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Things to be thankful for.
You know we talk about what we are going through healthwise and I guess the reason I keep my happy mood up most of the time is because of the support I have in my life. I told someone the other day we needed a mood that said almost there because sometimes I'm not quite happy but I don't want to put up the sad mood.
I have such good friends and family. They have been there for me through everything. I lost my husband Bill in Nov. He was my life and it's been the hardest thing I have ever lived through, 2nd and third being losing Mom and Dad. My daughter has been there for me all through this. She lets the boys stay with me a lot so I won't be alone. My ex-son-in-law has been the same way. I have 2 great stepkids back home but I talk to them a lot. My step-daughter just got diagnosed with diabetes so she's haviing it rough. my stepson is so great to me. When he was here I gave him Bill's clothes that he wanted, his watches and his belt buckle that had Bill on it because it is his first name also. I have my PCP who has came through for me through all I have been through. If he knew what I was going through today he would be giving me hell for letting things get to me. I have so many friends from the old forum that came here to the new one. The ones that didn't, call me and email me. I have met 2 in Denver when I had my TOS surgery. They came to the hospital to see me and one helped me through a lot. Course there's all of the ones here that have stood by me through everything that I go through and have gone through. I have a lot of good friends around here. They are always calling me and checking on me. My best friend is around 70 and is in the nursing home. I fear I'm going to lose her soon. I have my son-in-law that thankfully has a good job and has helped me get my new place and try to move on since losing Bill. I have my nurses that help me and give me support in everyway. As I said, there are some very good people on this forum that have been a Godsend to me. I started this thread so that others might come on here and tell me what they have to be thankful for in their lives so that we can think about the positive things we have. It's hot here tonight. The humidity was up really high today but I did get out. I went to the pool and watched Dustin and Devin show me how they have learned some new diving skills. They are so proud of what they can do as I am of them. Hope all of you are having a great night and think about the good things God has given us. Ada |
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Ada,
I am always thankful for you. For all your problems, you find time to check in on me and send the kindest thoughts and love. Just the right days, just when the need is the strongest. I am so hoping the VNS can be readjusted and you find great help it gives. Love Di PS I posted on a thread Frogga started before I saw this. |
Thanks Ada! WOW! My list was much longer than I thought it would be! LOL
Ada,
What a nice thought, to start a thread like this! Thank you. I have many things that I am grateful for. First and foremost, I am grateful and thankful that I have my kids. I don’t know what I did in this life to deserve them...but whatever it is, I am glad. Together, we have beaten so very many odds. You see, I was only 17 when I got PG with Meghan. I had her at 18, and Jay at 20. I wound up divorced when I was 22, after 5 years of living in a marriage from Hell. You name it, it went on between my husband and I. Not a place for me, and especially not a place for my kids....so I left. According to statistics, Meghan should have dropped out of High school and already be a momma herself. Jay should have also dropped out, and probably have fathered a few kids by now. They both should have had HUGE discipline and behavioral problems. At least Jay should have already had a criminal record of some sort by now. They should both have some sort of addiction problem...and especially have a problem with alcohol (since their father is an alcoholic himself). This is what you hear “everyone” say kids from a broken home, with a teenage mother and alcoholic father that doesn’t have much to do with them..right? If you add in that I have stayed single, and I wound up disabled on top of that....with drugs in the house that the kids know about....well....that just kinda nails the whole thing shut for them and their future. At least according to the “experts” out there. But, some how....for reasons I don’t know....I was blessed with two of the best and most wonderful children on the face of the earth. Neither one of my kids EVER had any disciplinary problems at all. They sure haven’t run afoul of the law. They don’t do drugs...and they don’t drink. Both have graduated High School. Meghan has gone on to the Community College here in town to take classes for her Cosmetology Certificate, and has been on the Dean’s List the whole time she has been there (3 semesters so far)! She is engaged to be married next year (she is shooting for June) to the boy she has been dating since she was in the 10th grade. Jay has gotten accepted to a Private School, for which the competition to get in is SUPER high. He has set his sights on being a pilot and getting his Aerospace Science degree, with at least to other minors (with a possible 3rd...as he wants to learn German, and is considering a minor in that). Meghan hasn’t wound up pg, and Jay hasn’t gotten anyone that way. Somehow, we have beaten the odds not once, but twice! Like I said, I am thankful and grateful for my kids, and for the young adults that they have turned out to be. I am thankful for my family. Without them, I don’t know where the kids and I would have been, or what we would have done. Especially for that almost 2 year period when I was fighting for my SSD. I am thankful and grateful for my parents, and that we were able to overcome some HUGE obstacles in our past (I was disowned when I got pg and married). I am thankful that we were able to all come together...and be closer than we ever were before. I am thankful that happened BEFORE I wound up with RSD, and I am grateful that we have only become closer since RSD. I am more thankful and grateful then I can say for my brother. I thank God each and every day that he is at a better place in his life, and that I am able to call him up and talk to him. That I get to see him in person is a gift beyond any thanks I can think of. For so long, I thought that the next time that I would see him wound be at his funeral. Thank God that is not the case anymore.....and that I just heard from Greg last night. That wouldn’t have been possible only a few years ago. I am thankful for my friends. I am thankful that the people that I thought were my friends are not around anymore....and I am thankful for the true friends that have stuck by my side through all of these years. Some of those friends are folks from the Forums. Some that I have known from the very first time that I ever got on line to look up and then chat about RSD. I am thankful for all of them, because they pulled me through MANY sleepless nights, and some of my deepest darkest depressions. Without them...without the old BT board (LOL, and the one before that, and the one before that! LOL) and this place (and ICQ when we were all chatting on that), I don’t think that I would be here today. There were times that the thing that helped me the most was being able to log on, and either go to the ICQ thing to chat, or to the old BT chatroom to chat. We would have a BALL in there, and it would always lift my spirits. That also happened when I was able to join in supporting a new person too. To have a place that I could go, to get support, to have a shoulder when I needed one, or to get a laugh when I needed one (even if I didn’t think I did), was a huge gift to me. It still is, even though there have been so many changes. I am thankful for the folks that take the time to read my long posts. Thankful when something that I say can help someone in some way (if they have been able to read it), and thankful just to know that there are folks out there that care. In some ways, as crazy as it might sound, I am thankful for RSD. The reason for that is because I have learned many lessons since RSD came to live with me. Lessons that I might not have learned, not learned as well, or maybe would have taken much longer to learn, if it weren’t for RSD FORCING me to learn them. Maybe, it was God’s way of getting my attention....and getting through my very stubborn hard head that I needed to learn these things. That I needed to learn to be more Patient; that I needed to learn how to Accept things that can’t be changed, and how to work with (or around) them as best I can; that I needed to learn to be more Empathic then I was before, even though I thought that I had a lot of empathy for others. I have MORE now. I needed to learn to have more Tolerance in all kinds of ways. To tolerate yucky things that I couldn’t change or avoid, to tolerate uncomfortable and painful situations and not loose my temper (I have a very bad temper), and to tolerate other folks that are not having good times, and that lash out at others in their pain and panic. All of those things are things that RSD has kinda sorta forced me to learn. SO, I am thankful for that. I am thankful that I can wake up each and every day. I am thankful that I still have my mobility. I am thankful for each and every second that I have been able to share with my children....and with other folks that I care about. I am thankful for my furry babies too, as they offer their own types of comfort and support....and force me to do things on days that I don’t want to get out of bed. I am thankful too, that I have so much to be thankful for! Thanks again, Ada, for starting this thread! I hope that more folks join in and add what they are thankful and grateful for. Love and :hug: Jose |
Hi DiMarie and Jose,
DiMarie thanks for your kind words. One thing I have seen in all of the years on the TOS forum and RSD forum and others you have been a constant steadfast asset to all of us. Even through what you have been through this year you have stayed around and helped so many others. You are intelegent, kind, funny, helpful. I am thankful for your years of friendship. I am thankful also that you have your family to help you through what you have been through. No one should have to go through life without loved ones.
Jose, You brought up some good memories. The fun we had on the OBT was unforgetable. The kindness, the love, the friendships, the laughter. There was such an array of good people on there. I still have a lot of them in my life one way or another as I'm sure you do. I can remember all of your stories as your kids grew up and what you were going through. You have came a long way as have I. You are very blessed to have your Children and blessed that they have chose good paths to follow. What you need to remember too is that you got them to where they are today along with their intelligence and good hearts. I wanted to start this post because I know we donot just have trials and tribulations to go through. In the back of my mind I try to keep the thought that I have some of the greatest people in my life and have had. I'm thankful for my sisters and brothers also. After losing 2 sisters and a brother to cancer, I still have 6 left. One of my sisters is coming up Sat. I am so excited about that we are going to try and take in a lot of sites here. I'm worried about the heat and humidity and my feet but I am hopeful that we can get to do some things. She's ok with just sitting on the front porch though and talking. She's been keeping me going also even more so since Nov. I hope others will reply to this thread. There is a time and place for everything and we need to find a place in our hearts and lives to be thankful for what we do have. Love both of you. Ada |
Gratitude :) I was told a long time ago when I was tempted to start a pity party to grab a piece of paper and make a gratitude list that it would turn my mood around. It's one of the best tools I have now.
Even if it's just the basics like a roof over my head and food in my belly :) I do have so much to be thankful for and that is what keeps me going. First a friend who told me about this board many months ago .....knowing I can come on here any time of day and read all the hope that is here :) For all those who do the research, even if I can't understand what it means at least I know there is research being done. For the first PM I got, it kept me coming back here. My husband, I don't know what I'd do without him and his ability to make me laugh even when I'm in all this pain. My friends and family for trying to understand and helping me do the things I used to be able to do on my own. They help without taking my dignity away. My sister who is coming home from Iraq next month...safe and sound...after being gone for over a year from her own children and husband. She has been an inspiration to me. My first grandbaby is due in September...it's a girl. I can't wait to meet her. My camera, for helping me focus on the beauty that is all around me. My PM doctor who has stood by me in all my denial and frustration. I could go on and on....and I am thankful for that :) Thanks Ada for making me stop and think :grouphug: Jeanne |
Love A Happy Thread!!!!!!!
i am happy for my two wonderful children, their spouses, and six wonderful grandsons, and twin boys on the way!
i am happy for my cats that love me whenever and no matter what. i am happy for my gardens that i managed to still keep up again this years. i am happy for all of you and all your ideas and good advice and your never ceasing way of always being here to support each other. i am happy i met sue here who has lived so much the same life as i have that it is scarey and yet wonderfully comforting. love, joan |
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These things too I am thankful for. But I have only one son married with a grandson. Di |
HI DI,
aren't grandchildren the best???? i adore mine and can't wait for the twins to be born!! mine are 19,17,15,14,7,5 and two on the way!!!!!! joy! joan |
Hi Joan and DiMarie,
We all have those Grandkids to keep us going don't we.
Dustin and Devin just left here. Dustin's birthday is Saturday and he is planning a swimming party. He will be 14 and Devin will be 13 in Oct. Joan, 8 grandkids. That's great. I love babies. I would love to have some babies that little too. Yo are truely blessed. Oh by the way, are they spoiled. LOL Ada |
I was getting dinner ready before I came on here and I was thinking to myself, what a bad week I had. The 2 falls, losing my house, but then I thought of so much that I have.
Iam thankful for my husband. My 3 daughters. My 5 wonderful and cute grandkids. Iam thankful that even though things seem bad, we have stuck together. Iam thankful that I have found all of you. Iam thankful that I have come to terms with my sister, she'll never change, she has a house, she,s healthy but, things matter too much. I love her very much and hope she finds happiness some day. And last but not least, Iam thankful for Joan. She knows what my life has been like from the start and I know I have found a good friend. Sue K. |
Thank you sue ... right back at ya Sue!
and Ada, i do have to say, no i do not spoil the kids at all except with love. i play lots of games, and give them tons of time, and i never yell, but i am a stickler for kindness and politeness. so no ... no spoiling! can't wait to read more "i'm happy for ...." from others. love, joan |
Hi Joan,
Dustin and Devin aren't too spoiled either. Like you those two get all the love they need. I can remember laying in bed with Dustin when he was about 4 and he said, " You know Grandma, I wish every kid were loved like we are. I thought at 4 he'd already noticed things.
