Can I watch his last breath?
 

:cry: Doug will be taken off of life support today around 3:15 to 3:30 whenever everyone can get there. His dad told me he would see to it that the hospital would allow be to also be there. I'm not sure if I can handle it though.

Oh Barb,
They will medicate him so that he is not in any pain.
He will probably go peacefully with diginity....
You have some special memories of your relationship with him.
Today You can go and say your good byes and not be there when the let him die naturally off of the life support.
Keeping you in our thoughts today.
((((HUGS))))
bizi

((((((Barbara)))))),

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I'm so sorry :( I didn't think it was going to be this soon :(

I wish more than anything that you didn't have to go through this -- feel this ...

I know how hard it hard it is, honey. I was with my Mom when she took her next steps. His family will be there for you, you won't be alone.

You'll see that what was so special about him wasn't his body -- it was his spirit, his energy. That energy will go on now to become part of The Universe.

You'll see, too, that he's not suffering anymore.

This is speaking from my own experience and from my heart, Barbara. You'll want to be there. He was very special for you and you for him. You'll want to give him this one last gift. He'll want you there with him.

If you really feel that you can't be there, though, don't beat yourself up. We all do what we're capable of doing. And the caring and love that you gave him over the past months was a gift beyond any imagination. I shudder to think what kind of hell he would have lived in with that 'creature' that he had living with him.

Hold on tight to all of us, Barbara. BREATHE. If you need to talk, we're all here.

Bless you sweet lady. And bless your dear friend. I'll say a prayer for him tonight.

Barb http://chocolate-moose.p5.org.uk/MIN...s-together.jpg

My BIL went in the very early morning, he wasn't on any life support, just went naturally at his time.
His son was sitting with him and told us - "He took a breath and let it out and that was it..."

It is up to you as to how you feel about being there {in the room}, but since you have spent so much time you might have a better closure if you are near so you can say a goodbye before they take the body.

I only add this because when we got to the home where BIL had passed it was very strange to not see him in the bed where we had been caring for him. They called the county right away in the middle of the night and the body was taken, so we didn't get to see him a last time.
Until the funeral - but that is a different situation {public} and his was 4 days later.
I would have rather touched his hand and said goodbye before the body had been taken away.

God will guide you through this difficult time. Doug will be at peace and out of pain. You have been his Angel, never forget that.

My thoughts and prayers are with you all.

:hug:Nikko

Barbara :hug:

You are so strong and have shown us all what an amazing person you are. Its will not be easy and you should do what you feel you are up to. Remember Doug as he was. You are his angel

God Bless you and Doug. :hug:

you have been so unearthly wonderful to him...if you are not sure of the consequences, maybe you shouldn't go. You have already moved mountains...true giving is when you don't diminish yourself in the process.
I am behind you a 10000 percent
hugs
Bobby

I just got back from the hospital. I just had to go. Doug is in a coma and the hospital won't pull the tubes until his power of attorney gets there who is not family. I lost it in the emergency and left Doug's room until I could compose myself. Doug did move his one hand in the emergency when I talked to him but I didn't know that was possible if your in a coma. He could go very soon or last days after they cut off life support.

Right now I'm numb.

:hug:

i know how heart wrenching this is. don't feel that you have to be there. doug knows how you feel about him. keep remembering special moments.

his pain is almost over.

may the lord be waiting for doug with open arms.

((((((Barbara)))))),

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Barb :(

This sounds so hard to bear....
(((((HUGS))))
bizi:(

when my father was in his coma, he came out of it and told my mother and me to shut up....his final words on earth...we were fighting about my sister...my father always said we would never let him die in peace lol.....how prophetic.....there came a point when he was in the coma when I felt he was no longer in his body..as if his soul had departed.....I also "saw" a bust of three holy men besides his bed at one point....at the funeral I had the strongest impression that he was looking down at me from the skies and his body was just a container...no longer my father....it was very comforting....
try not to be alone during this period if you can....use this board to express your emotions if you can and know we are so close to you.
Bobby

I wish I knew what to say Barbara, I know you're hurting right now and I wish I could do more then offer some hugs. :hugs:

Take care of yourself BF. :(

((((Barbara))))

Barb

As you know my friends family just went through this with their daughter.

And they were there when she went. But they wanted to be because it
was how they said their good bye's. So I would just go say good-bye
to him when you are ready. And let that be it.

He will truely understand and he knows how you feel.

Remember he is your soul mate, and he knows you.

Donna

Barb - True what Donna said you and Doug are soul mates.

I believe Doug knew you were there in the ER when you spoke to him.

I know this is so difficult, but you have been his angel and he knows that. Knowing that you where always there for him and did all you could should make you feel at ease with no regrets. Doug will always be watching over you and in your heart.

Take care, go easy, and remember all the times you both laughed together and had good times. Try not to be alone at this time either.

You will need time to grieve, but God will help you through. Have faith.

We are all here for you too.

:hug: Nikko