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Nikko 09-14-2007 07:11 PM

Befuddled please check in
 
Thinking of you, hoping you are doing okay, please check in when you are up to it.

:grouphug:Nikko

moose53 09-14-2007 07:58 PM

((((((Nikko)))))), you're an angel :hug: I was just going to post the same thing.



((((((Barbara)))))),

I know you've got someone visiting. But, I'm getting the feeling you're curled up in a corner hurting.

Please know that you're surrounded by friends that love you and support you and are praying for you http://chocolate-moose.p5.org.uk/MINIS/pinkbluehug2.gif.

Barb http://chocolate-moose.p5.org.uk/MIN...ding-hands.gif

befuddled2 09-14-2007 08:33 PM

Thank you everyone. Moose, your were just about right. I was kind of in a corner hurting. I tried to keep as busy as I could also. I hadn't had a wink of sleep since Wednesday night. Today I saw my domestic abuse counselor and she said that she would go with me to meet with my Rehab. counselor. Now that I have raises some questions he is getting nasty also. I have things coming at me from all directions now. The hospice nurse got crappy with me yesterday morning and I got crappy back. Doug told me Wednesday night to report the home health care nurse for her sitting on her butt. I did call yesterday the proper people and there will be an investigation. I feel like I could eat a ton of chocolate right now.

The good news is that doug is comfortable and now responsive but barely. He spoke with me tonight when I took the cab to the hospital and back. He said, "hey," and later "can you get me a propel," which I would give to him every day. It's funny because his brother was right by his side and I was further away but Doug asked me for things like I got to pee and wanting the propel.

befuddled2

Mari 09-14-2007 08:48 PM

You are amazing, Befuddled.
Amazing and deserving of much.

Mari

Pamster 09-14-2007 08:57 PM

Ditto to what Mari said, you are simply one classy lady and have a heart of gold BF. :D

moose53 09-14-2007 09:38 PM

((((((Barbara)))))),

Yeah, you are -->> a heart of gold and a wonderful friend :hug:

When I had my Mom at home in hospice, we had some real winners. Luckily, my son (who was 11 at the time) made a real good spy :p

One of them was SPECIFICALLY TOLD not to move the bed because it was broken and we were waiting for a part to come in to fix it. Don't you know, she moved the bed to put clean sheets on it -- why?? I have no idea because the headboard was against the wall and both sides and the foot of the bed were RIGHT THERE. No reason to move the bed. Especially, with my Mom in it. Dumped my Mom on the floor and then she calls me at work all upset.

Krikeys :eek:

Had to arrange for a new bed (rental) and the police department and the fire department to come and transfer my Mom on top of the mattress onto the new bed.

Needless to say, "stupid" did not come back after dumping my Mom on the floor.

The other one -- a kid (late teens) was on the phone (my phone) for 4 straight hours to the Cape (Cape Cod) to her boyfriend. My son told me this one. Needless to say, she was also gone but not until she reimbursed me for the phone calls.

These were professional, certified people from the Visiting Nurses Association. I'm a certified home health aide so I know the training involved. But, just because you're trained and certified doesn't mean you've plugged your brain in today.

The woman that I finally got was an absolute blessing. An angel walking on the Earth. She was a nurse in France and married an American doctor. She wanted more hands-on with the cancer patients so she gave up the nursing and became a home health aide. She even came the day after my Mom passed and helped me clean up the house and sort out the medical supplies that hadn't been used so I could take them back to the pharmacy.

There are people like her out there and we want to make sure that those are the people that have the responsibility of taking care of our loved ones. The stupid or incompetent ones -- the ones that don't CARE -- can find some other line of work that doesn't have someone's life in their hands.

I'm glad Doug's more comfortable.

You sure got yourself into the middle of a lot of stuff when you got to "know your neighbors, huh"!! :p This is a real good example of The Universe guiding your steps to where you're needed.

I know it seems like a lot of things are in a muddle around you. Looks like The Universe has put you in place to FIX a lot of things. That should do a lot for your self-confidence to think that The Universe thinks that you can handle all this.

Make sure you take time for yourself -- even if it's only to have tea in a pretty cup or stop at the local coffee shop and sit down for one cup of coffee or buy yourself a pretty flower every day.

You probably don't see it, Barbara, because of all the stress that you've got going on in your life day-after-day. But, you've come out of your shell and you stand up for yourself and you take time to do things for yourself. BIG CHANGES from what you were like at the end of the marriage. Nice changes http://chocolate-moose.p5.org.uk/MINIS/03.gif

Even if you feel the need to sit in the corner and cry, just remember we're there sitting right next to you, holding your hands. You are not alone. And you don't have to face any of this alone.

BIG HUGS (and love).

Barb http://chocolate-moose.p5.org.uk/MIN...aresmilley.gif

Dmom3005 09-14-2007 10:05 PM

Barb

I think you are a fantastic angel

Donna

mymorgy 09-14-2007 10:47 PM

i think you are a fantastic angel too,,,but do take care
hugs
bobby

DiMarie 09-15-2007 12:18 AM

:hug:
Missed your call barbara,
I called back but you must have been asleep already or on the phone. I am off to bed. You must be so exhausted, try to sleep tonight. That is good news about Doug.
He is a fighter.
Bless him...
Di :grouphug:

bizi 09-15-2007 12:42 AM

hang in there...
((((HUGS))))
bizi

befuddled2 09-15-2007 08:21 AM

Thank you everyone.

Di, I went to bed early last night as I was so exhausted.

Barb, my domestic violence counselor said yesteday that when Doug is in heaven he'll be my angel from above helping me accomplish the things him and I started together here on earth.

I slept real good last night thank goodness. I plan to go back to see Doug today when it stops raining. I'm going to call Doug's aunt now.

befuddled2

Dmom3005 09-15-2007 04:39 PM

Barb

Your counselor is so correct. And I personally think Doug is looking forward
to those days. So remember that when you are missing him. And look around and when something seems to good to be true, its because Doug
is helping make it true.

Also remember he knows what you wanted to accomplish and will help make
it come true.

Donna

befuddled2 09-16-2007 12:26 AM

Thank you Donna.

I never did go see Doug today. My legs started to hurt bad and then I just plain felt lazy.

befuddled2

Pamster 09-16-2007 12:57 PM

It's okay you stayed home BF. You take care of yourself right now. :)

befuddled2 09-18-2007 02:16 PM

Thank Pam.

I went to see Doug Sunday and today. Sunday he was asleep and today he was too. He now has a staph infection and it is uncomfortable for me to have that gown and gloves on as I get real stuffy easy. The staff infection is contagious. Doug's all swollen up now. I cried on the way home.

befuddled2

mymorgy 09-18-2007 02:25 PM

hugs
Bobby

moose53 09-18-2007 03:36 PM

((((((Barbara)))))),

http://img.photobucket.com/albums/v9...dinghands1.jpg

Barb

Mari 09-18-2007 04:01 PM

Sending hugs. http://www.thesmilies.com/smilies/happy0122.gif

Mari

bizi 09-18-2007 09:39 PM

Oh how I am sorry to hear that he has this infection....
Being in isolation is awful and to be dieing and isolated is just terrible.
Oh I feel sorry for him.
Yes I get all claustriphobic with those gowns and gloves etc.
bizi

befuddled2 09-19-2007 08:46 AM

Hi all,

Today marks my 1,000 days of freedom from cigarettes. It is a big celebration on one of the other sites I post to. Somehow though I just don't feel like celebrating. I hurt all over from all the walking I've done lately, re: hospital. Thank you all for your continued support.

befuddled2

bizi 09-19-2007 09:10 AM

That is fantastic!!!!!
bizi

Dmom3005 09-19-2007 10:10 AM

We will celebrate for you then.

Donna

:grouphug::)

Pamster 09-19-2007 02:52 PM

Congratulations on being free from smoking for 1000 days! That is a big achienvement! :D Hang in there with the hospital, you're doing all you can so don't be hard on yourself if you don't want to go because of what you have to deal with right now. It's okay to stay home...it's also okay to go be with Doug now while you still can, so you do whatever you think is best BF and we'll be here to continue supporting you through this difficult time. :(

befuddled2 09-19-2007 07:40 PM

Thank you my friends.

I did not see Doug today as I did not feel up to it physically. I did end up ordering myself a nice pair of slacks to reward myself for my 1,000 smoke free days. I guess you could say my day got better.

Pamster 09-19-2007 07:41 PM

Good, glad you did something for yourself BF, you deserve a little treat and slacks are as good as any I can think of. :)

DiMarie 09-20-2007 12:23 AM

Just a question
 
Hi BF,
I forgot to ask you...when was 1000 days ago?
That is so long ago, Wow how wonderful....treat yourself for the next 1000 days...opps or until you run out of $$$$$
Hugs
di

befuddled2 09-20-2007 12:31 PM

Thank you Pam and Di,

Di I quit smoking on Dec. 23, 2004 which was 1,001 days ago today.

Doug's cousin said that Doug woke up last night about 9:00 and had a normal conversation with her. He told her to tell everyone he loves them.

befuddled2

Dmom3005 09-20-2007 07:35 PM

Barb

I'm so glad you bought something.

And I'm glad that Doug had a normal conversation with someone, and you
were included in the conversation or group that got told about it.

Many wouldn't have included you.

Donna

befuddled2 09-20-2007 07:58 PM

Thank you Donna.

I went to see Doug today and he talked to me also. I had knocked on his door because it was almost shut closed and he told me to come in. He tried to pull me close to him but with his staff infection I had to pull back. I had on gloves so we held hands.

befuddled2

Pamster 09-20-2007 08:18 PM

Oh that must have been so hard...Is it clearing up any? Poor Doug...Poor You....


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