food for thought why do we over do it
 

A serious subject matter has awaken here, why do I over do it. Ok so i over do it,

my wife and kids say pace yourself so you are not burned out next day. problem is when i pace myself i am out of it next day anyway.

so why not over do it get a few extra things done and feel good mentally, because i actually finished something or 3

would like to here your take on this, i mean in my eyes it makes sense i will be tired next day anyway so why not over do it and get my mental juju flowing in positive direction, because i got more done

I'm the same way. I get sudden bursts of energy and I feel pretty darn good so I jump in with both feet knowing full well I'll pay for it later. Like you said, gonna be wore out next day anyway, so I take advantage of the feel good, full of energy moments.

I can't remember the last time I went the entire day feeling great. :(

Right now I have zero energy and it's time for bed....hope you have a good night!

:hug:

I know what you mean. When you have a good day, it's hard not to want to get things accomplished. I understand that comletely!:)

I am firmly undecided about this. :D

Some days I figure, I'll get everything done I can while I have an iota of energy, push as hard as I can, and if I pay, I pay.

Other days, I think, Why shove myself into an exacerbation or even a pseudo to dust furniture that's just going to get dusty again anyway.

The reason that I sometimes overdo is that even now I still "forget" that I'm not the one I useta was.

We do that because we don't know any other way! We see things that need doing and if we have the energy to do them even tho we know we will pay we do it. Simple? Not really but that is the way I am.

And ask for help?? Heaven forbid, they might find out we have MS!! And are weaklings.:rolleyes:

Frank, I will be doing way too much today, getting ready to go camping tomorrow. But it will be worth it in the long run.

I agree with B2Y. Some days I'm in the frame of mind of "OK, I know I cannot do everything so I'll just do a little" and some days I'm a little more defiant!! "This MS isn't gonna tell me what I CAN and CANNOT do....I'll do whatever I darn well please." And then I pay. Sometimes for several days.

It's funny...cause I know I'll have repercussions. I guess some days I just don't care. :Dunno:

Frank I think it is just human nature that we push our selves sometimes over the limit.

In my house unfortunately If I don't do it, it doesn't normally get done.

I went to look up AMN's quote but she took it off her signature but I pretty much live by it. It say something like:

"For every day I want to play, I take a day to pay"

Frank, I agree with you and everyone else :). I stayed out way too late last night, 9 pm, LOL. I was mentally and physically exhausted but I did not want to let people (my son, his girlfriend, and her crazy mother) to think I was somehow 'less than normal' by saying I had to go home. :( Definitely my problem not theirs. Today I feel like a big pile of aching carp and it's my own stupid fault :). And...I'm sure I won't learn from my mistake :D. I also had my Ty infusion and went out to lunch with a friend and did l all of the driving yesterday. I think we just want to pretend we can do all of the things we used to do in our 'before' pictures, if ya know what I mean. :)

I agree with Sassy.

Even though I have had MS a long time I still overdo it.

It's easy to do and I know I will overdo before I actually do overdo - confused yet? :p

MS or not - I want to live life not just watch it pass me by.

Amen to what you all said. I do the very same thing, Frank!!

My brain tells me to pace myself, but my heart still thinks I can go all day just like I used to. I remember complaining about the "old" me, but you know what?? The old me wasnt' so bad.

I did my hardwood floors Monday and I'm still paying for it.

I guess if we were all "normal", we wouldn't have met here at NT.

:grouphug:

Well, Frank, it's the million-dollar question and probably only answered by the day/event. In my case, I'm determined to do certain things before I can't do them at all. It takes me a ridiculous amount of planning and an even more outrageous amount of time & energy to do most things.

When I really saw what is happening to me, I got more determined to do things knowing that it could kick my butt for long stretches of time. I made peace with it because I also know that I would hate myself for the rest of my life if I didn't make the effort and left myself with regrets.

So, I suppose, for me, I have chosen to go in those surges and accept the pay days as the cost of doing business. It feels good in my spirit when I look at the pics, or relive it with friends, or see it finished. It's a matter of feeling satisfied with myself.

So, my answer to myself is, if I want or need to do it, I will do it. :)

The standards I live by now are much lower then before, but that's probably not such a bad thing. My car does not really need to be washed once a week, and gone are the daily cleanings of the kitchen floor. It's probably a good thing that I can't see that well without bi-focals any more. :D

There are two reasons I do push myself, beyond my personal capabilities. One is that eventually it has to get done, so I take advantage of the days when I have the inclination. The other is because I get "cabin fever" after a while and just need to break loose . . . or I'll go crazy with boredom. I really like being productive and busy.

I plan to pay for it, but I don't always.

Cherie

thank you at least now deb can read this and see i am not odd

kudos to amn and dm the breast cancer signatures are wonderful and if anyone else had one i missed, well done ladies

joelle i hope you updated your meeting with motherinlaw looking forward to heaing how it went, now all i got to do is find the thread:yikes: :thud:

I love it when I am full on. I love that feeling of normalcy,of my old self, and I go like a bat out he!!. I enjoy every minute of it as much as I can because I know I will crash and pay for those full on moments.

I have not mastered, nor do I think I ever will, the pace yourself mentality. When I feel good, minimal symptoms and fatigue, I am full on with the exception of the daily MS enforced nap. Do I pay for, of course I do. But the memory of those good days and what I accomplished in that day is so worth it.