A little worried about my mum...
 

Hi everyone,

I am a little bit worried about my mum. For a few weeks now she hasn't been feeling well at all and she now has this weird tingling sensation in her left arm that comes and goes. Sometimes if she is carrying something, she feels has though she is going to drop it has her arm seems to "give way". She works in a pretty stressful job (she is an IT manager) and her boss has been acting funny with her lately about her having time off work to take care of me due to my RSD.

My mum's mum (my grandma) had Progressive MS and her MS came on similar to what my mum is experiencing, although her's was her vision that first started acting up.

Mum says she is going to call our GP on Monday if she doesn't feel any better, hopefully it will be something that can easily be sorted but i'm a bit worried about her. We have a family history of neurological illnesses, I have RSD, my grandad had Progressive MS, my great grandma has Dementia and my Uncle had Parkinsons Disease.

Just wondered if any of you had any suggestions that may help or if any of you have been through a similar situation.

Thanks ever so much!
Alison

Wow, you have so much to deal with at such a young age. My heart goes out to you and your family. The best advice is to keep on her about going. She may be putting it off because she is scared, but it is important that she go.

Good luck to both of you.

Thank you so much Legzzalot for your kind words. I will definitely make sure my mum goes to see our GP. I keep nagging her and she say's "It might be better soon, just leave it until Monday" but i've told her it's better to be safe rather than sorry and that hopefully the doctor will be able to help her.

She has promised to call the doctors on Monday if it is no better so we shall see .... In the mean time, I will keep nagging her and keeping an eye on her!!

Thanks again and I will keep you updated.

Alison:hug:

Sweetie, you are such a good daughter!! It could be from a lot of things, so try not to worry until you have something to worry about...and then still try not to worry.

She really does need to get it checked, it could be a restricted nerve due to carrying heavy files, etc. It might not be all that painful but it will cause numbness in the arms, hands, fingers...

Hope you both get answers soon.

And it's true it could be a number of things and it could be nothing. But as I have discovered in the last few weeks, the guessing game is the worst. It is better to know.

Ahhh Ali,

It sounds as if you have the weight of the world on your shoulders, when you should be carefree and starting to enjoy your teens and doing things that get YOU in trouble!:)

All you can do with Mum is keep encouraging her to see the doctor. I bet she is worried abut what may come of the visit, but it's better to know now so she can start treatment for whatever it is that is ailing her. You can't make her go. Just keep letting her know that you love her and you worry about her and that whatever it is, she and you, will be ok and will deal with it.

Let us know how it goes! :hug::hug::hug:

:hug: Ali :hug: You do have alot on your plate at such a young age. Your Mom is just being like most of us Mom's are.....putting off taking care of herself. :rolleyes: She'll make it to the doctor's office...all you can do is let her know you care and are concerned for her health. You're a good daughter. If I had a daughter I'd hope she'd be like you. :)

Ali, I am sorry you have to worry so much. :hug: It may be nothing at all or something fixable so try to not worry just yet. I went through a similar ailment about two years ago. I couldn't lift a gallon of milk without pain and feeling like I could drop it. It got so bad that lifting a glass was becoming difficult. It turned out it was repetitive movement that was causing my problems and when I stopped that, I got better. They did think it was carpal tunnel and tested me but the testing was negative for that.

If it is something else we are here to help support you and your family. Try hard to lift this burden from your shoulders. Your mom will seek help when the time is right for her. In the meantime just let her know you love her and need her to stay well. :hug:

Awwww, so sorry that you have your Mum's health to worry about. :( I hope it is something simple like Sandy suggested.

Whatever it is, you two are a team and must look out for each other. Do whatever you can to see that she follows through and sees the GP on Monday.

GO TEAM! :)

I hope it's just a passing thing with your Mum, Ali. My Mom wouldn't go to the Doc either, unless she absolutely had to go. She would always say that if you go to the Doctor, he/she will always find something.:p

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:hug:.. Ali..:hug: sorry the stress level is high Ali, prayers and thoughts and hopes the docs find an easy fix to this for your Mum, I know you are worried about what ifs. you have to try and not do this it makes life and stress harder. wait till doc tells you what it is, You have all our support, You are a wonderful daughter Ali, :hug:

If she is on the computer a lot it could be some sort of repetitive strain injury. How is her posture- does her neck, shoulders or upper back get sore and tight also? If so you might read on our TOS forum useful stickys.

