Ever have one of those "little voices" talking to you days?
 

Why? Why does that little voice come in anytime it feels like it to make us worry and become sad? Is it because deep down we are worried and we put up a front so everyone thinks we're OK? Is it because deep down we fear the worse case scenario? :(

As a carepartner I know you know what I am talking about. It's that stupid little voice that says "don't get too happy and plan too much because you never know what may happen." Why can't it just shut up and leave us alone? :mad: :mf_swordfight:

The best thing I can do when this happens is to remember I am not in control and cannot change anything. I think that's what is the hardest part, giving up that control. God knows what we need and provides in abundance so why let that little voice creep in? :Dunno: I know! :smileypray:

It is times like this that I have to give my own advice back to myself. "Don't worry about something you cannot change. Worry about those you can." ;)

I hope I haven't scared anyone off. lol I don't "actually" hear voices, really. I am talking about that little voice when your in doubt about anything in your life.

Did you scare everyone off? :eek: I know what you mean. I think we all hear those voices at times. I tend to hear those "voices" when I am trying to relax or go to sleep. I worry about family and I worry about being able to be independent in the future. I even worry about storms and tornadoes -- something I really have control over. :rolleyes: I just wish the voice would sound like George Clooney.:D Sorry, I just realized this thread was for caregivers.

Lmao Barb! If my voices sounded like George Clooney even I might embrace them! And you are most certainly welcome here. I think it's good for everyone to come here to read our stuff just as it's good for carepartners to go read all your stuff. :D We learn from each other. :hug:

I do that at night too. I will start thinking of one thing and then another and another until I can't sleep at all. Did you ever start remembering things in your past and felt guilty all over again? lol Those "voices' are annoying. :p

sandy if i makes you feel better, i also think that way, and hear that voice, among other voices but we can cover that another time:rolleyes: i say something to deb and then think yeah if im still able to or kicking

Sandy
I have a technique that has worked for me. I feel that I must enjoy today, as much as I can and should be thankful for the size or weight of todays problems because they are still not as bad as they can be and will be. If I let myself feel miserable today, I will leave nothing for tomorrow but put a rope around my neck. In the future I will think back of today and say that I was stupid because I did not give myself the chance to enjoy life when i still could.

I devised this technique because all my life I felt I was ugly, but every time I saw a picture of me when younger i thought, Oh, was I beautiful then and do not understand how I could have felt ugly. So today, even though what I see in the mirror is an ugly woman, I KNOW and i FEEL I am beautiful because in 10 years from now, or maybe 5 or three, I will not look as GOOD as I look NOW. Wrinkles, white hair, lumps of fat, hanging skin do not bother me anymore.
Margarita

Well said and thank you. :hug:

I must admit that on occasion I have yelled out loud...leave me alone!
Of course if you're out in public that can be a problem. :D

LOL.....I have yelled, "STOP IT," and had family and dogs just look at me :eek:...hard to control our thought patterns, especially when we give power to the ones that bring us down. The battle ensues...:hit-safe:

LOL You just reminded me of a patient I had back several years ago. I was drawing her blood and she yelled out "Leave me alone! Go away! Stop it!" Just about scared the bejeesus out of me! I kid you not, I jumped and the needle flew up and landed in her knee! I thought I was a goner but she laughed and we continued the blood draw. From that moment on I requested to draw her blood everytime she came in. :p

Hehe, Sandy !!

Those voices I hate too... :mad: Sometimes my head even hurts... for thinking, thinking, thinking about something that like you said, I cant change... :mad:

Hum, it is difficult, but like my cousin someday told me:

"Thinking about the past can make you feel sad as you can change it, thinking about the future can make you anxious as you dont know what it will be like, so, think only about this precise moment !" :D

Difficult huu ? I keep thinking about the past... melancholic ? A LOT ! lol and Im afraid about the future... so, if I manage to adopt that philosophy, Im sure I would be happier.... :rolleyes:

Love,
Majo

I too hear those self doubt voices, and those why bother voices. I find they are louder when I am tired, or under alot of stress. Taking some much needed ME ME ME time helps calm them. Even a simple bubble bath, or a chair on the deck to sit in the sun for 15 mins can help alot. I learned to practice yoga breathing, and meditate. Allow them in, and allow them out. Just let them float through without having to pick them apart.

All of that will work except sitting outside. It's a blustery 16 degrees here! lol

When I used to read Winnie the Poo to our kids, blustery day had such a wonderful descriptive sound to it....now, as an old f***, it's a miserable word. :p

Now isn't that the truth? :p

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when do i not have the little voices? often it is mom lecturing to me. that one is comforting because a part of her is still with me even after death. i imagine her critiquing my clothing choices, especially if i have an interview. sometimes the little voice has the conversation i can't have out loud with someone. then the little voice sticks up for the other guy so i have both perspectives. and people wonder why i am so quiet.