I'm very proud of those two. They both made the honor roll this year. Their soccer team took 1st place in their division but only losing 1 game. They both are in football and the coaches come looking for them to play if they don't join the team. One of my nurses' husband is one of the soccer coaches and he coached them for years and then Devin wanted to do football and they coincided and Dustin ended up on the city soccer team for some reason. Last year Cindy ask me if I could get them to be back on their team and Susan and I got them to do it. They both said they were already done with soccer and that they wanted to do football but they did both. The have the greatest step-dad and I'm very happy with him being there for them. Those two keep me going. They trust me and they talk to me about everything. They trust me. Their step-dad taught them that thank you and welcome thing. They are very polite to people. I agree. They need all of that more then anything. Sue and Jeanie, I am glad you wanted to come here and tell us what the good is in your life. We need to keep that in focus, don't we. That's what keeps us going. Ada |
I am thankful
for all the encouragement that I found on this board:) That I have somewhere to go to vent and I know others will understand, without judgement or thinking I may have a "screw loose" somewhere;)
I am thankful for my crazy family, my husband, three kids , four grandkids and my big bone beagle (read fat):D , plus my restaurant cat. For friends that have made me laugh and sometimes cry, but remained friends for a lifetime. And they did not have to be my friends, we chose each other as family. Unlike my own family that didn't get to chose and wanted at times to trade me. I am thankful for the ten years I had to own my own beautiful restaurant, and for all the great customers we had. I am thankful that God gave me the gift of cooking and that I was able to share that gift with so many people over the past ten years. And I am very thankful none of my food made anyone sick:Demonstration: LOL!! I am thankful that I have a medical Dr. that has made me feel like life is still worth living. And for my faith that has helped get me where I am today. And for all my angels on the other side that watch over me-keep up the good work;) I am thankful that I have enough to share with others, one of the great joys of my life is sharing. And on days when everthing hurts I am thankful that I can READ- thanks to all my teachers-I love to read!!:) Reading makes the worse day better!! And as you read this please know once again I am thankful for each of you. This is the BEST board on the net:grouphug: Carose |
i am thankful for carose. she is a wonderful caring person..and i'm blessed to call her my friend. :hug:
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I remind myself daily of what I have to be thankful for. It does wonders for keeping me upbeat and positive.
I am thankful for my wonderful hubby. He is literally my other half as he feels my pain, even when I try to block it. He is my rock and my life. I am so lucky to have someone who loves me so much and after 14 years together and 13 1/2 of marriage, he still finds me sexy as heck!! :D I am thankful for my 4 handsome and beautiful, wonderfully smart children! They have grown up into awesome young adults. My oldest is in Iraq at the moment. Now I truly understand what other parents have said when some have been interviewed and they say they avoid news programs or just don't watch much tv. My oldest daughter has 2 more years of high school to go, she'll be 18 this Nov and she wants to go to college. She'll be the first one though she hasn't figured out what she'll be yet when she grows up. :) My oldest son at 16 can take apart any engine, from a radio or lawnmower to a car and put it back together and it purrs like a kitten! He's going to be a mechanic and a whiz bang one at that! My youngest daughter at 13 will be in 7th grade this school year and is going to be a vet when she grows up. She made up her mind about that at 8 years old and is one goal she will achieve no matter what. Despite the rough start my older kids had they surely didn't succumb to what so many people would say of them, all the gloom and doom talk having come from an alcoholic father. I'm quite thankful I was able to escape from their father when they're were still very young and they don't remember the abuse their dad put me through. I am thankful for each day I wake up even when it's to thunderstorms and pain. When I got RSD I realized how much I was missing in life and this has forced me to a much slower pace and a much greater appreciation of all that life holds. I am grateful for each day that I have with my kids and hubby and cherish each moment and memory that we make along the way. I am thankful I can still feel, still move and still walk on my own. Even though feeling means pain, it's better than being numb. It reminds me life can be changed in the blink of an eye but if you pay attention you realize just how many lessons you have learned and will continue to learn. It focuses my attention outward to the world and compels me to educate others about our disorder, even though it may be just one person at a time. That one person tells others and has already become a chain reaction that in time we'll see the result of though we wish it was sooner rather than later. Life is too precious to waste away crying, so I laugh, A LOT. It helps make life brighter and I honestly do laugh much, much more than I ever have before. I am thankful that I can laugh and hear laughter. It draws rainbows in the air and wipes away clouds. I'm most thankful of all for being a part of the RSD community and being able to meet so many wonderful people from all over the world who are always there for each other. :grouphug: Karen |
THANKFUL that we have each other!
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There are many things to be thankful for. Today I would just like to say how great it is to have such a wonderful group of extended family members to share our ups and downs with. You guys are the best! :grouphug: :cool: EJ |
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