It's Not Over..............
 

Here's what happened yesterday!!!!! His public defender was SICK, so he wasn't there either. Nobody called me though to tell me. Another wasted trip to court.

The prosecutor told me that now that they have reviewed the info I had given them. They see him in a different way. Not a first time offender.

It's going to TRIAL, unless the next court date Nov. 16th he pleads guilty and takes what is given him. If not a trial date will be set.

The prosecutor said there are no plea's for him. So, people will be supeoned, including myself, the pictures the police took at the scene will be shown, the police that came to the scene will be there, etc - I don't think this is his idea, it's the state's. I think he is now in the poop!!!!!! I really wonder at this point if he will even show up.

I am totally drained and exhausted.

Hugs, Nikko

Hugs, Nikko

I find it very odd that the court calendar online, has already been updated for the date of the 16th. Usually it isn't updated so fast, especially since yesterday was a Friday.

I think a lot of what has transpired - was him buying more time.

Now that all of his options are exhausted I guess it really doesn't matter.

My court advocate told me that a lot of this was him trying to wear me down and knows it would get to me. Well, it didn't work.



Nikko

(((((((hugs)))))))

Nikko,
would you have to go?
I feel awful for you.
hang in there...
youu are a strong woman...
hug your pets as much as you can...
they are there for you too.
(((((HUGS)))))
bizi

HI Nikko,
I checked in a few times just to see if you posted, my, no news is good news theory.

Even if it goes to trail, you are not worn down! I read it in you after the court people have told you the options. But, I do think he can just plead guilty, they can't force a trial. That means no plea for a lesser offence, he pleads guilty to all the charges. Then his hope is that sentencing is better or more open ended then if he goes to trail and is found guilty. Sounds like the court will not let him play around anymore, they have him pegged.

ALmost over, closure Nikko, its right around the corner...He will NEVER mess with you again!
Hugs Di

Nikko,

You're going to be just fine.

Hugs to you.

befuddled2

{{{{{Nikko}}}}}

I'm new here but I've been following your story and couldn't think what to say. I'm so sorry that this has not been resolved and there's another delay.

Hang in there. This will pass and soon be all over.

Hugs,

I have to find out if it is going to be a trial by jury or a bench trial.

Which I am not sure what a bench trial is.

Oh, this is the pits. I'm sure my DV counsler can shed some light on this. I see her on Tuesday.


I guess I will know next week at the next hearing when they set the date, or what my supeona states.

I am so confused.

Nikko

Nikko I sure hope it's just a bench trial and not a trial by jury. A bench trial is one without a jury, just the two sides and the judge.

I know the waiting will be hard but just try to think positive and that it's almost over and you can get some closure in all this.

So, then the judge has the final say. With all his history, there is no way she could let him get off, right?

His prior's, this last assault, and aggravated criminal damage. All my medical records, my order of protection.

If he gets off or this gets dismissed then I will have NO faith in the justice system.
My head is spinning again with all that has gone on since July and now it's almost Thanksgiving and it's still a burden, I want to get on with my life.

I wonder if he doesn't plead guilty and take the lesser than going to trial would happen next week. Then I wonder how long it will take for it to go to trial. Maybe not much if it is a bench trial.

I mean its all documented, it's all black and white, pictures and all. This had got to end soon and he needs to punished for his actions. As my bumper sticker says 'THERE'S NO EXCUSE FOR DOMESTIC VIOLENCE' and there isn't.

Maybe he is on a bus going somewhere.

Hugs, Nikko

Nikko with his past charges you'd think this would be an open and shut case. But unfortunately that's not how the legal system works. :( I don't feel comfortable talking about it just yet, but I've lost all faith in the justice system. :mad:

I hope this turns out in your favor and he gets what he deserves.

Oh Nikko
 

(((Nikko))) Hi Love, I am old friend of yours from the old forums. I've changed my screename and info for certain reasons. We were good friends back then. We both found a Dear Friend of ours sadly, remember? Not how we wanted it to turn out. :(

Anyway, Lifes changes s*ck some of the time. I just lost my Dad last month and two weeks later, lost my cousin who lived with us for 15 yrs, she was essentially a Sister to Me. She was my age and Dad had just turned 71 yrs young. I am devastated to say the least. I have been following whats happening to you and my heart is aching for You.

I wanted to give you some words of encouragement Love. You are such a sweet, caring and giving person, don't ever doubt that. YOU deserve all the happiness and peace in the World. You've reached out to so many in their time of need and I am glad you are getting the support and love you need from this forum. I have been lighting candles for You and saying prayers that this life's nightmare your going through ends soon with *Him* paying for what he has done to you recently and back then(I wish I knew back then Sweetie, but understand).

No-one deserves to be treated like that, EVER! I pray he pays, and pays dearly for hurting such a kind sweet woman like you. I also pray that he harms no other person ever again. I want you to Keep the Faith and Believe that this will all turn out right and then you can go on and live your life, renewed, refreshed and happy and most of all, without fear.

You are a strong person, I know you well, deep inside you can get through this taking babysteps and know you have MANY praying for you. I haven't posted lately as you might have noticed. I'm trying to deal with my losses, but felt compelled to post to you today. You have my Support, you have my Love. I am leaving tomorrow until the 14th to go to England with Hubby, our honeymoon, 14 yrs later, but hey, better late than never I guess, LOL. I go with a heavy heart though due to my losses and knowing whats going on with You.

If you can't figure out who I am, I think you'll know, when I say, "Debby", it was You and I who found her. Umm, I will send you some N.E fall leaves, a bit crunchy now and some snow when it comes, ;) Oh and "Go N.E. Patriots and Yah Red Sox(okay a one time thing, but hey, we beat your beloved Yankee's that time, when we were down 3 games!!!!!) Forget about your dolphins too, we'll take them"! :D I thought of you back then Honey.

I LOVE YOU SWEETHEART! I know I dropped out of sight for a looong time, and lost touch with everyone, but it was due to personal reasons, moves, surgeries ect. You HANG IN THERE LOVE, YOU HAVE US ALL!!!!! Prayer in numbers always works. Believe in Miracles and I want you to know, when I leave for England tomorrow, I am going to St. Paul's Catherdral in London and I am lighting Candles of Hope and Prayer for You. Take comfort in that as well. You'll have prayers from all over the world, and now even in another Country!!! I also am going to snail mail you something special to help you through this time, I am purchasing it in England. When I get back, I will PM you. Right now, I have not packed or done anything. :eek:

Love ya kiddo,
Me

Hi, WOW it is so good to hear from you. Yes, I know who you are. How can we ever forget that day with our dear friend. I still think about her.

I am so sorry to hear about your dad and your cousin. My thoughts and prayers are with you.

Enjoy your trip to England. Thank you for your support and prayers.

No snow!!!!! Ah your Pats, yeah my Dolphins are sunk. That was a year when the Red Sox won. I was shocked at my Yankees.

I am so happy to hear from you. Will have to talk when you get back from your trip. I'll be thinking of you.
Thanks for posting to me too. I'll get through this ordeal somehow.

Hugs, Nikko

Dear Feebs,
I am sorry about your losses.

Mari

Welcome Feebs,
I am sorry for your losses.
Wonder if you have any pets to help you mourn.
They can be so comforting too.
((((HUGS))))
bizi

Dear Nikko,
Keep faith in yourself and the team you have.
Mari

Hey
 

Nikko,

Keep faith, and try to put fear aside. I try to have faith everyday but I have to restart my day over and over and over, because I suck at it;-) But, you are very loved.

Nutty Buddy