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Awwww, so sorry for your troubles, ((((WeaveHerr))))

At least your children will benefit from everyone still living under the same roof.

I hope you get the help and answers you need. Don't give up on God -- He hasn't given up on you. :hug:

I don't have much advice for you, other than: Don't do anything drastic until you KNOW what you want to do.

I'll be praying for your family. I echo what Twink said, Don't give up on God. He's ready when you are.

God does know what you need. Trust and HE will direct you. :hug:

You may want to look into pro bono lawyers or state assistance legal advice. They should help you figure out your rights and how to protect yourself for the future. :hug:

I'm really sorry to hear this, WH! I really can't offer any great advice, but I can say that I will keep you and your kids in my prayers and I am here to listen when you need to vent. That's one of the great things about NT; we are all in need of emotional support at one time or another and the members here really care.

I know we all have our beliefs and I totally respect that, but I have a feeling that the Lord is w/you. Remember the verses from Footprints in the Sand, as the words totally ring true.

take care WH and please come here often and let us know how you are doing.

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It is so sad to hear this from you, we are hear listen at any time. There is one thing I would like to say. God gives us trying times, to see how strong we are, just hang in there and the light will come. My prayers and thoughts are with you.

Darlene:hug:

weave I am sorry,:hug::hug::hug: not sure whats the situation there is as far as friction is involved,

I do not mean to make it sound worse my apologies if it does, but if I may say something about how it was for me and my bro. my folks waited till we graduated high school, I can not tell you how much I wished they had divorced, those were sour years until my bro graduated. those years were hell for me and my bro. I split at 17 and got my own place, just trying to show another side of this, my folks fought and argued a lot and that got old real quick,

like I said I was not sure of your situation so if you are not like my folks, then I say one day at a time, and get the pieces all lined up for your next step in life, try to hang in there :hug::hug::hug:

any time you want to talk don't hesitate been through it as a child and became a sole parent of two babies many many moons ago,

Weave - Although I don't have any advice for you, I will certainly keep you in my prayers.:hug:

Weave, I'm sorry it has come to this for you, but the ray of hope never goes completely out.

Please find and meet with your local women's resource center to learn what kind of help is available to you. They have many, many contacts of all kinds and their whole mission is to help and empower women just like you.

Most of them work for God, just like me. :hug:

WeaveHerr, I am so sorry you are going through so much trouble. Change is always so hard. But, God is always with you, and will guide your way. However, I see something that I think is a positive in your situation. You have the time to make good choices, to research your options, and land safely on your feet. I will keep you and your family in my prayers.:hug:

((((((((Weave))))))))))

there is a song by Scott Krippayne that helps me focus on the Truth when I feel that God is distant

I pray it will encourage you and help you to remember that He can and does work ALL things together for good for His children, and that He loves you:hug:

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=NjxhaaBsWPw

Wow, he even set a deadline to get out of your bedroom? Pffftt, I'd toss him alright.

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weave, not sure whats up or what happened to cause this drift, I just get a feeling it is not good in anyway that you look at it, I hope the arrangements you are trying to work out, do work out:hug:

I am so sorry Weave:hug:

It's hard enough going through a separation but when they stay in the house (even in the basement) I would think that would be even harder. (constant reminder).

I'm sure its hard on the kids too. Even if you aren't saying anything negative kids can sense the tension. I'm sure it makes for a very uncomfortable situation.

I agree with AMN. Make that call. It can't hurt. Just find out if they can offer any advise or help.

My prayers are with you and your family.

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Man WH~ I just feel so darn bad for you. Your sadness and frustration rings loud and clear in your posts. I can only say, that we all care about you here and hope that you'll continue to seek support and comfort from all of us.

That's why WE are here.

I am praying for you and your kids....
Above all~ please try and take care of yourself; stress is so hard on a person.

{{{{WH}}}}

:hug: Weave :hug: You're doing the right thing by just taking things as they come. I've learned that the more I fret over all the "what ifs" the more stressed and anxious I get. That's not to say that having a plan and anticipating what might happen isn't a good thing...it's always good to be prepared...but what is going to happen will happen with or without our worrying and fretting. Just take it one day (or hour or minute) at a time and try not to look too far ahead....concentrate on getting through "now" and the rest will fall into place. Wow, I just sounded alot like my Mom used to sound. I guess that's a good thing....:o

I'm praying for you and your family.....

Weave, good luck today. I think you should go. If not for the two of you, go for yourself. Sometimes talking it out helps and leaning on your spiritual side may ease some of your pain. :hug:

I agree with Sandy....go for yourself and for no other reason. If you go with an open mind and heart you might be surprised what a neutral, third party opinion on things can do for you.

I think of you often, Weave, and you're always in my prayers. :hug:

(((((((((((Weave)))))))))))

I pray you will go, and husband will be willing to try too

It is never to late to try nomatter what has gone before.....



My God hold you close and give you hope and encourage you to go quickly and not delay. :hug:

I also pray you will both find a way to go. Your pastor may be on to something by bringing up the past to resolve your future. There are several things in my past that almost took Jim and I down and it was how we reacted to certain situations that caused it. I was stubborn, hard headed and refused to let any man get the upper hand. I realized that this is because as a child and young woman, so many men in my life had hurt me in many ways.

My dad abandoned us when I was only eight and that alone made me very untrustworthy of any man. I wont go into major details because it's personal but just wanted to you get an idea, that yes, your past and how you react can play a part in how you face challenges. Jim had his own issues as well in that he was raised by a father who was "The man of the house" and was the one who made all of the decisions. He was a good man but raised Jim in a very strict environment.

It was with my spiritual side that I came to know my husband as a woman and not that young child/woman that was afraid he'd take off or hurt me in some way. Of course we were young when this happened but I wanted you to see that your pastor is on to something here. We've been married for 23 years and I wouldn't change a thing. We are who we are today because of all that has happened in our lives.

I don't know your past and I am not sure if it will work for you guys but I do think it's worth the effort, if for one more time. What do you have to lose by trying? :hug:

Hey WH! Just checking in to give more support and let you know that I am keeping you in my prayers.

I think it's helpful for you to come here and vent; as it's almost like keeping a journal of your feelings. Sometimes just typing the words gives a feeling of ''release''. I know you are under major stress and I can't tell you not to be, as given the situation; it's a normal reaction.

I hope you are taking time for YOU. Maybe locking a door, putting on calming music, taking a bubble bath, sipping a glass of wine and shutting out the world is just the med you need. It may not keep the stress away for long, but it will give you a lil break from it, if even for an hour.

Take care WH~ we care about you.

PS Sandy~ Sharing reflections of your past in your post was a very kind and generous thing for you to do. It's not always easy to revisit the past, but w/o flaws, we wouldn't be who we are now. (think I stole that from you)

Hugs all around.

Weave, do what is in your heart. I saw your post in Insights and didn't know he was saying those things to you. All I do know is you keep your head up sister and you do what you have to to get through the day. :hug:

I agree with the others about going ahead with the counseling. Just take it one day at a time. I hope your little ones are doing o.k. You are in my thoughts and prayers.

Darlene:hug:

Weave, maybe talk to them about it. Sometimes teens shut things down as if they aren't happening. I know my boys did when Jim started getting worse because of his ms. I would take them out for lunch and talk to them.