Weekend Check In Time Friday September 26
 

Hello,
How are you?

How are you spending your time this weekend?

I just got home from work 5 minutes ago.
I came to the computer to check on today's news and to see what time the pres debate is on because a friend at work would like me to record it for her students.

Tomorrow I see the acupuncturist and Sunday I go to the gym.
On both days I have paperwork for work.

Mari

Hi, I've been at a fair exhibiting all day. It was a pretty good day.

Other than a sore foot, and sore side and things. But lots of help
and lots of good networking for me.

I love it when I get to meet people in my area.



Derrick is spending the evening with his girl and they are going to a movie
instead of homecoming dance. It was going to be to late.

And the rest are gone quiet here, enjoying while I can.

Donna

listening to the debates...sort of.
It makes me very uncomfortable watching them...too stressful....
hard to explain....They will bad mouth each other and I don't like that.
bizi

I don't like it either. They need to learn to give their own good, not
others negative.



Donna

Hi Mari, Bizi, and Donna.

I went to an oyster feast at Collegiate School tonight. There was some good roast beef and potato salad there also. I didn't eat the other stuff and didn't like the cole slaw. They had a blue grass band playing. I wish I had some more of that roast beef now.

befuddled2

Hi barbara,
that sounds like fun...I like blue grass music too!
bizi

Bizi,

It was fun. I was not use to all the noise from the big crowd though. I use to not mind noise from crowds. The band was good but I'd perfer rock and roll or regular country. Still, I felt so good when I got home after having night out.

too depressed for the beach
 

After the acupuncturist, I saw my friend in the Assisted Living Facility -- I last saw her early in the summer I think. She was happy to see me.

Then I went to the beach because her place is near the beach.

There was a festival with food and rock music. I stayed for 15 minutes because I was depressed and it looked like it would rain soon.

Mari

Mari, that festival sounded like fun with rock music. It looked like rain last night at the one I went to also. It was lightening outside but I don't think it ever really rained hard.

befuddled2

Hi all.

I went and got my hair shampooed and styled.

Then I watched Will, while Sabrina and Devin did some moving.


Derrick got to go bowling with his provider. And its being proved
he needs a ball that weighs more. He scored 147 the first game.
And then a 74 and a 63.

But it was with a 10 and a 9 ball. His is a 8 ball at school.

So we need to get him a bigger ball.

Donna

Hey everyone,

Just sitting here trying to get used to the new chair and setup it requires, meaning it's limitations. We have one bathroom I can't get into sadly. Oh well I need to get over it with caring that this is a heavyduty chair. I just do not like it. We'll see how horrible it's going to be with the anti-tippers....

other then that things are well, having this chair has colored my weekend. I wish I didn't feel so negative about chairs like this. I have had the ultralights for 21 years and Jack got me started on trying to get the wheelchair company to get me a heavy dutier chair because of jackie. :p

Well I got it. :(

Pam

Hoping you can find that over time the heavyduty chair is something
you can get used too.

Sending you hugs.

Donna

sending hugs to both of you today
((((pammy, donna)))))
bizi

i havent been around for a whilee.
everything has been more and more hectic till the other day i had a panic attack. :(

im slowly trying to get back into posting on here because i miss all of your support.

This weekend was a depressing one at our household. We had to hospitalize my neice for at least a month. I was there for a few hours this morning and will go back this evening for a couple more. Its really hard to step back and allow someone else to take over; but she/we need the help.

I just went and bought a bunch of stuff to make brownie banana splits for dinner. The other 3 kids need a pick me up pretty bad, and what better way to do that then a high calorie, unnutritional dinner. (and; to quote my favorite motto which I will be reciting during MY banana split......"if you are offended by the size of my ****; dont look!") :D

Hope everyone had a good weekend/monday.

banana splits
 

Bobi,
Oh but banana splits are in fact nutritional -- if we only count the bananas!! And brownies have eggs, chocolate, oil -- all stuff that counts as real food. :cool:

Your other little ones will take a cue from your example and be ok with this because they see that you are handling the problem and that you did get immediate and comprehensive help for her.

This is comforting in away -- to see someone with serious needs get their needs met.

This is a terrible thing for me to say, but maybe it will be easier in the house for a few weeks with just three of them there.
And maybe they could use this break too.

Have they gotten to see her in the hospital or talk to her on the phone yet? Maybe after her first week (or whenever you or the docs think it is appropriate), then can see / hear for themselves that she is in the best place for the circumstances.

Maybe they can make some homemade cards/letter for her.
Can she get e-mail soon?

I think that cooking works for you.
Take the three of them on a picnic this weekend. Let them help plan the menu.
Ok. Never mind.

Are you working during this time?
I imagine that it is hard to have a family member in the hospital while trying to keep everything else running.


Mari

They will all see her tomorrow night for the family night (once a week). We all get to participate in a family counseling session, and then will have an hour to visit and play a game.

I felt bad saying it too; but its already calmer at home. The other kids realise she needed to go and are ok with it (they know the basics of what happened, but the counselor will address it more in depth tomorrow night with everyone there.) And honestly, everyone (including my neice) needed a break. Hopefully things will be easier to address once she gets back home. Thats one thing I wouldn't trade about our household. Because we have a HUGE amount of quirks, DX's, and personal history everyone is extremely supportive of each other. (they get on each others nerves and fight like cats and dogs at times, but they never hold a grudge and are always willing to jump in and support whatever anyone is dealing with)

The cards are a good idea! Since the kids will only see each other once a week I will have the other 3 write her a note or make a card and deliver them to her (and vice versa). They would all enjoy that. And the picnic is brilliant. We were going to take them fishing this weekend - but we could all cook up a huge basket of food to take with us. (Cooking does work for me....so does eating it :o )

The pdoc is going to try some new medication - and now the focus of therapy can be focused more appropriately. Thats the silver lining of the situation I suppose.

And as for banana splits being healthy, I am SO glad! (I may have possibly eaten 3 of them, and the kids munched on the brownies after they had devoured the icecream and toppings lol.)

Dear Bobi,
You and your family are going to be ok.
Mari

I believe you and your family are doing things the best you can.

I also believe they can handle this with all the love you have for them.

Sending hugs and love.

Donna

Bobi,
'Hoping that the family night went well and that you are holding up.
Mari

It went ok - not perfect but not horrible. (The counseling part) Apparently earlier in the day when she was working with a counselor 1 on 1 the counselor asked her to describe in one word everyone in her family. She used "the good mom" to describe me. When he asked her if she calls me mom (she doesn't. I will always be her "Aunt B" which is what she's called me since she could talk) she apparently got very defensive.

Appparently there are some unresolved guilt feelings; like she is abandoning her biological mother by the way she feels about us, that are going to have to be addressed. Then when he asked her about the legal name change when we adopted her she got downright angry. At least these things are finally getting addressed instead of just the abuse issues. (the other counselor felt that the sexual and emotional abuse was where the focus of therapy needed to be.)

Things went smoother once we just kicked back and played a board game for an hour.

She started the new meds this evening. Along with the PTSD and Reactive Attachment, she has now been upgraded to bipolar II. I've suspected this for quite some time - and am thankful that the correct dx has been identified and can now be treated.

My bipolar son gave her a hug tonight before we left and told her that things get a lot easier on the right medication. She smiled a little when he told her that.

Anyway, I do think things will improve. Its going to be rough for awhile, but it will be ok eventually.