Helpful Information & Links
 

Healing For Survivors of Suicide
http://www.survivingsuicide.com/

Grief after Suicide
http://www.cmha.ca/bins/content_page.asp?cid=3-101-103

The Grief Response
Experienced by Survivors of Suicide
by Barbara Rubel, MA
http://www.griefworkcenter.com/newpage3.htm

Responding to Suicide Survivors
http://www.save.org/coping/responding.html

LOSS - Loved Ones Suicide Survivors
http://www.healingafterloss.org/halo/sos.html

Sibling Survivors of Suicide
http://www.siblingsurvivors.com/

SAVE•Suicide Awareness Voices of Education
http://www.save.org/

Suicide Survivor Sites
http://suicidal.com/depressionlinks/soslinks/

SoBS - Survivors Of Bereavement by Suicide
http://sobs.admin.care4free.net/

Survivors of Suicide
http://www.survivorsofsuicide.com/

http://www.metanoia.org/suicide/

http://www.samaritans.org.uk

www.befrienders.org

http://www.jaredstory.com/suicide.html
If you have lost a loved one to suicide:
For information on a Suicide Survivors support group in your area call
American Association of Suicidology
1-202-237-2280
www.yellowribbon.org
Found this website about what suicide does to those left behind. I hope it makes people who are considering suicide think.

http://www.save.org/
www.journeyofhearts.org
www.mhsanctuary.com/suicide
http://www.healthyplace.com/Communit...son/index.html
A website primarily for men who are suffering from depression or are suicidal: www.theblackdog.net
www.befrienders.org

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www.lifeline.org.au/

here is the ultimate of ultimate LINKS- there are over 25 links in this site, all dealing with SOS ( i think this is a good link to keep, for everyone that comes here) http://www.healthfind.org/Health/Men...SupportGroups/
here is yahoo’s SOS http://groups.yahoo.com/group/surviv...1?viscount=100
this has a chat but you will have to sign up to be a member, http://www.survivorsofsuicide.com/questions.html
here is a link to a SOS message board from ICQ http://web.icq.com/groups/group_details?gid=1491880



BOOKS!!!
Alffe Highly
recommends this new book:
after daniel A Suicide Survivor's Tale by moira farr
Moira Farr discovered Daniel Jones' body on Valentine's Day, 1994. Struggling with deep depression, he had killed himself using a method clearly outlined in the bestselling book Final Exit. Six years later, in an account both deeply personal and thoughtfully political, Farr reflects on Daniel's suicide and its consequences. After Daniel is not a sensational tell-all, a self-help book on grieving, or an academic review of suicide theories. It is one woman's story - beautifully, lyrically told - of her own experiences and her realization that answers come both from within and from looking at suicide in a wider social context. After Daniel reaches beyond suicide survivors to all those who embrace the sacredness of life and love.

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My Son....My Son...... by Iris Bolton
This is the story of Iris Boltons journey through the grief of losing her son Mitch to suicide. She was the Director of The Link Counselor Center at the time of his death.
It is a profoundly moving book...she dares us to grieve and challenges us to survive. It is a gift of hope for those of us left behind.
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SUICIDE, The Forever Decision by Paul Quinnett
This book is written for people who are thinking about killing themselves and for those people who know, love, or counsel them.
It is written in the style of him as the counseler he is....having a conversation with you about staying alive.
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Silent Grief by Christopher Lukas and Henry Seiden
This is an important book about healing. A practical book about coming to terms with the silence that follows suicide...and how that silence is the enemy. How survivors must be willing to talk about it and to find someone who will listen. They must understand that both talking and listening requires a certain amt. of skill, a skill that can be acquired; and they must learn to respond. To respond means to take charge of ones life....to grow.
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Night Falls Fast Understanding Suicide
by Kay Redfield Jamison
Kay Jamison's strength is in the gutsy way she has made her disease (she is bi polar) her life's work. She has a brilliant ability to convey the joys and anguish of manic-depression. This is a beautifully written book.
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His Bright Light by Danielle Steel
This is the true story of her son Nick Traina who struggled with bi polar illness.
Perhaps only a writer of this distinction could convery what it is like to try to cope with a chld with a severe psychiatric disorder...this is a book about what we can do...as parents, as physicians, as human beings.
This is a haunting book...a gripping memoir of a son lost.
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No Time to Say Goodbye by Carla Fine
Carla Fine brings suicide survial from the darkness into the light, speaking frankly and with compassion about the overwhelming feelings of confusion, guilt, shame, anger, and loneliness that are shared by all survivors. Drawing on her own experience and the experiences of the many other survivors with whom she has spoken.
Survivors will find much comfort in these pages...Ms.Fine reassures readers that they are not alone.

