Just when things look good - they go bad
 

Just a little back ground.... my DBF is a Boatbuilder and a year an and a half ago (the summer this trip I am on with MS started) we had to close it down for there had been no yacht's sold in a year. Come to find out the sales man that we had had a lot to do with that but that is another story.....

so, since we closed the shop we have had serious money issues. Two weeks ago DBF found out the house is going under foreclosure and we need to move. The last week I have been calling every rental property in the local paper but there are not a lot there..... We are going to look at a house today but they do not want dogs but are willing to let us see the house. The owner is a friend of DBF's and know's he keeps the dogs clean. And then I found one last night online that sounds reasonable that we are going to call on this morning. It seems like when we find one that will take dogs when we call it is already taken.

I look around the house and wonder how we are going to get all this stuff out of here..... DBF has lived here for 10 years and myself for three. I know it is just a house - just some boards and paint but I really do love this house. The set up is wonderful and perfect for the dogs. The next month or so is going to be hell for us - but we will just have to pull our toughness up and get through it....

Thanks for listening and letting me vent..... I am sure I am going to do a lot of it in the next few months. Just let me know if and when you get sick of it.

Vent away, my friend, and in the meantime, I'll be praying that somehow God will turn this into a "blessing in disguise". We care.

#$%^&*( Char,

This just bites! I don't even know what to say to make you feel any better. :hug:

Are you only looking up there or are you willing to look a little further south? I can send up some of the listings from this way if you like. Let me know!

We're here if you need to vent and you know that.:grouphug:

I know that this is hard to do right now in the midsts of all the pian.....start looking for the window my friend!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
You know I am hare...right here if you need me!!!!!!!!!!!!

I am sorry to hear of your misfortune I too recently went through the same thing. it was real bad , we got down to the day before the public sale and the mortg comp agreed to rework things out,

I got lucky, might be worth a shot, one more talk with them, not sure how defiant they are being, mine was very reluctant to help in anyway.

as it is I know how scary things are for your family my families prayers and thoughts, for a positive result, go out to you,

talk to a lawyer, there are some things that can be done, just be careful of what i called the house sharks, the first class mailings u are getting or soon will be from folks who want to buy your house and help u out of things,

yeah dont believe it they are trying to make a buck see if a realtor cant at least do a quick sale and keep the foreclosure off your credit

again sorry to hear whats hapening:hug:


Frank

Oh dangit, Char, that does bite the big one. Is this an opportunity for you to make a new start? You are working hard to improve your life, is it possible that this is part of the Master's plan for you?

Please be careful to avoid letting the stress take hold of you, kiddo, it can't help anything. You vent here as often as you need or want to and know that many of us are praying for your answers to come post haste.:hug:

Something will work and the dogs will be happy. Don't let the stress get ya! Good time to get rid of stuff you don't need anymore too!

:hug: Vent away. I'm so sorry to hear you guys are going through that right now.

Hope things work out for you.

I went through something similar last spring, and we had to move out of our home of 16 yrs. I had two months to find something (with a dog, cat and two kids), and I did, but it wasn't anything like what I had previously. It took me several months of cleaning and organizing . . . not to mention moving 13 TONS of "stuff" I had accumulated. It was a difficult time and I think I am still paying for it 10 months later.

If I wasn't so pressed for time, and didn't have youngish kids, I think I would have done things quite differently. I wish I would have opted to cull through a lot of my "stuff" before I moved, and although I didn't have much choice at the time, I should have down-sized my accommodations. I will have to do that eventually, but I certainly don't have the energy or inclination just yet.

Good luck in finding something reasonably suitable. Worst comes to worst, perhaps you can put a lot of stuff into storage (or leave it packed in the garage) in case you don't find something perfectly suitable right now. You can keep looking for something better, over time, and just not settle in to the new place as you would have normally.

Sorry about the loss of your home too. :( This must be a sad time for both of you.

Cherie

:hug:Char,

Just take a deep breath - it's gonna be just fine.

I went through the same thing in October of last year. I was stressing out, looking at everything that was available and trying to find something without stairs.

I was wearing myself out and told myself that if the condo I was going to look at was nice and he would allow me to lease it then I was taking it - stairs or not. Well, it was nice - brand new but with stairs. But, no yard work which was a plus. The man was willing to lease it to me and I left with a rental application and he said he was going to take the ad out of the paper.

