Am I just weird?
 

I am not coping with a death of a loved one. I am coping with the
loss of a friend and lover. I keep fluctuating between feeling completely
empty and in pain to being ok. Am I just weird?

:hug: it's still grief over a loss.

nope. you aren't weird..unless the rest of here are too. :o

I would call that being normal...

Grief over loss can come through in many different ways...

I know people who laugh...not because they are happy but because that's their "normal" reaction to grief.

Me...I don't deal with loss... I never have... Not cold hearted---I just bottle it up so I don't have to deal with it.

:o
Abbie

Any kind of loss can cause us to grieve - doesn't necessarily have to be a loss through death.

You're not weird....you're just human with a compassionate heart. :hug:

No you're not weird...the feelings you describe are a perfectly normal part of the grief process and the road to healing...and it just shows you have a heart :hug:

Thank you all!! :grouphug: I have finally moved on to the animosity stage ... :mad::o

dear one~
 

I have heard this but I do not believe it is accredited to any one person,
but many people who like you and I ... who are going through grief

the is no correct way or time to grieve...

:hug:

So true.....everyone is different and grieves in their own way and in their own time.

Grief comes in many forms. It's a mixed bag. :hug:
I've been grieving these past couple of days over a loss from long long ago. Grief had a funny way of showing back up on my doorstep, even though I thought I had healed...:) {{{{HUGZ}}}}

My daughter's BF of a year recently broke up with her, and when she became severely depressed, I likened what she was dealing with to the recent (and sudden :( ) death of my close friend, Gina. In a real sense, it is a death. She has lost the person she thought he was. I think looking at it that way (and realizing that I could also understand that she could think of it that way) has helped her to begin to heal. She's no longer sad all the time, and we talk a lot more than we used to, so some good has definitely come out of it. :)

:hug: :hug: :hug:

LIZARD :)

I was going through one of my old notebooks yesterday, copying down info into a proper and new one, when I ran across the name and number of a dear friend and mentor who passed away two years ago. I sat there and cried.

nah. nuttin' weird about how you are feeling. As we get older we will be dealing with loss a helluva lot more often than we used to. Some of us will get over it fast and the rest of us will always mourn - perhaps with less intensity as time goes on.

My Mother's Hospice Soc Wkr told me that there are the 3 T's of grief.

Time ~ Talk ~ Tears

I've Talked about losing Mother, cried a whole lot of Tears and am now waiting for TIME to do it's part.

Everyone deals w/grief so differently. I don't handle it well at all.

I want you all to know that your responses have been blessings to me.
Lizard - That made such perfect sense to me, thank you.

Daisymay :hug::hug::hug: I remember your posts on MSW about your mother. I think I am still in the tears stage...can't quite seem to get past that yet...looking forward to time doing its part as well. I sincerely hope you are doing ok....

Hugs to all of you!! :grouphug: