I should have stayed in bed (vent)
 

I need to vent and I don't really even know where to start....

I have been feeling punky for quite some time now but after what happened yesterday, I just want to go crawl in a hole.

If I go into specifics you would all fall asleep before you finish reading this so this is the short story.

I got into a huge fight with my oldest son! It carried over to my middle son who is now very angry with me. After hanging up from my oldest boy, I said a few choice things about him. (guess what? I forgot to hang up the phone and oldest ds heard everything I said) It was all true but I would have never said it in front of him. Anway, he called back and told me he would never speak to me again!

After all that my nerves were shot and I needed to iron a few things (Yes, I still iron alot!!)

One of the things I wanted to press was my middle son's graduation gown. (he graduates this sunday)

I thought the iron was on cool and when I put it to the gown, I put a huge burn in it.

OMG!!!!!! I just started balling. I am so stressed and that was just the icing on the cake.

I am going over to the school this morning and pray that they ordered a few extra so I can buy him a new one.

I don't think I have ever been so down in my life. The last day or two every time I open my mouth, I start to cry!!!

My kids are mad at me DH is mad at me and I don't really like myself too much right now either.

Wish me luck on the graduation gown!! I really hope I can get him a new one.

I think I will go back to bed and cover my head:(

I just want it all to go away:o

OMG, girlfriend! All of us have that as a worst nightmare! Someone hearing what we really think about them!! But.....in some cases this may be just what it takes to wake up our loved one.

And the gown?? I have a big red rose iron applique! Would that work? Just kidding! What color is the gown...maybe one of us can find it at our local school if yours doesn't have it. And what size? And when is graduation?

Call me! I just sent you an email before I read this so ignore that!! I really don't need money but I do want you to go on a day trip with me real soon.

Luv U

:hug: Beth :hug:

I'm so sorry you're feeling so down......we all say things from time to time that we really don't mean - and that we don't mean for others to hear. Your boys know that you love them. And they love you. Let them be mad - they'll come around. It's hard - I know - 'cause I can't stand to think that someone is unhappy with me or something I said or did.

Sometimes an apology (whether we believe we are wrong or not) is all it takes to get a conversation flowing and things worked out. When it's all said and done it's not who is right or who is wrong - it's the fact that we can talk and work things out between each other.

Good luck to you, Beth, and I hope your boys will meet you half way so you can feel better again!

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AWWWW Bethie! I am so sorry for the tough time you've been having lately. You bet, I will cross my fingers that the school can help ya.

I remember when my DD graduated in 95. Her gown came in the wrong size and it barely went to her knees and she's only 5'2". I called the school right away and they had an extra one. Only the extra one was made for a muchTALLER person. I got out my handy duct tape and ironed a crease along the bottom and taped the hem up. No one was the wiser.

I'm keeping YOU in my prayers, Bethie~ Things need to turn around for you soon and I am sorry about your prob's w/your DS. The bottom line is~ you love each other and that will prevail. take care of yourself..:hug:

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:hug: Sorry to hear about all that happened. I've had days when all I wanted to do was crawl under a rock, so understand how your feeling.

Hope the school has an extra gown. :hug:

Aw (((Beth))). It is so hard on us when we hurt our kids. Although we don't mean to it happens. You know your son better than anyone else and know deep in your heart how to rectify the situation. I will keep you in my prayers and pray for a peaceful resolution.

I hope they have an extra gown at the school. I can relate, and I'm sure others can, to being so frazzled that we make these kinds of mistakes.

Hang in there! We are all here for you.:grouphug:

BTW- I think I left a blanket and pillow under that rock the last time I was there. Feel free to use them. It's comfy there for a short while but you can't stay there as someone else will need to get under there and there is only room for 1.

Update on graduation gown......

After being the laughing stock of the high school office I was issued a new gown on Loan. All I had to do was give my iron to them for collateral LOL:D

Carol, the secretary, gave me hug and took pity on me. I told her, "I can't believe I am the only one who ever ironed a hole in a graduation gown! She looked back at me, smiled with her cute little dimples and said....."I've been here 15 years.:eek::eek::p:p

Oh Gosh what a ding bat I am:o

Any way one problem put to bed. The other two only time will heal.

Thanks for listening:grouphug: You guys, as always are great.

I talked with Beth and she should be on the way to the school picking up the extra gown they had right now.

She is a sweetheart and having a rough time all the way around right now. Too bad our families don't see that sometimes and give us some slack.

***oops, see she has been there and back.

Yep Sassy was my lifesaver today! I called her and cried on her shoulder and after talking to her,my bestest buddy, I started feeling a little better.

I know Life can throw you curve balls but I hate it when it throws 5 curve balls at once.:eek:

Time always heals and I know that, but at the moment I feel overwhelmed and ganged up on.

I should have went with AMN!!!! If I did none of this would have happened!!

OK!!! Which one of you little stinkers put a curse on me:rolleyes::confused:;)

OH Bannet, I'm so sorry :hug:
The absolute worst time with my DD was right around her graduation and the year preceeding it. It was so bad finally, I rented her an apartment and moved her in to it. I was so distraught for so long...just sick inside. She swore she would never speak to me again too. I spent a Christmas without her and my soul was dying. 4 months into the deal, she folded. She came home and I've been the best things since buttered bread since (2 years now), and somehow, overnight I became smart :D

I think its some kind of right of passage....the love is still there...it will heal in time. In the meantime....I understand :hug:

Aw Beth! :hug: Maybe we could trade places today! You could come here and deal with my situation and I could come there and smooth things over for you! :hug:

Your DS will get over it. I can tell you're a great Mom, otherwise you wouldn't have ironed the gown! :D Try not to worry dearie!

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Oh Beth...what a time of it you are having. No one ever ironed my graduation gown! What a mom you are! In fact, my mom didn't even go to my graduation - my dad did, tho.

Anyway, kids can be, well, just kids and family is weird sometimes but remember that you are ok. You are just trying to do too much when you are not feeling well. You are frayed and they need to understand! So, as you already said time heals, so keep that in mind and all will be ok.

You are a good person Beth...and don't forget that. Graduation and all the stress involved with it will be over soon and then you need to get some much needed REST, lady.

(listen to me, she who doesn't listen to her own advice *smack me*)

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Beth :hug:

I know how it feels to have your DS not talk to you. It will get better. I have had mine yell in my face that he hates me! He will come around. You are a great mom. Glad you got the gown issue resolved!

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Awwww, Bethie!!! You're way too nice a person to have to suffer through such bad times!!!

Glad you got the gown crisis "ironed out." :cool:

You're sons will come around ... you'll see. Just takes a little time. Maybe send a note of apology and tell how stressed you've been. :hug::hug::hug:

Could be worse ... you could still be in the little shack near your mailbox waiting for the "mystery package" to arrive. :D

Twinks is right Beth. I sent out a rather harsh email to my siblings this weekend taunting them about how Jim and I are paying for everything with my mom and that she is their mom too, yada yada yada. This morning, after realizing no one answered back, I sent another apologizing for my harsh email. BUT, I let them know I still meant what I said, just that I was sorry for HOW it was said.

Beth and Sandy,

There is actual therapudic value in being direct your the kids, siblings and spouses, even if it means that there is a temporary increase in tension.

You will see the healing power in just laying it all on the line and telling everyone where you stand and what you think. They will be shocked,..., and I mean REALLY SHOCKED at first. Then they will understand you and you will understand them.:hug:

Beth, one of the best things that could have happened is that you did not hang up the phone. That unexplainable event may be the start of something that is VERY GOOD.

Sandy, sending the second e-mail but maintaining your original position was crucial.

Your relatives will come around in their views and you will all be in great shape.

I know this from direct experience...

-Vic

Beth - I am so glad that the gown situation worked out. Just a small piece of advice learned through experience. If you want to get the wrinkles out via the dryer, use low or no heat. Those fabrics can "melt" a bit in the dryer too. Just like the iron.;)

Vic you are probably right about me not hanging up the phone. I keep alot of pent up anger re: my oldest son and have always wanted to say things but worried about his feelings.

It was probably a blessing in disguise. Time will tell but I think a break was needed at least for the time being.

Tkrik: My Son is walking across the stage in a wrinkled gown. I ain't touchin it.LOL

LMAO - I don't blame you. :D

Im sorry you are having such a rough time. teenage boys....whew!....
I got me a couple of them. :):confused:

I hope things get better for you Beth.

Aw nuts, Bethie, that's no good. :( I'm glad you're feeling a little better, and just so you know, you really didn't miss anything at the GTG, no one had any fun at all.





Okay, maybe just a little.:o

Liar Liar pants on fire! :p

She's only trying to make you feel better :hug:

glad u got the gown issued covered, as to the other two, like you said time will mend those,

:hug::hug::hug::hug::hug::hug::hug: Beth :hug::hug::hug::hug::hug::hug:

OMG, I laughed right out loud at the wrinkled gown, Bethie! That's what he deserves anyways.

FG took the words right out of my mouth so I will just say AMN is a liar! I was going to say more but didn't want to make anyone mad. :), especially someone who has a ramp that I want.

BTW people, Beth told me what she said to both sons and believe me she still deserves the Mother of the Decade Award for what those two have put her through lately. She didn't say anything bad except for one slip of the tongue (who hasn't done that) for which she profusely apologized and he wasn't even mad at her about that.

And who said boys are easier to raise? Not I, I have 2 and long for a daughter about now.

Oh, Beth, don't feel bad. My older son graduated last year. First I melted a hole in the gown with the iron just like you. I had to buy a replacement gown for a ridiculous amount of money.

Thinking that I was really smart, I put the new gown in the dryer on the lowest setting. I went back to pull it out 15 minutes later, only to find a melted wad of royal blue plastic. Aarrrgh!!!! I was totally in tears but my boys thought it was the funniest thing they ever saw. Looking back on it now, I can laugh too.

Tkirk is right!!! Do not put it in the dryer. I don't know what they make these gowns of these days but it is not a natural fiber. I swear it is some kind of a coated plastic. The trick is to hang it on a hanger and place it in your bathroom while the shower is going so that some of the wrinkles steam out.

There I was the day before the grad driving, 45 miles each way, to the distribution center to pick up yet another gown. And of course I had to pay for it yet again.

It is a stressful time so try to take care of yourself. I came down with a full blown case of ON a couple days after the graduation. I am sure the stress contributed. I am glad that you were able to get another gown. Your son's high school seems to be much better prepared than ours was.

There, you see Beth? You really aren't the ONLY one who ever ironed a graduation gown..:D

I didn't know those things ever got wrinkled. Aren't they made of the same stuff they found in that field in Roswell back in the 40's?

Anyway, my youngest, also a boy, is graduating next year. Pray for me.

I have a black one hanging in my closet...anyone want it?

You stinka! It is beyond words how jealous I am about this past weekend! It just ain't right! I should have been there! (at least for the part of the rasberry vodka story):hug:

You guys are a trip:p Yes the gown issue is resolved. The new gown is hanging on a hanger in the laundry room. Everytime I walk past it I get the heebee geebees. It's like if I look at it, it will melt right before my eyes:eek:

He graduates on Sunday, his last day of school is tomorrow and for some strange reason I just want it to hurry up!

This planning for graduation has for some reason just been awful.

I did his grad pictures myself but sent them off to be printed. (it was cheaper than using my own ink).

Anyway I was told they would be ready by 3:00 yesterday. I went to pick them up....They are not there! The store calls the driver and he says he won't be there until 4:30:eek:

It was too far to drive back home so I stayed and waited until 5:00. Still no driver. I was beyond furious!!!!

I told the manager that I would be back today by 10:00. If my photo cards were not there......Heads would roll! I then preceded to turn my walker around and limped out of the store (I'm sure he was really scared of me);)

It just seems it is one thing after another. Really looking forward to Sunday!!!!:D

Beth!!!! You just can't catch a break here! They say things happen in 3's so I think you are covered....the phone, the gown and the pics...nothing else can happen except enjoying a beautiful graduation!

Sunday is supposed to be a beautiful day! Will the graduation be outside?

I read someplace where they are making gowns that disintegrate to help the landfills, etc. You must have one of them. LOL, so watch out for the tears on Sunday! Cry in your hankie.

Yep graduation is outside!!! It is at Meadowbrook which is on the campus of Oakland County University.

I really hope my luck changes by sunday because I can only imagine sitting there with the one raincloud dangling right above me:eek::eek:

As far as the gown disentegrating. SASSY for shame on You:confused::o;)

Thats probably why I am afraid to look at the gown. It reminds me of the Wicked Witch of the west when she said "I'm Melltttinnnng!!!!!
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*grabbing leaf blower and vaporizing that dark cloud over our Bethie's head*

There, my work is done here.

Whether your day is rainy or sunny, you will be the proud Momma sitting there dabbing at your eyes. Been thinking about you alot Beth.. take care of yourself. :hug:

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Tkirk is right!!! Do not put it in the dryer. I don't know what they make these gowns of these days but it is not a natural fiber. I swear it is some kind of a coated plastic. The trick is to hang it on a hanger and place it in your bathroom while the shower is going so that some of the wrinkles steam out.

She is right! But, for future moms of graduates, if bad stubborn wrinkles dare to remain, use an ironing cloth between iron and gown!! Be aware of iron heat. DS ordered plASTIC/NYLON, GRADUATION TYPE MATERIAL FLAGS THAT CAME THRU MAIL WITH MANY FOLD CREASES. Made him iron following my guidance and dry kitchen dish towel and it went fine. Flags now on his wall, very nice. Tape does work for hems, been known to use it on new jeans!! But don't wash!!!!!

I bet half of you are probably thinking "No way can all this stuff happen to one person in the month of May". I am telling you I have hated the month of May for a very long time. Bad things have always happened to me in May.

UPDATE News Flash This Just IN....................................

I just got off the phone with the Photo Company. They tell me that my order was never sent to them. They never received my order for 60 photo Cards that was ordered from the store! OMG!


I am sitting here wondering what is next?????

I quit!!!!! I'm going to go bury myself someplace quiet..... Wake me up June 1st.

Beth - Oh man! Hang in there May will be over soon enough.

A true story to put a smile on your face.

When DDs were 2 and 3 we needed to move. Long story - skipping details. At the daycare center that they were at there was a doll that DD was extremely attached to. They had been at this particular daycare for over a year and this doll was DDs constant companion from the time I dropped her off to the time I picked her up. In the morning when we got there she would go and get this doll from where she had left it (bundled by her and in the "crib" she placed her in) and then go sit with the other kids for breakfast. When I came to pick her up, she wrapped the doll and placed it in the crib for the night.

Again, due to circumstances we needed to get out of that town as well as the state quickly. The daycare center was awesome and so caring and sensitive to our needs. On the last day that DDs were there, they gave this doll to DD16 as they knew how important this doll was to her and felt that it would be great for her to have on our risky journey.

Shortening story - we didn't get far. We ended up at my parents. My mom being the sweet loving grandma decided that "baby" needed a bath and put the doll in the washer and then the dryer. This was a no, no. The hair on the doll melted!!! LOL. I attached a picture of what the doll SHOULD look like.

DD16 still has the doll and we all laugh about it every time the subject is brought up. Beth, you too will end up laughing about this some day, in time. Take a deep breath. Everything will be fine.

Thank you tkrik for your wonderful story. That is great and you are right I will laugh about this one day. You are so nice. Everytime I wrote about one of my many problems you always respond with such postitive feed back I really appreciate you.

AMN lifted my spirits with a phone call today. She pulled me up by my boot straps, smaked me in the Haid and told me to get over it:D She's quite the gal.

As we talked I learned she graduated at the same place my son is graduating on Sunday. Small world huh?!

Yes May is almost over and normally I like time to stand still but I am certainly looking forward to June:rolleyes:

You can make it 10 days.

I hope things are getting better for you as the big graduation day gets closer.