Alffe
 

I just wanted to send you a post to say a big "Thank you" for being you.

You spend so much of your time and energy helping others and sometimes we get busy and forget to mention that we care and that we thank you for all that you do for so many people including myself. This can happen with or without actual communication which is the very neat thing about this medium of the internet.

Reading snippets of articles that you've posted in the past or reading about what's happening with Cooper or your dinner dates or trips here and there... well that's all part of that "standing beside you and being there with you" feeling that I often get. I know you do all those things as well as spend so much of your time devoted to others and we love you for that, Alffe. You're a good person and a good friend to so many but you must take care of yourself as well.

Anyway, I once bought my daughter the cutest little t-shirt when she was a very young girl and it read...

Don't stand in front of me
I may not follow
Don't stand behind me
I may not lead
Just stand beside me
and be my friend.


Want a cuppa out on the verandah??? We can dodge the rain drops.

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I was thinking that if you wanted to do something less quiet, we could always try zorbing. :D

http://www.abc.net.au/rollercoaster/...ts/default.htm

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((((Alffe))) :hug:

Well said, Lara. :)

Ah - bless your big heart Lara .... and bless your WONDERFUL way of 'speaking' :hug:

"zorb, a gentle slope and a willing participant (called a zorbonaut) are all that's needed to start zorbing. Once the journey is underway, a zorbonaut feels a strange sensation of weightlessness and sees a view of blue sky, followed by green grass, followed by blue sky, and so on."

:D Well who could resist that! :D Have you tried it Lara? Mr.Alffe and I love rollercoasters and I have a picture on my fridge to prove it!

Thank you for this lovely thread. Somehow I have such an inflated ego that I don't get the fact that it's ok for me to hurt, struggle and then share it here...I am fond of saying that "talk" is my thing but then I don't want to apply it to me. :(

In Bible study they passed out these elastic wrist bands to remind yourself not to complain....and when you complain you have to move it to your other wrist...my purple band has already done much "traveling". :D

I haven't been sleeping and have a racing mind...I'm still angry at Michael for killing himself and suprised at how weepy I am after all these years!!! And to blame a newborn baby for my unresolved grief is just plain ludicrous!! But I seem to be stuck with this for the time being. :mad:

Michaels' birthday is a week from today and I always post him a birthday thread here...I may have to tell him how angry I am at him...but then he probably already knows.

This is a long windy way to say how much you all mean to me and thank you again for your support over the years. I'll get better...I promise! I told Lara that I don't want to be a horrible example...:rolleyes:

((((((((HUGS)))))))
I love you
bizi
:hug::Heart::hug::Heart::hug::Heart:

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watch for snail mail. :D

My My Miss American Pie! *grin snail mail aye? I remember what that is.



We had a dinner party for our Pastor last night...*whisper..lots of snapping of the wrist bands going on! But wanted to show her some support and have fun together...Lord knows she gets enough grief.

Long story short....today I'm rearranging cupboards and throwing out dishes...lots and lots of dishes and glassware..well actually I'm boxing it and putting it in the top of the garage for the church rummage sale.

I mean what do you do with all this stuff if your kids don't want it and you never use it! If Mr. Alffe had any idea what I've pitched that was his mothers he'd have a hissy fit!.

I have some idea how Wren feels................;)

And Bizi, I love you too. :)

(((Lara))) Thank you for taking the time to express so nicely what we all feel.


(((Alffe))) What more can I add.......

(((Alpo))) You didn't even tell me I'd be arriving on Michael's birthday. I hope that's okay. I can wait til Sunday if you like.

You are the foundation of this forum, always have been, even back on BT before that became...well, you know.

You're the best dear lady. It's a privilege to know you. :hug:

((((((LARA))))))))) :hug:
((((((((ALFFE))))))) :hug:

You BOTH are part of the reason I am here. :grouphug:

Oh Doody, in addition to everything else I'm losing my mind! Michaels' birthday isn't Sat it's this Thursday and don't you dare come one day later. I'm looking forward to having someone new to play with....Mr.Alffe's games are getting old....:D

I left you a message at yahoo....let me know if you don't get it. :rolleyes:

Hugs for the room. :grouphug:

((Alffe))

If it were me, I'd go ahead and write the angry birthday thread. Mothers do that sometimes (get angry) - ALL mothers do that. It has nothing to do with the overwhelming love we have for them.

I did it with my mother for years after she died. When the anger/pain was overwhelming, I'd go to the cemetery and yell at her about everything she put me through - and then some. When it was all out, I felt empty. After a while it started to dawn on me that I'd never be able to change my past. If it was impossible for me, it was even more impossible for her to do anything about it. We were stuck with what we had together, and it sucked for both of us. :rolleyes:

You know now how much I love, admire, and respect my mother now. You know I've completely forgiven her. There was a thread in the Sanctuary recently dedicated to mothers who cared. I posted because I really am thankful for my mother, but I'm sure it looks like an angry post. I couldn't lie and say everything was great. If I hadn't endured what she put me through, I wouldn't be strong enough to deal with the life I'm living now. :)

I'm sure Michael knows what he did ripped you apart - he's also strong enough now to listen to your angry words. You'll never be able to change what happened, but what you endured together has given you the strength to reach out and help others in a similar situation. It's an opportunity for you and Michael to work together on this - using your life and his story. It has given you the opportunity to prevent something like this from happening in another family. :)

There are times when I'm really angry about my situation, so I rag on mom. I can picture her up there saying "yeah, yeah - well it wasn't peaches and cream living with you either!" After that, all I can do is laugh. Kinda useless to cry because at least we had SOME time together. :o

If you ever feel guilty for being angry at Michael, just think of some wisecrack he'd give you. He couldn't have been a perfect child - and I'm sure you weren't a June Cleaver either. :p

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:hug:(((((((((((KATHYM))))))))))))))))
You are a GIFT to all of us! :circlelove:

Not a day goes by that I don't think of my estranged son, Derek.
He will be 30 this year.
I didn't see him grow into a man.
I lost him when he was 22.

I know lots of you know my story (for those who don't - Derek left my life when I chose a path he didn't understand - I left my 22 year marriage). I am not grieving the death of my son... I am grieving the loss of a way of life which is overwhelmingly sad when I allow it to be.

The interactions that "happen" "HERE" in this forum are what hold me together. Sharing our lives has given us all a bond that most don't understand.

We can be forever grateful that each and everyone of us has an angel and a reason why we are here. Our reasons are different ... Our reasons are the same...

:circlelove:

(((Addy)))

:hug: Thinking of you today, Alffe.

I also hope you got back to sleep last night too.

Thank you my friend..I'm sure I'll sleep tonight.

Alffe, you are a wonderful friend, that has been so supportive to me over and over again. I don't know that I can offer much in return, except to love you unconditionally, and be there for you should you ever need it. I admire you so much!

After everything that has already been said, I don't know that I can add much more about how good it is being a part of this place! I've leaned on many of you for lot's of difficult situations I've been confronted with since my divorce. The support you have offered is priceless to me! Without this place, I'd have very little support at all. I'm so thankful for all of you!!

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Well I couldn't ask for more than unconditional love Kimmy. Thank you. :hug: