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Hubby and I had a "talk" that involved my crying that went on
for a long time. Also some yelling on my part. I can be thankful perhaps
that he is calm and not crazy in the same way I am.
HE DOES NOT GET IT!
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The genes run all over the family tree. I am trying even if it seems that
I am not.

Not feeling rested or strong or capable. And do not even feel like showering except that I
have to be at work in the a.m.

M

Oh mari,
i just read what you wrote.
I am so sorry to hear that you were crying for a long time.
((((((HUGS)))))
I wish that I could be there in real life to help support you, be a friend.....I am glad that your hubby is calm, but am really frustrated with him that he does not get it.
:hug::hug::hug:
bizi

Thanks, Bizi,


I just ran across this and somehow found it somewhat helpful:


Isaiah 40:28
Don't you know? Haven't you heard? The LORD is the eternal God, the
Creator of the ends of the earth. He does not grow tired or weary; and his understanding cannot be fathomed.


M

I hope that you can get some rest tonight.
(((((HUGS))))
bizi

thanks so much for the quote. it is so easy to forget. so sorry you are going through a very rough period instead of just the rough times you usually have.A lot of times lately I ask myself why

I'm sorry that you have to keep having these talks and/or arguments in an effort to try to get your husband to understand how hard things are for you- and he still doesn't get it... and they must be so terribly draining (for lack of a better word) :hug::hug::hug:

I should stop explaining things to him. It makes him feel worse and that does not help me. He's already got some issues.

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I made it into work on four hours' sleep.




M

Is your husband trying, but unable to really understand or act upon what you want/need him to do?

I understand that you are considering his issues, but I think you have a need to express your feelings and keep trying to get your needs met :hug::hug::hug:

I'm glad you got some sleep... not enough tho :hug:

Just thinking of you tonight.
(((((HUGS)))))
bizi

Tuesday, when I ran into hubby at work, he told me his throat hurt

(When he's sick I have to guess what he means.)

. . . . so on the way home I bought soup and fruit and other things.
He had a low fever/ with aspirin and some sleep it came down to normal in a four hours.
By the next day, he still felt awful with congestion or whatever -- does not explain things very well.

I guess he is feeling well enough to go to a 100% B.S. (not-required) meeting
tomorrow/Friday -- although I have advised that he stay home.


M

Yes. It's all that.

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It's not so much that I am going out of my way to consider his issues, he is sticking to his system -- very habit driven -- and nothing I can do to work
around some of them.

He's undiagnosed ADD/ADHD and some verision of Autism/ Aspergers.

Work buddy, without prompting noticed hubby's ADD and mentioned it
to me when I brought it up.
Some do not notice what it is but others might notice something off, and
others like Work Buddy alert to it.


Not so much with me but with others, hubby can wander off if they are talking and then says something to make them think he is following along.

With other things he can focus for loooong periods of time.
He is definitely a creature of habit. He absolutely follows a routine 100%.

When he is stressed I have had to make an appointment to talk briefly
to him about something I think is important. He agrees we will talk when he
finishes whatever he thinks is important.

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If we are both upset all bets are off.

M

Your husband sounds like a complicated man. I'm sorry that things are so challenging for you, Mari :hug::hug::hug:

I am glad he has his good points. at times he sounds like an overgrown child.

Yes, re the child.


Except children are more flexible I believe.