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http://www.suicidepreventionaust.org/
Suicide Prevention Australia
- numerous links including
National Help lines and
Crisis lines State by State.

I've collected a bunch of bookmarks that are available to everyone:
http://public.murl.com/moose53/HEALT...HOLOGY/SUICIDE
(press the [page-down] key 4 times.

Barb

http://www.dbsalliance.org/site/Page...?pagename=home


http://www.dbsalliance.org/site/Page...uicide_suicide

What You Can Do to Help Someone

Among the many things you can do to help someone who is depressed and may be considering suicide, simply talking and listening are the most important. Do not take on the role of therapist. Often, people just need someone to listen. Although this might be difficult, the following are some approaches that have worked for others:

• Express empathy and concern.
  Severe depression is usually accompanied by a self-absorbed, uncommunicative, withdrawn state of mind. When you try to help, you may be met by your loved one’s reluctance to discuss what he or she is feeling. At such times, it’s important to acknowledge the reality of the pain and hopelessness he or she is experiencing. Resist the urge to function as a therapist. This can ultimately create more feelings of rejection for the person, who doesn't want to be "told what to do." Remain a supportive friend and encourage continued treatment.
• Talk about suicide.
  Talking about suicide does not plant the idea in someone’s head. Your ability to explore the feelings, thoughts and reactions associated with depression can provide valuable perspective and reassurance to your friend or loved one who may be depressed. Not everyone who thinks of suicide attempts it. For many, it's a passing thought that lessens over time. For a significant number of people, however, the hopelessness and exaggerated anxiety brought on by untreated or under-treated depression may create suicidal thoughts that they can’t easily manage on their own. For this reason, take any mention of suicide seriously.
  
  If someone you know is very close to suicide, direct questions about how, when and where he or she intends to commit suicide can provide valuable information that might help prevent the attempt. Don’t promise confidentiality in these circumstances. It’s important for you to share this information with the individual’s doctor.
• Describe specific behaviors and events that trouble you.
  If you can explain to your loved one the particular ways his or her behavior has changed, this might help to get communication started. Compounding the lack of interest in communication may be guilt or shame for having suicidal thoughts. Try to help him or her overcome feelings of guilt. If there has already been a suicide attempt, guilt over both the attempt and its failure can make the problem worse. It’s important to reassure the individual that there’s nothing shameful about what they are thinking and feeling. Keep stressing that thoughts of hopelessness, guilt and even suicide are all symptoms of a treatable, medical condition. Reinforce the good work they’ve done in keeping with their treatment plan.
• Work with professionals.
  Never promise confidentiality if you believe someone is very close to suicide. Keep the person’s doctor or therapist informed of any thoughts of suicide. If possible, encourage them to discuss it with their doctor(s) themselves, but be ready to confirm that those discussions have taken place. This may involve making an appointment to visit the doctor together or calling the doctor on your own. Be aware that a doctor will not be able to discuss the person’s condition with you. You should only call to inform the doctor of your concern.
  
  Whenever possible, you should get permission from your loved one to call his or her doctor if you feel there’s a problem. Otherwise, it could be seen as "butting in" and may worsen the symptoms or cause added stress. Of course, if you believe there is a serious risk of immediate self-harm, call his or her doctor. You can work out any feelings of anger the person has towards you later.
• Stress that the person's life is important to you and to others.
  Many people find it awkward to put into words how another person's life is important for their own well-being. Emphasize in specific terms to your friend or loved one how his or her suicide would devastate you and others. Share personal stories or pictures to help remind your loved one of the important events in life you’ve shared together.
• Be prepared for anger.
  The individual may express anger and feel betrayed by your attempt to prevent their suicide or help them get treatment. Be strong. Realize that these reactions are caused by the illness and should pass once the person receives proper treatment.
• Always be supportive.
  People who have thought about, or attempted, suicide will most likely have feelings of guilt and shame. Be supportive and assure them that their actions were caused by an illness that can be treated. Offer your continued support to help them recover.
• Take care of yourself.
  It’s not uncommon for friends and family members to experience stress or symptoms of depression when trying to help someone who is suicidal. You can only help by encouraging and supporting people through their own treatment. You cannot get better for them. Don’t focus all of your energy on the one person. Ask friends and family to join you in providing support and keep to your normal routine as much as possible. Pay attention to your own feelings and seek help if you need it. (top)

The American Foundation for Suicide Prevention, also has a huge sections on Surving Suicide Loss

http://www.afsp.org/index.cfm?fuseac...84379C813F8D93

In that section they have a section on Survivors of Suicide Day .. this year it will be held on Saturday, Nov. 22. I just registered to watch the program on my computer.

AFSP, also have walks to honor those we lost and to help raise money to prevent suicide. http://www.outofthedarkness.org/

The book Why Suicide? by Eric Marcus.
Answers to 200 of the Most Frequently Asked Questions About Suicide, Attempted Suicide, and Assisted Suicide
HarperSanFrancisco
1996

I actually just received an email from Eric. Very caring, loving, understanding man. His book helped me talk with my niece and nephew about the hows and whys Grampa took his life.

Best wishes, Nikki

http://www.halfofus.com/

Leaving a :hug: for anyone needing one.

Nov. 22, I don't want to miss this..http://view.email.globalcloud.net/?j...6d0d7e771c707c

http://www.griefshare.org/

I signed up for the daily emails...they help so much! It is like someone out there truly knows how you are feeling and you don't feel so alone in your grief.

They talk about feelings of grief and then have a Bible scripture to help you.

thanks alffe
 

NEW BOOK SUGGESTIONS
for Survivors of Suicide Loss
The following books have been recently reviewed and added to AFSP's Survivors of Suicide Loss Bibliography. Our hope is that these books will offer hope and guidance for survivors at all stages of healing. To view the complete bibliography, click here.
Please visit www.afsp.org/shoponline to order from Amazon.com. Purchases made through www.afsp.org/shoponline benefit AFSP, at no additional cost to you.
SURVIVOR GUIDES
Dying to Be Free: A Healing Guide for Families after a Suicide
Beverly Cobain and Jean Larch, Hazelden Foundation, 2006. Co-authored by the cousin of Kurt Cobain, the lead singer of the band Nirvana who took his own life in 1994, and a crisis intervention specialist, this book combines personal accounts from survivors with practical guidance for coping with suicide loss.
Silent Grief: Living in the Wake of Suicide
Christopher Lukas and Henry Seiden, Jessica Kingsley Publishers, 2007.
Co-authored by a psychologist and a survivor of multiple suicide losses, this book is written with sensitivity and understanding, and offers simple, constructive suggestions for healing along with straightforward information and a message of hope.
SURVIVOR STORIES

Blue Genes: A Memoir of Loss and SurvivalChristopher Lukas, Doubleday, 2008. Christopher (Kit) Lukas, co-author of Silent Grief: Living in the Wake of Suicide, survived the suicide of his mother when he was a young boy. Neither he nor his brother were told how she'd died, and both went on to confront their own struggles with depression, a disease that ran throughout their family. In 1997, Kit's brother Tony, a Pulitzer-prize winning author, took his own life. Blue Genes is Kit's exploration of his family history, his personal journey and his determination to find strength and hope.

Dead Reckoning: A Therapist Confronts His Own Grief
David C. Treadway, BasicBooks, 1996. The author, now a successful family therapist, was just twenty when his mother, a longtime alcoholic, took her own life. Even as he counsels his clients on how to deal with death, loss and grief, he finds himself increasingly unable to manage his own. Turning to his own therapist for help, Treadway includes the reader on his journey of healing as he finally comes to terms with his mother's death.

Never Regret the Pain: Loving and Losing a Bipolar Spouse
Sel Erder Yackley, Helm Publishing, 2008. In her memoir, Sel Erder Yackley, mother of three, provides the reader an intimate glimpse into her family's struggle to understand, cope with, and grieve the bipolar disorder and ultimate suicide of husband, a well-respected judge.

The Suicide Index: Putting My Father's Death in Order
Joan Wickersham, Harcourt Inc., 2008. Wickersham uses an index -- that most orderly of structures -- to try to make sense of her father's suicide. The family history, business failures and encounters with friends and doctors are assembled into a philosophical, deeply personal and beautifully-written exploration of the mystery of her father's life and death.
FOR MEN
Swallowed by a Snake: The Gift of the Masculine Side of Healing
Thomas R. Golden, Golden Healing Publishing, 1996. This book by a licensed clinical social worker explores the stereotypically "masculine" experience of grief. In the author's words, "[a] man reading these pages will find a book that honors the uniqueness of a man's path toward healing. A woman reading this book will benefit not only from gaining a deeper understanding of the men in her life, she will find herself in these pages."
When Suicide Comes Home: A Father's Diary and Comments
Paul Cox, Bolton Press 2002. A father's perspective on the first year following his son's suicide, this book is written in a simple, straightforward way - an easy read for early grief. While written from a father's perspective, female readers (especially spouses) have said that it helped them better understand the male experience of grief. (Order by visiting www.boltonpress.com. Currently unavailable through Amazon.com.)
POETRY/INSPIRATIONAL
A Long-Shadowed Grief: Suicide and its Aftermath
Harold Ivan Smith, Cowley Publications 2006. Written from a Christian perspective, this book by a survivor of his cousin's suicide and former funeral director explores the aftermath of suicide through the lenses of spirituality and theology.
Healing the Hurt Spirit: Daily Affirmations for People Who Have Lost a Loved One to Suicide
Catherine Greenleaf, St. Dymphna Press, 2006. Written by a longtime survivor of multiple suicide losses, this non-denominational book encourages survivors to explore their grief through a series of simple readings and daily affirmations. (Order by visiting www.centeringcorp.com or CompassionBooks.com. Currently unavailable through Amazon.com.)

http://click.email.globalcloud.net/o...600c757c107777

Find A Support Group...
 

http://www.afsp.org/index.cfm?fuseac...DDF23261B4378D


Please PM Curious with information on any other Support Groups. She will Add the information to this post.

For Australians...

Lifeline Australia - Suicide Prevention

BeyondBlue HelpLine


Please note:
If in Australia do not phone 911 in an emergency.
The emergency phone number in Australia is 000.

Australians

Hope for Life

http://suicideprevention.salvos.org.au/
HAVE YOU LOST A LOVED ONE TO SUICIDE?
WE CAN HELP - PLEASE CALL
THE NATIONAL HOPE LINE
1300 467 354 or 1300 HOPE LINE

Caring for someone who is grieving after suicide
 

Suicide Line - Caring for someone who is grieving after suicide

From Suicide Line. Help Services

For Australians

http://www.lifeline.org.au/find_help/suicide_prevention

Beyond Blue Helpline

http://www.sane.org/

Also, for immediate help call Lifeline’s 24 hour telephone counselling line on
13 11 14.

In case of emergency or when life is in danger call 000.
Do NOT phone 911 if in Australia in emergency.
You need to phone 000.

Considering suicide? How to stay safe and find treatment
 

http://www.mayoclinic.com/health/suicide/MH00054
Considering suicide? How to stay safe and find treatment
Despair and hopelessness may lead you to think about suicide.
Learn how to stay safe, get through a crisis and find treatment.
By Mayo Clinic staff

a perfect example of support!
 

Thank you for these links Wish...
 

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Q7bT2OiTnig Part 1
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=foP-sPzL9U4 Part 2

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Helpful links
 

The Trevor Project
http://www.thetrevorproject.org/


Stomp Out Bullying
http://www.stompoutbullying.org/


Matthew's Place
http://www.matthewsplace.com/


Pacer Center -- National Center for Bullying Prevention
http://www.pacer.org/bullying/index.asp


The Jason Foundation
http://www.jasonfoundation.com/


Stop Bullying Now!
http://www.stopbullyingnow.hrsa.gov/kids/

1-800-799-SAFE for domestic abuse, physical or emotional
 

........................ 1-800-799-SAFE

............................ is an incredible number

It's a safe number to call if you are abused in any way - physical or emotional.

They can probably give you the phone number of a local clinic that can help you so many ways ....

They can give you a safe place to go, even take you there.

They can give you gentle, kind counseling in a safe place -

They are available 24 hours a day, seven days a week.

If you need legal help, they will help you find it.

If you make a scary trip to court, someone will be with you if you need it.

You can meet other women just like you (if you want to) in group sessions.

Not every area has such a local clinic but most do.



** Thank you Wren for this information.

Crisis Information - Lifeline Australia and Spinz New Zealand
 

Lifeline Australia - Providing care in times of community crisis - CLICK HERE


Suicide Prevention Information - New Zealand = CLICK HERE

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http://forsuicidesurvivors.typepad.c...ide_survivors/

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Wanted to add these two but couldn't edit my last list.
Shocking family tragedy in my state this morning.

Kids Helpline - 1800 55 1800 and www.kidshelp.com.au

Parentline - 1300 30 1300 and www.parentline.com.au

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=8h2UVJiIhNk



D:hug:avid

http://www.fcc.gov/guides/dial-211-e...unity-services


Thank you tied for this important link! :hug:

http://www.suicidefindinghope.com/content/videos

and another one: http://www.suicidefindinghope.com/

Felt these two should be stickied here.

http://heartbeatsurvivorsaftersuicide.org/index.shtml

excellent site

http://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/...ptible-suicide

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http://www.afsp.org/index.cfm?fuseac...1B55D56C229A75

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http://www.helpyourselfhelpothers.org/

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http://www.nami.org/Content/Navigati...ill_Listen.htm

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Just bumping up this important thread of helpful links.

Alffe has this one in her signature, but here it is again for anyone struggling right now
Suicide: Read This First