Weekend Check In Time Saturday October 11
 

Hi,

How are you?

. . . not having my best week.
But I got through it.
Work troubles. Hubby troubles.

But also my friend just got a bid accepted on a foreclosed house.
She is very excited. She was looking about 16 months for something in her price range that was also decent to live in.

I had to see her twice this week late after work so she could talk. (I could have been sleeping!)

But I think that the house thing is stressful for me.
Hubby likes talking about houses but I want to rent -- less stuff to deal with.
In fact, until the election got close, all people talk about all the time here is the housing market.
. . . .really really really not interesting to me. Boring. Boring and stressful.


I think almost anything is stressful for me. :confused:
Pick a topic.

Time for bed so I can wake up cheerful.


Mari

ETA: Sorry for getting the date wrong in the title. Saturday is October 11 all day long. :Cowgirl:

thought I would repost this here...I am tired and should be in bed but hubby never called so am worried about him.
bizi

Hi, Bizi,
That would have been better if you got his call.
He'll probably call tomorrow.

Mari

Oh bizi, I feel for you so much! It's just going to get better soon, hang in there. It's just got to get better for you soon. (((((hugs)))))

I agree Mari, talking about the housing market is beyond boring, I would fall asleep if people wanted to constantly discuss houses. Ugh...Hope with the holidays coming they stop the housing talking, and start up about family and holidays, that is always more interesting to me then HOUSES....LOL!! :D

As for me same old, same old, today is Mom's birthday and we're going out liek we always do on Saturdays to Wendy's and Walmart. Jackie is a little hyper this morning but he'll be a good boy. He's always good for us when we go out. :) Hope everyone has a great weekend! :D

some magic monkey fairy dust fixed your title mari. :D

My husband worked late last night to catch up on some work he'd missed since hospitalising our neice; and came back home and told me to sit down. He was shaking. He told me that the company is downsizing because of budget increases and said that he has the choice of a severence check or a transfer to upstate NEW YORK!!! :eek::eek::eek:

If he takes the transfer he would have to report in 3 months. I'm freaking out. And he's worrying about finding another job with a different company because he's been with his one for 12 years, and with the economy going to hell in a handbasket hes worried that he'd be the first to go during another downsize with a new company since hed be low man on the totem pole.

The CIO really values him as an employee; which is why he is being offered the move instead of being handed a severence check (which he was told is happening to a few on Monday) But how the hell do we move?? And in 3 months??? That means I am going to have to leave my job - the kids will have to leave their doctor and counselor, as well as the school where 3 of mine go! Its a wonderful charter! We'll have to sell our home and buy a new one in an area where the home we paid $145k for would sell for $400k minimum. (Although his salary will be adjusted for the cost of living; and they will cover the closing costs and moving expenses)

Even with the economy crapping out I'm not worried about our home selling fast as this area was not hit like the rest of the country; but buying another one with rates the way they are is scary. Not to mention its NEW YORK!!!

Hubby took the kids out for pizza a little while ago so I could stay home and freak out in peace and try to think things through. GAH!:mad::eek::confused:

WOW that's a lot to swallow! :eek: I don't know what I would do in this situation, probably freak out and end up moving. Sheesh, I can't imagine how hard this would be to deal with. You have my sympathy Bobi. :(

We will end up moving too. I just don't even know where to start! We are established here; have family here; medical staff and school; my job; hell, our LIVES!

We havn't said a word to the kids yet. I'm not even sure where to begin! I will have to contact a realtor here, give notice to my job, start looking at schools and areas to live close to where James will work, and figure out how to screen a new doctor and have him in place before we actually move. 3 months is an extremely short amount of time. James has spent a lot of time at the home company so he is more familiar with the area - I've only gone once. There are a ton of details that are going to have to be worked out with his company as well. James said that they will sign a 5-year contract with him if he moves since its going to be expensive all around, and that they will work out the new salary and things before its on paper. I highly doubt I'm going to be working for quite awhile as this is going to be the adjustment ffrom hell for all of us.

3 months....good lord. We knew that a lot of changes were in the works, and James knew they were planning on downsizing the local branch, but there was NO indication of CLOSING this branch and moving us clear across the country! (at least not that he told me. knowing him he probably just didnt say anything until it was in stone because he knew i'd freak out) I feel so sick.

and im rambling and probably not making a lot of sense. Sorry, my mind is going 500 mph. :(

OMG
bobi, what a shock.
I cna't imagine what all you have to do.
Would homeschooling be better for the kids instead of sticking them in schools half way thru the semester?
What a lot to think about...
I am sorry, you must just be shocked.
(((((HUGS)))))
bizi

Dear Bobi,

Take deep breaths.
Whatever you and your husband do will work out for you.
And you have time to think about this.

I have a beloved family member who lives in
Beacon, New York. It is lovely.
Here are some pictures I found doing a google search.
Scroll down on the blog:
http://jstheater.blogspot.com/2007/0...osis-talk.html

West Point is in upstate NY and it is absolutely beautiful.
That part of NY is famous for its brownies -- I kid you not.
And pizza! New York pizza is fabulous.
Fishing, hiking, . . . all of that is good.


How far UPstate? (PM maybe if you want)
I heard that the cost of living in Buffalo is cheap.

New York has very good public schools. I'm serious.
I have family who work in them.


Here are some links about their charter schools:
http://www.greatschools.net/modperl/go/NY

http://www.newyorkcharters.org/

The schools in New York City stink big because the city pays their teachers very poorly and they have big organizational problems. But you won't be in the city.

They have good drs there -- really.

The problem I would have is two fold
1) it is cold
2) it is an old part of the country and every thing looks old compared to where I live now. Here we tear down a building after 25 years and put up a bigger one.
Lots of people here live in brand new houses.
So going to New York feels like going back in time.


You can deal with cold weather.
And you'll love the beauty of New York.
http://www.kimberleefoster.com/images/adx-hiking.jpg

http://www.kimberleefoster.com/images/adx.jpg

(I've got no idea how to drop the pics into this post -- I can put in links.)


People in upstate vote conservative / republcian, if you remember. It is probably a lot like where you live now in terms of people.

The accent will be different.
But upstate is not like the City or like Long Island.


You know that I moved every year or so until I got to middle school because of the military. We kids did fine with the moving. That was the one part of the way I grew up that worked out well for me. Seriously.

Breathe.
He has a job.
That's the important thing.
He can provide for all 6 of you.
That is a very good thing.

Mari

Bobi,
:Heart:
I just read your second post.
Maybe my other post wasn't that helpful.
I'm trying to say that if you move the kids will be ok.

Mari

Keep talking to us. :hug: :hug: :hug:
M.

Dear Mari:
No, it made perfect sense - and your post made me feel a lot better. In fact I've been looking at all the links you provided. He will be working in Oswego County.

I'm just scared. The kids will be ok reguardless - but we are going to be very out of place. For hecks sake I garden, cook, can, play cards with my neighbors, and run a non profit for children with mental health conditions. I'm always busy, but its a very laid back, simple lifestyle.

I was right though. James did have an idea this was coming. He handed me some information on the area when they got home. Hopefully I'll be able to look at this a little more clearly tomorrow, because today I'm just fighting the knot in my stomach.

Thanks again.
Bobi

PS - I'm a democrat! :P
PS Again - I do love pizza and brownies....

Hi,
Lake Ontario!

From my googling Oswego County looks rural-ish.
You might want to consider being as close to Syracuse (one county over) as you can because Syracuse has a medical school with a psychiatry program. If I were from out of town and looking for a good pdoc, I would start with the medical school.

http://www.upstate.edu/psych/healthc...nics/child.php

Here's a forum for people to talk about Syracuse and the surrounding area:
http://www.city-data.com/forum/syracuse-area/

Yeah, I know that you are a dem. But you live in a repub part of the country I think. :)


Mari

Bobi,
The county has its own web site:

http://www.ongov.net/
For people who like the out doors, this is a dream.
You have to be able to deal with snow though.

Mari

Schools
 

Bobi
Here are the school districts in ONONDAGA County.
https://www.nystart.gov/publicweb/Co...ounty=Onondaga
M.


(OK.
Looks like I got a little nuts with the posting.)

It does seem to be very rural-ish - just a way more expensive type than I'm used too lol. Snow is no problem. Cold isn't either. Syracuse is really close! A medical school would be wonderful! (Heck, I'm sure they would clomp onto my family in a heartbeat lol.) I bet there are lots of places I could eventually find work at in an area with a psych program.

Its just so far away. :(

But - at least my hubby has a good job, which is more than a lot of families around here are going to have in the next couple months. I feel so bad for them. A woman James works with just finished her degree and has been there for about a year and is a single mom of 3. He said she is one of those that will be given a check on Monday. No warning or anything for her. It makes me want to cry. She is very employable at least. And she is currently renting so its easier to pack up and move if need be....:(

I was looking at some houses on the market right now and about died! A house HALF the size of mine is selling for $320k right now!! Granted, it has a lot of property, but its TINY! I'm sure realtors will have more listings though. (crossing fingers) I do like the style of the homes though. The ones in the picture seem very colonial in style.

It will work.. I'm not sure how, but it will. It would be stupid for him to leave his job and hope for the best here. I'll hopefully be able to think a little more clearly tomorrow. Right now I think I am going to try to take a nap. My head is spinning :(
-B

Sending hugs and good thoughts.

Coming in on end of this conversation.

Donna

Maybe with the housing crunch you might be able to get a really nicer home than before.
I hope that you can sleep tonight.
keep posting...
we are listening...
bizi

I have been giving some of my worries of money to god. Or whomever
is in charge. I finally decided I can't rule life and I can't make things
go away.


I know that there is a good chance that we could be in a boat and
have no oar too. So I am just trying to unsink my half.

Personally from the way they are talking on TV right now, I would think.
You might just get a really nice good size house.

And lets finding the perfect job.



Donna

I am worried that my hubby has not gotten home yet...he was supposed to be home hours ago. He is driving back from texas....
He doesn't have a cell phone except one for emergencies to call the police/911...all old cell phones work that way without a service plan.
I brought dinner over to a friends house, pork tenderloin with chipotal raspberry sauce...it was very good. We watched the movie Juno...which always makes me cry...I need to buy it.
where is my sweetie?????
bizi

Bizi,

I hope he makes it home soon -- or at least finds a way to call you. :hug:

Mari

he jsut got home....
he is fine.:o
bizi

I feel a little better today. James told me that the company will fly us out for free in a month so we can house hunt and get a feel for the housing and living areas instead of just the hotel and company headquarters where he usually stays when he goes. We can even take the kids. I've never flown on a small private plane before - I will pack extra klonopin for sure...:eek: James says the plane is nice, and its also nice not having to deal with a commercial flight. (I've been there once when he had to go, but we flew commercial because I had to buy my own ticket) And a small plane will be alot easier with the kids. (He wasn't sure we should take them, but they need to be involved in this process as well.)

We talked to the 3 of them last night. There was initial panic, and then my oldest and youngest got excited when I showed them the pictures in the link Mari provided of all the fishing and outdoor activities. My oldest son started crying and felt really overwhelmed - like I did. But he did smile at the pictures of the guy with a huge fish.

My younger neice I will talk to alone this afternoon when I visit, and then we will all talk about it as a family on Tuesday. She will be released on Saturday and is doing really well. I think the medication change was the biggest need. She is feeling a lot better; and doing a lot better. She is also relieved about home schooling for the rest of this year. I considered this with all of them, but the other 3 enjoy school - and since we will be moving during Christmas break they could join a new class and jump right into making friends. We'll see.

I think the girls will handle this better than anyone because they are so used to moving; and they at least know that we will move into a safe home in a nice area, and we will be together. Thats always their biggest fear. They boys, having never known the life the girls have had, are more concerned about new friends, house, leaving our families, ect. But they will be ok. (I still feel like falling apart if I stop and think about it, but if I keep busy with the plans to move I will be ok.)

OK so if you managed to hang on and read through this whole ramble I appologise for the headache you probably have by now lol. Thanks for the support everyone. Im sure I'll be crying on here several more times before Jan. :rolleyes:

PS: I am so glad your hubby got home ok bizi! I hope you sleep better tonight!

I'm so glad your husband got home Bizi.

And I think that the private plane, and getting there ahead to look around
and find the perfect place will help.

Donna

Phew I never get through times like that well when I am expecting Jack to get home and he's delayed, not anymore though he's gonna take the cell with him when he goes out now like I do so we can keep in good touch. It's so hard to not worry you know? Anyway glad he's home bizi. :)

I've had a great breakthrough with Jackie I posted about in my Perm thread, I am so happy this weekend was able to go so well, now if only we can get through the next week ok. Lord have mercy I am so scared about this trip, I need to relax and enjoy it since it's the first and probably only vacation I'll go on in the next twenty years. LOL! :D Because it's been 27 since my last one when I was 13. :)

Hope everyone has a great Sunday evening. It's good you've been able to talk to the kids Bobi, I have been praying a lot lately because of the economy and you and your family I added to my prayers. You CAN do this...You all can and will get through it. Change is hard, I couldn't do it, but that's because JAckie really shouldn't be uprooted again, THIS place is home to him. At least for now it is. :)