But yes, I agree, best to find out and not put off getting things checked out. The sooner it is figured out the sooner the treatment can be started, for whatever is causing it.

Hey Ali~ Yes, please encourage your Mum to see the Dr. It will be a step in the right direction to see if something is indeed, wrong. You are always so caring and sweet to everyone here, so we are here for you too.

Try not to stress too much, as you have been through so much yourself. Please let us know how your Mum makes out.
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I would really like to thank you all for taking the time out to offer suggestions and help, it really helps both me and my mum knowing that you are all here :hug:.

Mum still isn't feeling well and her left arm is still tingling quite a lot. She hasn't been sleeping much so I don't think that is helping. She says she feels like I do with my RSD, that no matter how much sleep she gets, she still feels really tired and fatigued and doesn't feel like doing anything.

She has promised to go and call the Doctors on Monday if this doesn't pass - I keep nagging her and telling her to go and get it checked out lol. I think she is a bit worried about going has she doesn't want there to be something the matter but like I have told her, it is better to go and get it checked out and taken care of rather than worrying about what could be the matter. She is her own worst enemy, before I was diagnosed with RSD, she kept taking me to the hospital to find out what was wrong but now SHE is ill, she doesn't want to go lol.

Jo - My mum does quite a lot of keyboard work at her work but she usually types with her right arm and it is her left arm that is currently affected. She says that has far has she is aware, her back and posture is fine. I will check out the TOS forum though and see if I can find any info that might be useful. Thanks for replying!!

Thanks again everyone and I will keep you all updated on what we find out.

Love to you all,
Alison and mum

A little late getting in here Ali, but just wanted you to know that I'll be thinking and praying for you and your Mum. With everything you're dealing with now, you deserve a break. Please keep us posted and lots of hugs to ((((((you))))) and your (((((Mum)))))......:)

hi ali,
i'm sorry your mum isn't feeling well.
you're doing the right thing by just encouraging her to see her dr.

i'm sure she's nervous but when she finds out what might be wrong she will gain control over the situation. i've found that when i'm afraid about something it robs me of personal power. but when i take control i get it back.

best to you both.
thanks for the updates.

ps...what's RSD?

Thank you all for your kind words and support, it means a lot to me and my mum.

My mum has always been afraid to go and see a Doctor so she must be feeling really unwell if she is actually thinking about going!! I will keep you all updated when we find something out.

Nancy - RSD stands for Reflex Sympathetic Dystrophy and is also called Complex Regional Pain Syndrome. It is a neurological chronic pain condition and affects the muscles, skin, bone etc. I have it in my left leg and right arm.

Thanks again everyone.

Ali, :hug: make sure you keep on your mum about calling the doctor...
let her know that this is stressing you out, and she would be helping you if she went and found out what is causing her problem...
I am sure she would want to lessen any stress you are under...

Good luck, take care, and know that we're praying for you and your mum:grouphug:

Ali, you are such a wonderful daughter and person. You remind me so much of my youngest daughter. She is always worried about me and telling me to see the doctor - I sometime wonder who is the adult. :)

My prayers are with your mum and you hoping she sees the doctor and gets some results.

You have so much to deal with I really hope you get to be a teen also!

Please keep us posted! Thinking of you and your mum!

:hug: to both of you.

Hi everyone,

Just wanted to let you know that my mum called the Doctors. She cannot get an appointment to see our GP for another 10 days. They have booked her an appointment for the 26th November at 8.50am although if things get any worse, the nurse has adviced her to go down and sit and wait.

I will let you know how things go with the appointment. Thank you all once again for your kind words and support, it means a lot to both me and my mum.

10 days! Sheesh! Seems like forever when you are so worried. :(

That's for the update, Ali. Maybe if you call periodically you can get in sooner? Perhaps someone will cancel?

NurseNancy, it amazes me when I read all those acronyms in Ali's siggy line that she knows first-hand what they all mean.

Good luck, cutie. You'll keep us posted, right? And don't worry so much about Mum that you forget to take care of Ali, k? :hug::hug::hug:

I hope they find out what is ailing your mom. You and your family need
some respite from health problems. :hug::hug::hug:s to you and your
mom