On my way home I passed a "for lease" sign at the front of a neighborhood and thought "what the heck, I'll take a look." Well, this house was perfect. A ranch with a flat driveway and small yard. Not a stair around. And a huge master bedroom with a bathroom that had a step in shower and separate spa tub. Enough room for a wheelchair, too, if I should ever need one. Just perfect in every way. And the man who owns it said "no dogs, but cats are just fine". What??? :eek: A man who loves cats!!! I couldn't believe it! He didn't even charge me a pet deposit! :)

And to think if I had not gone home that way I would not have seen it! God was watching out for me - like there is ever a day when He doesn't??! :)

Anyway, I called the other man back and told him thanks but I had found a place that better suited my needs. He understood and I moved in this new house the first of November.

I didn't need to wear myself out worrying. God already knew where He wanted me. And He knows where he wants you, too. I have no doubt that you will find a nice place and one that suits your needs.

I will keep you and your DBF in my prayers that God will lead you to the home He wants you in. :hug:

Oh Char~ I really am sad to hear about this. It's just been one stressful thing after another for you. I do believe what the others have said tho~ I think there is a new plan out there for you.

I will keep you and DBF in my prayers and hope that things start to turn around for you NOW.

You know you can come here and vent anytime. That's one of the great things about NT; seems like there's always someone who has been down the same path w/advice and a willingness to help.

take care dear Char and like Kay said~~ Open that window. :hug:

I can imagine the stress you are going through. We didn't have the same expereience, but we had to sell the house (gardenhome) we owned in order to move here a little over a year ago. We LOVED that house. It was the first house that we bought together, and everything about it was special to us.

We moved up here, and tried to find a home quickly, but instead ended up leasing while we were building our "dream home". Unfortunately, the builder building our dream home went into bankruptcy, and our "dream home" is sitting half finished with no one willing to take it on because of the market. We hadn't put much down, and our bank had insurance so nothing was lost. We've been living in a leased home since we moved here, and although we didn't like it at first, it's begun to grow on us.

A house is a home for the things and the people in it. We feel comfortable here now, and it does feel like home now when I pull into the driveabout after a long day's work. It will work out, and you'll find a place to live. Eventually you will make it "your" home. A house is just four walls and a roof afterall. It's what inside that makes it a "home". GOOD LUCK!:hug:

Char, I am sorry you have to move. But something is telling me this will be a great thing for you. A new start and a new home. It can be a great thing in the end. If you are concerned about moving so fast do what Jim and I did. Throw everything that isn't of great value into boxes. If it makes it, you keep it. If it doesn't, you get to finally throw it away! You wont believe all the stuff we ended up getting rid of that we didn't need.

Sometimes it's hard to look at the positive at things. I see this as a new step for you and a new beginning for you and DBF in your first house together. God will lead you and show you where you belong. I truly believe that. :hug:

You don't mention trying to refinance. Is it possible to work this out? The government has forced many things on the Mortgage companies to try to keep people in their homes, it's worth a moment to check it out.

So sorry you are being faced with this....I hope things do work out, some how, some way. :hug:

Thank You Everyone.... it is so hard to see David walking around the house in a fog - I know he is wondering how we are going to get through this, I keep telling him some how we will as long as we keep leaning on each other and we are doing that......

We looked at two houses today. One was a thanks but no thanks. 25 miles out of town on a road that has more bumps and pot holes that you can only drive 35 miles an hour the whole trip. Then when we get out there the house has 3 small and I mean small bedrooms, only wood heat and no washer / dryer hook up. We said thanks but not for us.

The other house is a good potential - he is a friend of David's but he has to show it to a few more people this week and then is going to make their decission. The house has a pool and enough room for both girls to have a bedroom. The only problem there is the next door neighbor lets her dog run loose and she is miss busy body and has to know everything that is going on and has no problem asking you what she wants to know. Has been known to just walk into the house and come right in to sit and ask for a cup of tea. I don't like that.....

We have a few more calls out there and hoping something will come up in the next couple of weeks. RW - David works in South West Harbor so we can't go to far south, we have looked in Bucksport area but haven't seen anything yet.

Keep you fingers crossed for us.

Will keep prayers going that you find the perfect house.

We just got a call back from a lady who lives in NY but has a house here in Maine she wants to keep but can't afford both. This house is 3 minutes from David's work and 25 from mine but an hour from school but that is ok.... The house is good size, in a small coast tourist town and she will allow all 3 dogs! Which is a bonus!!! David will be able to go home for lunch and let them out and he is back and forth by the house a few times a day going from the boat yard to the shop..... it really is a perfect house! We will see....

Wow! That's sounds great! Praying hard for the right results (what ever they end up to be). :)

Char, I'm sorry you are going through all of this. I will keep my fingers crossed that you will find a new home with the dogs and that everything works out. Please keep venting to us, we're all here for you!

David looked at the house this morning and liked it but he would like me to see it before we make a decision so I going to go and see it after work today. He said that it is certainly city life compared to country life that we are used to. It will certainly be a different type of living!

YB - I am so sorry you are going through all this carp! I will pray for you, DBF, and dds that you all find a good place to live (or better yet - enough boats sell in the next week so you can stay in your current house.:).

Hang in there! We're all praying for you.:grouphug:

Can't wait to hear about the house and if you like it Char!

Char - please post tonight after you see the house and tell us what it's like. City living isn't all that bad. You'll get spoiled real quickly with everything being so convenient and close by.

This place sounds nice - I hope it's what you need!

Still praying for ya. . . :)

I got to this a little late, but, so sorry you have to go through this turmoil. I hope you and DBF find just the right place for you and Puppers.

A change in lifestyle may be a good thing for you.

Good Luck.....being the day it is, maybe a little Luck of the Irish!!!:hug:

How was the looksee? Hope you are faring better today.:)

Sox

Well, let me clarify "city limits" this is a small tourist town on the coast of Maine, lots of people not the "city" as in Wal-Mart, Grocery Store etc close by..... this is a small quaint town that is full of tourist and houses 20 feet about. I am used to 1/2 mile to the next house - 10 miles to the closest store....

Good luck YB!!! I am hoping this one works out for you, even if it is in the "city". What a thing to have to deal with. Just remember to try and keep your stress level down....easy enough to say, I know....

I will send some good vibes your way!!!!

Well, lambchop, I have to admit something. You know that my heart lives deep in the woods; with the way my body is going down the proverbial toilet, it is really nice to be able to get to modern conveniences in a few short minutes. I also like seeing the kids playing and the waving neighbors as they take their evening strolls.

There really is something to be said for almost any community, lifestyle is what we make of our surroundings. :)

Jeez...I go to work, get all my stuff done and rush over here to see what you had to say about the house and NUTHIN!:p

I was laughing when you described the "city" living. You have to let these folks know that the population is less than 100 in the winter! They are picturing a bustling place! It may be thousands in the summer, but it's purty quiet now! :cool:

So didja like the place or what???

Sorry RW I was so upset by the time I got home and have my first psy 101 test today that I am NOT ready for.....

We looked at the house and it is right on Main Street right before the pier... it is a nice house and we figure we can figure out something with the dogs so we decided we would take it.... well, after I got back in my car my cell phone rang, it was the owner of the house letting me know she is not quite sure about the dogs - I wanted to cry right then and there but I kept my wits some how. We talked and I told her if it was meant to be then it would work and if it wasn't then that was ok we will keep looking. We talked a few more minutes and she told me she would call me by Wednesday. 20 minutes later she calls back and she spoke with the caretaker (who looks just like my dad!!!) and he told her if she was going to rent that we would be the perfect couple that he loved us both! So she said she was 75% sure she would rent it to us but would let us know for sure on Wednesday.

I will let you know as soon as I can.....

Wow......So now ya just gotta wait til tomrrow?

Is there a yard for the dogs to go potty in?

I think this is the chane for you and David to start fresh.....he will be making a commentment to you by doing this together.....
who knows first rent a house...next step...who knows....

Guess I better hop a plane and come help ya pack huh???lol

I do hope that everything else works for the best. In situations like this, I always pray for peace and wisdom. Peace to accept God's will and the wisdom to hear His direction and follow it. So, that is what I will pray for you.

Char, I'm also cracking up at your description of "city" living, LOL!!! You should try a real city on for size if you think that's city living!!!!

Sorry things are up in the air. I'm crossing my fingers for you!!!

Carolyn

I will let you know the moving date!!!!!!! :D

I know.... :eek: I could NEVER live in a City like you and Mary!!! NO Way- this is city living enough for me!!!! and it isn't a city at all - just a small coastal town but with LOTS of people!

I think that means - yes - you're moving to the coast of Maine ?????

Crossing my fingers and toes for you! Hope you get it! :hug:

Good luck on your test!

OK! It's officially Wednesday! So what if it's almost 3 a.m!!!

I'm sitting here at work, waiting...:p

Praying you get the GOOD call!!!:)

YES, we should get a call today but I am not holding my breath until I actually hear from her..... I will let you know!

If it's meant to be you'll get it. If not, take comfort in the fact that you still have time to look and you were spared from moving into the wrong house. :)

I'm praying for ya'll - I know this will all work out in your favor. I have no doubt. Hey, you have the caretaker pulling for you!!

Gee, wish I could have had this much wisdom when I was looking for a house!! :D:D

That is just what I said..............:hug: