Befuddled please check in..............
 

Hi,

Thinking about you. Please check in and let us all know how you are doing.


Nikko:grouphug:

Thank you Nikko,

I'm not sleeping good at all and am half way out of it most the time. Today Doug's dad told Doug's roommate that I get Doug's big screen T.V. and Doug's roommate said, "I don't know about that." I told Doug's roommate that it is in Doug's will for me to get the T.V. and then Doug's roommate shut up.

I took my pills at 6:30 p.m. tonight and slept for an hour and got up wide awake. I cannot stand this kind of sleep I've been getting.

befuddled2

I hope you're able to rest more soon, I am glad Doug's father stood up to his step son over the TV, Doug wanted YOU to have it NOT him...So it should go to you. Hang in there BF. Try to get some rest.

Thank you.

I did sleep better last night. I have a friend coming over today and I believe we'll go out for some relaxation. I was thinking about going to the neighborhood bar but then that's not where I feel comfortable in.

befuddled2

Good to hear you slept better, that's important.:)

Have fun with your friend going out, you need to get out and have some relaxation.;)

Keep posting.

Hugs, Nikko:hug:

I didn't sleep hardly at all last night and had a rough day today. I will be glad when things get back to normal.

befuddled2

:hug::hug::hug:Hugs for you Barbara!!:hug::hug::hug:

Thank you Dorrie,

One of the worst part of Doug's passing is that I no longer feel needed.

Congrats Dorrie on your granddaughter.

befuddled2

Barb

Sending you some hugs.

I can totally understand your not feeling needed.

SO you need to when things settle down. Look for some other ways
to feel needed.

Donna

Thank you Donna.

I am already thinking about going to the nursing home again for those in need. I have a one resident there that I visit from time to time. I'm thinking about what to do for her for the Holidays.

Blessings,
barbara

Good idea Barb

And you know there are probably other shut ins that you could find by calling a church in the area. THey would be able to help you with this.

My mom's church has a group called Samaritian's that they are affiliated with
that one of the things they always need is people that can just go
sit with older folks so that the caregiver can have a afternoon out doing grocery shopping. Or even just a free afternoon.

You then have a chance to get to know both parts of the family.

Even thinking of Nikko's situation, I would think you would have folks like her that would love someone to come help or even just visit them.

Donna

thanks donna. today i got a beautiful symphathy card and it made me cry. i was pretty upbeat until getting the card. it just reminded me of my sorrow.

befuddled2

HI Befuddled

Hope your coping?....its good to cry, and let it all out.

My father died 11 years ago on Fathers day. i hpoe my poem helps a little.

Can i make it through this day, will my heart, and mind hold out
will the tears subside today, and if need be can i shout.
Will i be able to carry you aloft, inside your wooden box?
Will time stand still, no 'tick no tock' upon the church yard clock.
Will my eulogy to you, describe your life, and fill the church with tears.
Will the congregation share my loss, their you friends, your colleagues, your peers.
The time has arrived to say goodbye, with a rose in hand and a tear in the eye.
I wish you peace and rest forever, my one true friend, the best forever.
Let the church bells ring, and hearld you leaving... this earth.
May the angels above prepare for your death, and the beauty of re-birth.


Take care of you.:hug::hug::hug:

David,

that poem is beautiful. Thank you so much for posting it. I am dealing better now tonight again.

befuddled2

It is going to take time and you need that time to grieve. It's normal.

Crying is a great release.

Remember all the good times and the laughs you and Doug had.

Sending an angel on your shoulder to guide you and help you through this difficult time.

Hugs, Nikko:hug::hug::hug::hug::hug::hug::hug::hug::hug: :hug: