alicia
 

I have permanent help for thursday. she has a large family five children and 11 grandchildren/ she is an animal lover. she has three beautiful cats and two dogs the dogs are poodles which she has groomed. One is a standard and one is a minature poodle. the little one is a boss she has 11 grandchildren. she wore pearls around her neck and a bracelet. she had a beautiful tcoaat. she was so nice.most of the time was talking. next week we through out books and i think i know where to put all the pills.so much time was watching pudge to figure out if she was still sick.she seemed to get healthier. she comes from a very happy family. very healthy. I lucked out
pudge slept most of the time on the bed. abby was really showing off

I'm so glad that you are enjoying Alicia's company. She must have a lot of stories with all those children, grandchildren, and pets.

I'm so happy Pudge is doing better :)

alicia is a dynamo. I tried cleaning a bit I did the kitchen and bathroom sink and started clearning off the pills from the table and chosing books to throw out from the book case, I am far from done. I paid the porter ten dojlars to remove those books downstairs.she started sweeping and did under the bbed without my asking her. she is sixty. she did the laundry. I gave her perfume i didn't like, a pair of slackss I liked and all my top sheets I never use. wow

You cleaned...wow, I am impressed!
have a good day!
(((((HUGS))))
bizi

but so far i really lucked out on the two wonderful women! I am in sshock

Isn't Alicia's job to clean for you?

you know i am bipolar and eccentric and have had a very difficult time with housekeepers. I pay 75 cents an hour and they get ten dollars an hour. it is a state program. My legs really hurt from the stroke and arthritis.
I really made the first one i had for five years work and i did nothing. she quit.
I did give her things though:wink: I really am a nice person.

I know that you are a really nice person :hug::hug::hug:

When I was a home health aid and did cleaning for clients under programs like that, I didn't expect my clients to clean before I got there, and they never did. It is really, really nice of you to try to lighten Alicia's load. I just worry about you doing too much :hug:

I am sure that you were a fine aide. I know that you made life easier for many patients. You were a god send to them.
(((((HUGS)))))
bizi

Thanks Bizi :)
I know I was great at my job, whether it was in home care or in one of the hospitals I worked at. I'll always be proud of the work I did :)
I have a cherished box of cards and letters from former patients and clients.

I did not like my clients any less because they were messy. If they were, I would usually work harder and faster so I would have time at the end of my cleaning, etc to spend time with them if they were pleasant. I met so many lovely people...

i can;t give alicia and marcia enough. it is a compulsiooon like spending. they are so nice. alicia feeds ten feral cats a daay.

You sound happy when you talk about your people.


M

i am happy especially with marcia .....i told her my fears that she might leave it....she makes me feel joyous. alcia is a really good person

People seldom hear how much they are appreciated. I'm sure it makes them feel good :)

alicia forgot to do the bathroom. she did the kitchen and the floors. she really likes cats and she is a a good person. as I said she feeds 10 feral cats besides her own. she doesn't do much work. she allows me to stay in bed and tells me to rest. is it all right not to mention it? I am sort of angry. Yesterday I really felt awful. I overate. my depression returned.

maybe wait to mention it if it happens again.
What are you angry about?
bizi

i got angry at her. she does so little. I did the sink and toilet and it took less than five minutes

well she provides more interaction and joy it seems, she is more than just a house keeper to you right?
I am sorry you got angry with her, perhaps you were more disappointed than angry?
bizi

you are right. I just hate to be taken advantage of

I would remind her next Thursday that she forgot the bathroom this
week. And make sure before she leaves she did them.

Donna :hug::grouphug:

lately there has been a lot of conflict going on in my life and I can't take it. Now every time I run into cecilia since I asked her why she hit me on my scar there is tension in me but I guess since it happened there has always been tension and fear. I have been having trouble with the pharmacy and their trying to overcharge me by their carelessness. I still don't know if they corrected it. They just did it again. Alicia is tough. should I look for trouble? Now I am getting a little allergic to my cats' fur. I am getting itchy a lot.right now I am nauseated.
I didn't take my antidepressants til now and was feeling psychic pain. so self destructive. I didn't take my klonopin. My terrace almost flooded. I am so stressed out. I fought with my nephew. I think it is over with stella. the senior center is going okay though

youare right. I can't avoid conflict. On thursday when she comes in I will tell her she forgot to clean the bathroom and will chck before she leaves. I will do it without anger but if I don't do it the anger will grow and it won't work out anyways. I just don't understand. I am very good to her. I give her things. She doesn't have to do much. I even tell her she can go do shopping. she probably thinks i a a jerk

She probably does not think much. Do not worry about what she is thinking.

