You can't make everyone happy....
 

I told my friend she could give me liquor but who wants to be a drunk

this morning I was thinking of my father and felt compassion about his drinking. he had a family to support and came from a formerly wealthy family. I am sure he was bipolar. he was a lawyer and he had ups and downs in his practice but still insisted on sending myra and me to private school and private colleges. He had so much pressure. No wonder he drank. he was depressed most of the time except for tennis watching sports and sizzy.

Most people can drink without getting drunk, or ending up becoming alcoholics. It's different for some people for psycho-social and biological reasons.

A high percentage of people with bipolar disorder will face drug and/or alcohol addiction at some point in their lifetime.
Please read this article:

Bipolar Disorder and Addiction | Dual Diagnosis

I think it's really nice that you can look back at your father's drinking behavior with some compassion now.

I made peace with him after he has his stroke and he became my hero but i had never felt compassion til now. that was a very good article. I don't think it would have helped my father because when he drank it took away his depression. when he was depressed he was unreachable. I think i have my father's chemistry and easily get high when i drink and get of my depression but i think it is a waste of life.

Thank you Kay for that.
bizi

Ha!
 

one more!
 

my husband would love the coffee one.

Donna :grouphug::hug:

There is no way to please everbody, and you shouldn't make that your goal. Trying to be a good person/good friend is the best you can do, even if you miss your mark from time to time, as we all do :hug:

I think you should try harder to make yourself happy :hug::hug::hug:

Thanks kay!
I try to be a good person....maybe I try too hard?
bizi

Agree that focusing on one's needs can often help most of us most of the time.


M

otherwise it can be superficial

You know its taken me quite a while.

Almost 16 years to be happy that I can make most of my parents
happy. And that I have to accept its just not possible to make
all of them happy.

Some just don't have realistic ideas. This isn't exactly what you
are talking about.

But its what leads me to work so hard to please people.

Donna :hug::grouphug:

I started this thread to lighten up the discourse, not for judgement on my character.:mad:
bizi
I give up....think I will close this thread.:(
sigh