Waiting....
 

I'm just sitting here, waiting for my aunt (dad's younger sister) to call and tell us that my uncle is gone.

He's been sick with some sort of cancer since last summer. My dad's other sister told us that he was in hospice care this week. My aunt called this afternoon to tell us that my uncle is no longer talking, and that they've drugged him up with morphine so that he's not in any pain.

My aunt told my dad that she treating things as if my uncle had already died, even tho he's still alive (as far as I know this minute)

I feel a little bad about this. I saw my uncle back at thanksgiving, when he was still doing pretty good. I havent seen him since then. My family hasnt really talked to them since his daughter in law did something nasty and vindictive to another family member (not sure why she was being vindictive, the person she did the bad thing to had never done anything to her)

I dont like this waiting. It's too stressful.

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I know it's easier said than done but try not to get stressed...remember him as he was the last time you saw him and know that he will be at peace.

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was going to say what suzy said remember him as you last saw him, and keep that picture deep within your heart, for he will always be there close to you for comfort and guidance, my families prayers and thoughts are with you:hug:

Well, no more waiting...
 

My uncle died this morning. I dont have any other information about it other than "he's gone". My dad's youngest sister is apparently the one doing all the notifying for my dad's next-to-youngest sister.

I'm glad that he didnt die on my cousin's birthday. Most of my family members seem to die on the birthdays of other family members. (grandpa died on grandma's birthday, dad's younger brother died on dad's sister's birthday, my grandma died 2 days after aunt's birthday and 2 days before my birthday.)

I dont have any uncles left on that side of my family now. Good thing my mom's brothers and brother-in-law are all fairly healthy...I've still got them.

I am sorry for your loss.... thinking of you and your family.

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I'm so sorry for your loss.http://i90.photobucket.com/albums/k2...linky/hug3.gif

I am so sorry, Erin :hug:

My thoughts and prayers are with you

I'm so sorry for your loss. :hug:

:hug: I'm so sorry Erin. You are in my thoughts and prayers.

Thanks.

(I guess my message has to be longer than just the "Thanks", so I'm just typing more so that I can hit Post Reply)

You're welcome. :hug: Take care of yourself.

I am sorry for your loss, Erin.,,,Take care of you.:hug:

I'm so sorry for the loss of your uncle. It's so sad, cancer can be such a tough battle. :(

God Bless you & your family through this tough time.

Makes me glad that I only have MS, cancer would be worse.

My dad seems to be a lot freaked out about his b-in-law dying. I think my dad always thought that he would be the first male to go in the family, and now he's the last male of that generation left. All the other males (2 cousins) are from my generation, and they're all a lot younger than I am.

I no longer have any uncles on that side of the family, but I'm the only one who's still got my dad around, but my dad does have cardiomyopathy now, which is similar to whatever it was my dad's younger brother died of in the mid 1990s. All the treatments back then were experimental, so my dad has the benefits of all the research that was done back then that my uncle was one of the guinea pigs for.

My dad is also not as sick as his brother was. My dad's got 25% (or more) of his heart muscle left. His brother only had 6% of his heart muscle when he was diagnosed and his heart was still going pretty strong when he died, it was his pancreas that killed him. (pancreatitis)

I dont think I'll be going to my uncle's funeral. I havent gone to a funeral since I was very young. (I have a bit of a funeral phobia here) Plus it's probably a couple of towns over, and since I had optic neuritis, I'm not comfortable driving on the highway at all now, even tho my eyes are mostly healed now.

I think I'll order a nice display of yellow and red roses for my aunt. Or something else...not sure what's really appropriate. For my grandmother's funeral, I ordered a heart shaped display for her casket that was yellow roses with red roses around the outside border of the heart.

Sorry for your loss, Erin.:(

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Your uncle is at peace now, Erin. Very sorry for your loss..

I'm sure your Aunt will appreciate whatever you decide on for flowers.

Erin
I'm so sorry for you loss. Your choice of flowers will be perfect. Keeping you and your family in my prayers.

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I am so sorry for your loss.

I'm sorry to hear your news.

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Erin, I am so very sorry for your loss. All I can say be grateful for the time you had - forget the bad - remember the good. I have no family left and had to make arrangements for the last 2.

Don't worry about not going. I have funeral phobia too. I went to my Grand-Mother's. Grand-Father's, and the last - my mother. The others I did just as u plan to. When mother passed someone called the florist I was using for casket flowers and sent a stand up matching wreath. Everyone make a nice comment on that one. If you are willing/can spend the money - that is my advise on flowers. If not, your idea sounds great!

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Sorry to hear about your loss.

I'm terribly sorry, Erin. You've had a time of it as of late.:hug:

Just more condolances sent your way Erin...I'm so sorry :hug: