to the local landfill-sigh-he is so hard on couches, they never last us long. Only a few years, so anyway, it's so hard to imagine us getting through this okay, I am afraid he's going to get outside and get LOST or HURT, it's going to rip me apart inside if something bad happens to him at this new place. It's really worrying me how he's going to take it. :(

We've shown him the place, we haven't got keys yet but we should soon, maybe even by tomorrow and we should be able to go do a walk through next week and maybe even start moving some storage tubs into the garage. Oh I am so nervous it's just awful, I will feel so much better when we're there. It's just terrible not knowing how something will work out, its like the grass is greener on the other side, I might find when we're there that I miss the old place we've lived in for six years...Oh I hate feeling so darn conflicted. :( :eek:

Dear Pamster,
things will work out for you.
This place will be different and all you can do is just be careful and don't try to do too much or hurt yourself, perhaps you could enlist someone to just be there to help watch him....This place is going to be grand...
I wish for you some peace of mind.
((((HUGS))))
bizi:Music 2:

Thanks bizi, (((hugs))) I needed a good hug. I am going to have my mom there during the moving process but it's after we're there and trying to establish a new routine that I am worried aboutl. Hopefully it will be better then I am hoping for, but we'll see. For now I am just trying to get to bed and to sleep without obsessing too much over the things out of my reach so far. :p Mom likes to say Tomorrow Takes Care of Itself. ;) But that's only if WE take care of things today IMO. ;)

Dear Pam,
I hear you. I really do hear you.
I was posting a lot about my in-town move (about 2 or 3 miles) last fall.
After I moved, I was still posting. Moving apparently is traumatic for me (who knew!?)

I think that moves are hard for people with extra needs. We develop important ways to cope and moving kind of pulls the rug out from under them for a while. So even though we know that the new place is going to be better, we struggle through the transition. And this is worse when we move with someone we already worry about, like your son.

Please listen to me.
This move is right for you.
You and your family are going to a home that came to you out of something that almost seems like magic. (Magic and a lot of work on your part...a little worry... but you get my point....
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Your guardian angel sent you this home. Don't you think that the guardien angel will make sure that you are well and watched over while you make the move? http://www.thesmilies.com/smilies/innocent0003.gif

And I know enough about you to know that you are a planner. Planners can handle things like moves. You will be good at this.
And your son will be ok. He really will. I know this.

Keep posting to us so that we know where you are.
When is the move date?

Remember this and believe me: this will be a good move.

Mari.

Hi, Pam,
We are here for you.
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It will be better than you hope, but if it is your style to worry about the worst, then go for it. Do it your way.
All I'm saying is that in the end, you will be deliriously happy with the new house. It will be everything you want it to be.

M.

Thank you Mari, I know you're right on all counts. I am a worrier but in this case I feel badly because I won't be able to help move stuff. Hopefully it will all go well, but we've just got two people helping us, my mom and dh's dad. It will be so awesome once we're there, Jackie will have a park to play on and we'll be taking him there almost daily.

You're right when you said we were sent this home by our guardian angel, I had given up on this place when I called another apartment complex to see if they had any openings and was told they didn't BUT that this other place we're approved for now did and to call there to reactivate our previous application. :) It was so difficult getting them all the paperwork they required but it's worth it in the end I think.

Thank you for your kind words, I feel better this morning. I know I will worry about things until we're in there sleeping there and living there, but hopefully it will not be nearly as bad as how I worried about whether we'd get approved or rejected based on our application. THAT was the most stress I have had since Jackie faced surgery on his tonsils and adenoids. :p

hang in there Pamster,
you can do this... you can do this....
(((HUGS)))
bizi:grouphug:

Thank you bizi, deep down I know I can too, but that floating anxiety I have just won't take a hike. I think it will work out all right it's just that I wish I could be more help then just packing stuff. Times like these I really hate my physical limitations. :p But I have to learn to accept myself as I am, my dh and my family have, so I should too. :)

It will all work out. Moving is stressful to begin with, and then the anxiety of everything you have to do to move.

Try and just take it a day at a time, it will all happen, and before you know it you will be all settled in.

Hang in there........Hugs, Nikko:hug:

Thanks Nikko, it's hard to try to live in the moment sometimes, especially when stressing about something looming a couple weeks ahead of you like this move. I am really glad I can talk with all of you about my feelings and I really appreciate all your support. Thanks everyone! :D

I know the waiting is the worst. Then living among the boxes and all until the big day. It's good that you can get the keys and start moving little things or some boxes you don't need, it helps. Even if you get the keys the day before or so.

Everytime I move, I start packing things that I know I won't be using, or knicknacks, books, stuff like that.

We are all here for you....Nikko:hug:

p.s. I hate packing, yet I don't mind unpacking.....LOL

Thank you Nikko, I really appreciate the moral support, it really helps so much. I wish I could just stop worrying about things but there's not an off switch for anxiety unfortunately. I am so grateful for this forum and for all of you, you really understand the trauma and the anxiety problems I live with and that really helps, being validated and understood really helps. :)

My dh doesn't really understand the anxiety factor, but he makes an effort to be there for me so I don't feel so isolated. I thank God for him every day, it's been about twenty years that we've been together off and on and I can't see myself with anyone else. I know you just broke up with Mike Nikko, and I wanted to say that I hope you find a really nice guy when you're ready to start looking again.

I lived on my own for a year and did okay, it was hard being alone, but I had my son and neighbors which helped because I didn't have a working computer for months into that year. It's so hard when you're isolated from people like I was back then, I really suffered a lot of anxiety before I got the dx of BP II. I am really glad I have a good T and that she understands I need the avitan to help with the anxiety that is just gut wrenching.

Two and a half weeks and counting. I hope it's going to be a smooth move, but I am sure we'll hit a snag or two but with my dh with me I won't be worrying nearly as much. :)

Snag was hit today...they won't let us move anything in until the first, we had been told that we'd be able to put some boxes and stuff in the garage and today we were ready to go sign the lease and told no, we'd have to pay prorated rent just for STUFF, no beds, just boxes! :eek: So we're going to have to manage to get everything done in ONE darn day. Oh the humanity! :confused:

I also found out the stove is gas and that we had to have that turned on too in addition to the water and power. Amazing the things that the lady didn't tell us isn't it? She should have given me the number for the gas company, not me having to ask, "Oh btw is the stove gas or electric?" and be told that its gas, quite a shock. I don't know that I like having gas, gas scares me. :eek:

oh this is a snag....
just keep on keeping on...one day at a time pamster....
((((HUGS))):grouphug:
bizi

Pam,

-->Gas is cool. The professionals use that.
And gas is invaluable if you live in a place like I do where one can loose electricty every so often due to natural disasters or due to incompetence of electric companies.

Having said that, I've never used gas and would have no idea how to deal with it.

-->Moving in one day, now that seems insurmountable to me. But you, Pam, are the master planner and you will be able to handle that. You will. :)

Can you find some other folks to help beside the two you already have?
Are you packed up yet? :eek:

(Ha! Sorry to joke about those things. Last night I told hubby that if he buys and purchases even one more item that is useless, then we can't afford to move out of here. Each item he brings home increases the cost and trouble of our next move.
He said he would move without me then. Oh, well. I tried. He can have all the junk he wants and I'll put off the next move off as long as possible. It will be our little game. ;)

M.

Thanks bizi, thank you Mari, you're both right, I know it takes one day at a time, but it's just so frightening to think that we have to get everything moved in one day, probably even one trip. I hope that we're able to get everything done with no snags, but I am just so worried, I wish I could just shut the worrying off but it's there at the back of my mind constantly gnawing at me.

*deep breath* "It's going to work out, it's going to work out, it's going to work out." Maybe if I say it enough the worrying will turn down a notch...hehehehe, I sure hope it does. ;)

Hey....I understand the anxiety, because I hate moving, although I should be a pro at it now. LOL I think my anxiety actually helps me get things going when moving. Because I can't sit still.:confused:

I personally like a gas stove. I have electric and it's just not the same, because you really can't control the heat as you can with gas. At least that's what I think.

What is the heat?

Everything is electric here, and it is more expensive.:(

Hang in there, time fly's..........Hugs, Nikko

I have heard that too Nikko, we used to have gas in the old house and it was cool. The heat is gas too, so hoping it helps on the bills making them less. The electric is definitely expensive. I just got back from paying the water/sewer deposit and feel so happy, it's going to work out. :D

Of course I will still be nerve wracked throughout the process but at least I can see the end in sight today. :)

Fantastic report!
(((((HUGS))))
bizi

Power was already transfered yesterday and the gas is going to be turned on the 30th. It should be really wonderful when we are finally moved in. I expect none of us will wanna cook so I can see us ordering pizza or something. In the move before last I lost a lot of priceless pictures in an album that got thrown in the trash due to circumstances beyond my control. I think that was very traumatzing and is part of what makes me hate moving even more. :p

Though I have long since had to let go of all that I lost, it still hurts, I was just sitting here and crying over it. I have no copies of the pics I lost, which beyond losing the few I had of my real father I lost the negatives and only copies I had of the photos we'd taken when we (myself and two good friends) met three members of Def Leppard. Take a look, this is my at 19 in 1988:

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That link leads to the full sized one of this smaller one.

you are so cute pamster!
(((HUGS)))
bizi

LOL! Thanks Bizi. :D It was a dream come true to meet Rick Allen (their drummer who in 1984 lost his arm to the shoulder) and to mee the other two members was just fantastic. I had such a great time. It was awesome. :D This banner we made in 1993 (my parents are artists and this banner was done in three days) got me FRONT row! I have to say that was the best and the LAST concert I have ever gone to and I am tempted to go see Leppard again this year when they are on the road. :)


NO ONE else had a portrait on their banners, they were done with like spray paint while ours was fabric paint and I still have the banner and would take it with me to the next concert so they would remember me. Rick remembered me and it was so awesome to see them front row. I just wish I had the old negatives of the first meeting, but like I said I have had to let go of them and the pics of myself before the accident. Oh well, time for bed, might have a def leppard concert dream now that I have thought about them so much before hitting the hay.

Anyone else ever dream about celebrities like that? I dream about seeing them again in person and hanging out talking with them about life. Hope you have a great night bizi, take care. :) I will definitely be on tomorrow. ;) LOL!!! Get it DEFinitely? LOL! I am so bad. ;)

Cool - Nice picture.......


Nikko

Thanks Nikko. :D I am really happy that everything is moving forward with the move. THings are hectic but that's to be expected. ;) :D

Cool pic with Phil Collen! I used to have the biggest crush on Rick Savage....I think it was the hair!:D
I saw them about 12 years ago when they weren't doing very well on the record charts. Best seat I ever got to a concert. Then I went nuts over Vivian Campell! Again, the hair thing.:rolleyes: It was an awsome concert!
Ah Hair Metal! Can't live without it!:D

I missed them on the Slang Tour, man What I would have given to have seen them then...I was pregnant that summer and it was too hard to even consider going at 7 months pregnant. But I love all their albums, their music still speaks to me just like it did when I was in high school. I am glad you got to get a killer seat Wendy, that had to have been one rocking show! I can attest to Vivian Campbell's guitaristic prowess, he ROCKS! :D I met RIck Savage back then but sadly those two pics I don't have anymore. I do have one of me with Rick Allen but the Rick Savage pics are gone for good. :(

His hair was so gorgeous and he had on the hysteria outfit he wore onstage when we met and I was like on cloud nine. Didn't get to meet Joe but that's fine with me, I would have been a blabbering idiot had he been there you know? LOL!!!! ;) BUt I will always have a special place in my heart for Rick Allen...He and I talked amputee to amputee and joked a bit, saying the drugs they had us on after our accidents were enough to make us write symphonies! And he told me he was glad he didn't lose a leg and I told him I was glad I didn't lose an arm and we both aggreed that God never gives one more then one can bear. :)

I knew you would know the tour I was talking about.....:D

;) Yup Die hard Def Leppard fan here. ;) I even have some pages on Cyber-Soup about the band and what it was like meeting the three members I met and wrote a 'Retrospective' about my twenty years of fandom. :D

hugs for you pamster
((((((HUGS)))))))
bizi

Hugs back for you too bizi! :D

((((((HUGS)))))))

I love all of you guys, you're so awesome! :D

Decided this thread was appropriate to post this pic I took of me and Jackie yesterday:

Nice picture of you both!!!! :)


Love the shirts!!!!!! Good to see you smiling:D



Nikko:hug:

thanks for sharing!
what a nice picture to have.
(((HUGS)))
bizi

Thanks Nikko and thank you too bizi. :D I am feeling so much happier knowing the moving is coming and that we're gearing up to finish the packing. It will go as smoothly as a move can go and I am not going to sweat it until we're there in the midst of it. ;)