I hand my cleaning lady a hand written list when she arrives. She adds to it usually -- the stuff she considers standard for cleaning.

I tell her what I want done first. For example: "These three things have to get done today first."
That way I know that they will get done.


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I do also kind of leave her alone after that to do what she considers the important things.

but wouldn't you think that she shouldn't be told to clean the bathroom

You are right.

I am thinking that there might actually be something wrong with her head/thinking processes.

It could be that she just plain forgot, but…

Do you remember how I said that sometimes I spoil good people and then end up feeling taken advantage of?
It could be that you have put her in the friend zone and she has forgotten that her primary purpose for being there is to take care of your housework.

I think that it would be a good idea to remind her right off the bat in a casual way when she gets there that she "forgot" to clean the bathroom as others have suggested. She needs to be reminded that you can be friendly, but she is still there to clean.


If you are seeing a pattern of conflict with others lately, you may be suffering from agitation, so it's a good idea to make sure you take your Klonopin. How is your mood? Are you still up?

I am just so tired. I am not up. I have to tell her in a friendly way

Bobby

I have the same problem of thinking someone will be mad if I say
something. And get worried and obsess with it till its done.

I hope that makes sense to you. Just from my own experience is this.

I think she will be fine with your reminder. And honestly will probably
just say she is sorry and go right to it.

Donna :hug::grouphug:

thins are progressing with alicia. I keep on giving her things. she has been buying me the big cupcakes that I love. even gave me a banana. Yesterday after the thursday lecture ends in about five weeks I told her she can still take that hour off. I found out that she prays every morning when she wakes up for her family. she said that I could pray for myself since I don't have a family. I hadn't thought of that. I thought it was easier for me to meditate on God because I don't have an intimate relationship like husband or children. she said no. She takes good care of herself. I am in a very strange mood

People often pray for God to give them strength, etc.
I don't think there are any rules when it comes to prayers, and I think you can still pray and meditate on God :hug:

I'm glad you have such a good relationship with her because she seems like a very positive person.

How is your mood strange?

I am not sure if some of my clothes have disappeared. I have given a lot to alicia which I will never wear again but there are new clothes that I bought that I can't find...like two that I can think of. I asked about a pair of blue ones and she said she didn't know but she supposed put them away. then there was a green outfit and all i can find are the pants. I like her. Part of me can't be bothered because I am really exhausted. I am very generous. she hasn't taken any money. Marcia I totally trust. I just can't take any pressure. she really loves animals. I give her an hour off to do outside whatever she wants to do. she does the minimum. most of the workers at the agency are awful.

Don't ask Alicia to put away any of your clothing, even if it would make things easier on you if she did it. Then you would know where things were, and would have a better idea if any of it turned up missing :hug::hug::hug:

I would also keep an eye on where other things that are near and dear to you, and count your Klonopin on a regular basis. Money may not be missing, but hide your check book. And no, I don't think those are paranoid things to do...

It would be very disappointing to find out that someone you really like and have been so generous to is stealing from you, but it's not unprecedented. It happens all the time :hug::hug::hug:

I could tell if she goes into the cabinet where I keep my pills. I will put away my clothes from now on or watch her. she does the laundry and has to put away the clothes.. I am so unbelievably generous. I forgot if i mentioned I buy her cats little cat toys. she isn't even my size and she is short.

I am obsessing about the missing clothes. I think I will ask her if she thought i meant she could take some of these clothes not just the others. I am wearing the green pants but can't find the green jacket. I just found the green jacket. all that obsessing for nothing. two other things i don't know about though

Maybe you will find those, too.

It would be nice to find out that you don't have to worry that Alicia has been dishonest with you :hug:

i don;t think i have to worry. I gave alicia a lot more clothes and asked what she did with them. she said she gives them away. yesterday she even cleaned the mirror and didn;t take her free hour off. we talked. she commented about my overbuying and i told her it was an illness and the doctor would decrease my antidepressants if he knew I was still doing it. se told me she got her eight year old mexican dog chi wawa(can't spell it ) when he was three weeks old.

I'm glad you don't have to worry about her, and she decided to spend the hour talking to you. It's always nice to talk to another animal lover :)

i had written that she feeds 10 feral cats and helps rescuing animals!

She really is an animal lover then! Feeding all those cats and taking care of all those animals she rescues must be expensive!

alicia and i have the same birthday. yesterday she may have had thrown out batteries from bed bath and beyond. I called them. they will send me another pack free. I told them they might have been thrown out