is loyaty a bipolar trait?
 

can we be loyal when the other person doesn't deserve it?

Don't know????
bizi

When I was younger? I don't know.

Now, I'm not loyal.
I drop people or at least keep them at a distance.
Parents and siblings I keep because I have to.

:grouphug:I think loyalty is more a thing with your personality.

I know I'm not bi-polar but I'm loyal its just my nature.

Donna :hug:

did iyt start when you were very young?

If your asking if I was loyal when I was young.

Yes, I had very few friends, and seemed to be sick a lot.
So I was loyal to those who stuck with me.

Donna :grouphug::hug:

I think I got loyal the older I got.

I agree with Donna that loyalty is a personality trait.

I think you're more likely to express the trait if you've been conditioned to because of events in your past, like Donna was, but sometimes people become really loyal because of how they grew up and evolved as people in general.

But sometimes people grow up in very dysfunctional, and sometimes abusive, families where there are no close connections, and loyalty to friends becomes extremely important.

I've been loyal to a fault in the past. I've (mostly) learned it's at least more important to protect myself over others now, and not get involved in contentious situations...

When I really think about it....
I have become more loyal as I have gotten older.
I am protective to a fault to some of my friends, I need/value their friendships and Jeffs too.
3 of my closet friends are getting divorced/ going thru hard times right now.
I feel loyal to them.
bizi

By loyal do you mean standing by someone and staying with them
and trusting each other?


M

I think that is a good question, Mari.

Is it that strong bond and everything that entails, is it defending someone you love against possible abuse or accusations from others, or both?

I think it is both. It is being there for someone even when something better comes up and listening even when you are not in the mood but the person need s support. I hadn't thought of trusting someone but that is so important rather than a one way street. a best friend tried to steal a boyfriend. I stayed friends with her which was sick

I started this thread because i thought i might be faced with a decision about home attendants and dropping one if I liked a new one.