Prayers Needed Please
 

I don't normally ask for prayers but I really need one today. My grandma (dads mum) has just called our house and said that she thinks my grandad has collapsed and has died has he isn't breathing. My dad has gone round there now whilst my mum called an ambulance and my mum has just followed them.

I feel so guilty because of all the things I said about them to my dad and also my dad hasn't seen them for ages and he feels it is his fault. Why couldn't I have just kept my mouth shut????


My head is all over the place at the moment but I will let you know when we hear anything.

Please pray that my grandad is going to be OK, I don't know how much more this family can take.

Thanks ever so mucjh.

Dear sweet Ali, that is just so terrible. What you must be going through right now, I dread to even imagine. Are you alone in the house?

I daresay you'll have heard something as I type this to you, and I pray that when you do hear, that it will be good news.

It's hard not to feel guilty about things said, or things unsaid at times like this, but just remember that your grandfather loves you, and I'm sure that he loves your dad as well.... no matter what has been said.

I'm sure it's the pain in your heart making all these things rush through your head. Please try to remember that they will all be exaggerated at the moment, in this time of such anxiety and distress.

I can well imagine how your poor head must be feeling right now.

If you're alone Ali, and just waiting for a phone call, please know that I'm online if you want some one to talk to.

Sending you much love and praying for your grandfather, you and all of your family. :hug:

Thank you so much Koala for your kind words and support - you don't know how much they mean at a time like this and I can't thank you enough :hug:.

You really brung a smile and tears to my eyes when you said that my grandfather will love me .... i'm sure that he does no matter what was said and I never thought of it that way.

My dad has just got back in the house and says that they have taken my grandad to the hospital but things aren't looking good, they have got a little heart beat back but that is only through the machines that he is wired up to. I just hope and pray that he will make it, despite all of the things that I said, he was the best grandad you could ever wish for.

I will keep you all updated, my head is a right mess at the moment so i'm sorry if I am rambling.

Thank you so much.
Alison

Thank you for letting me know. I'm so pleased that you still have your grandfather and I hope that over the coming few hours things will start to look better for him.

Don't let go of the knowledge of all the wonderful things that he's said to you, the love that he's shown to you, and the love that you have given and shown to him. It will help you both get through today.

Please know that we're all here for you Ali, and it's ok to ramble as much as you want. Sending you my love and lots of gentle hugs......:hug:

Hi Ali.....any new news yet? Waiting is the hardest thing to do, especially when it's like this.

I'm praying that your Grandad will be okay. And it's normal to feel guilty at times like this....even if you have absolutely nothing to feel guilty for. It's just a natural human reaction when something bad happens to someone else. So don't be too hard on yourself. :hug:

Please let us know once you hear back from your folks. You're all in my prayers today.

Adding my prayers Ali....:grouphug:

((((((((((((((((((Ali))))))))))))))))))))))))

i am praying too

Thank you all so very much for your kind words and support, it means a lot :hug:.

I am in tears has I type this but just wanted to let you all know what has happened ...

I have just got back from the hospital with my parents, unfortunately my grandad didn't make it and passed away at 9.30am this morning, English time. Apparently, my grandad wasn't in any pain has everything happened so quickly, my nanan explained that they were going to go to the store and my grandad was going to get on his electric scooter and complained that he was dizzy and within 30 seconds, he had collapsed and his heart stopped beating. My nanan thought he was just fooling about until he made some funny noises and she then called my dad and we called the ambulance. The doctors on the phone told my dad to do CPR on him to try and get his heart to start beating again but unfortunately it didn't.

The nurses allowed us all to see my grandad in the hospital and that had to be one of the hardest things I have ever had to do in my entire life. I went in with my mum, nanan and dad and we all burst into tears and my nanan kept shouting that she wanted him back and burst into tears. I couldn't really bear to see my grandad like that has I just wanted him back and the reality hit me so much.

All of our other family members went in to see him also and the nurses gave us a book to read about what to do next. They suspect that my grandad suffered a real, massive heart attack but because it was so sudden and there was no warning signs, they are having to do a post-morterm. My grandad wanted to be cremeted so that is what we are having done.

I can't concentrate at the moment, just knowing that I will never see my grandad again is truly heartbreaking. My nanan is in a right state so we are going to go and see her again later tonight and get her a few things from the shop. My uncle came round and we all got right worried has we thought something had happened to my nanan also but she went for a walk has she says she can't cope being in the house on her own at the moment has it is all too fresh.

Thank you all once again for your kind words and support, it's so nice knowing that people are here to listen to me.

Love, Alison

I can understand why she might not want to be alone in her home yet, can someone stay with her or take her to their home for a day or 2?

oh (((Ali))) I am so sad to hear this

I agree with Jo that maybe if someone can stay over with your nanan or let her spend a few nights with them, that will ease things for her. The shock and loss are enormous for her now, as for all of you.
I pray you all manage to pull together to support one another now more than ever. losing a loved one is so very traumatic and I do hope you dont have flare ups of your pain from all this stress (((Ali)))

I'm so sorry, Ali. The passing of a loved one is never easy but especially hard when it's so unexpected. It will take your Nanan some time to take it all in. It would be good if someone could stay with her or take her to their home for the next few days. You're all in my prayers and I hope that you find the strength to deal with the days ahead as they will be difficult. :hug:

My prayers and thoughts are with you and your family in this difficult time ali. :hug: I am so sorry for your loss.

Oh Ali I am so sorry to read of his passing. :( Sending up prayers. :hug:

so sorry dear ali. sending hugs and prayers your way.:hug::hug:

Ali, I'm so sorry.

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dearest ali~
 

Alison,

So sorry to hear about your lost. My prayers are with you and your family.

Darlene:hug:

Thank you all so very much for your kind words and prayers, you don't know how much it means at a time like this.

We went to see my nanan again last night to see if she was OK and she said that she was but you could tell that something wasn't right. She kept staring into the chair where my grandad sat which is also where he collapsed and died. It's so distressing seeing her like this and is a bit scary at the moment going into the house. My nanan lives with one of her sons (my uncle) so he is going to be taking care of her hopefully and she has 5 other kids who have all said that they will offer to help out.

I'm feeling a lot more upset today. I think yesterday I was in shock and didn't want to believe or believed that all of this was happening. I just wanted it to be a big nightmare and I would just wake up and everything would be fine but I know that is not the case.

I didn't sleep last night, I have too much on my mind and everytime I closed my eyes, I saw my grandad laying there with tubes in his mouth. Hopefully within time things will get easier and I will be able to cope more. We have so much to sort out at the moment for the cremation but we can't start doing any of that until tomorrow has the Undertakers is shut. My grandad is being taken to the Chapel Of Rest tomorrow so if we want, we can all go and see him and pay our respects.

I will let you all know when the funeral is. Thank you so much once again for your kind words and prayers, it means the world to me and my family :hug:

Ali, it's quite normal to be feeling the way you are at the moment!

Under the circumstances, I doubt that most people would be thinking straight. It's always traumatic to lose some-one close to your heart, and I can well imagine some of the pain that you and your nanan are going through right now.

When you feel up to it, you might like to spend a little time with your nanan to help ease her lonliness, but remember that Alison needs to heal first.

It will be hard Ali and please don't forget that, but at the same time nobody will expect you to be any kind of superwoman.

You take it easy, and remember that we all love you here, and we'll always be here for you should you need to talk. :hug:

:hug::hug:Sending you special hugs Ali:hug::hug:
I am so truly sorry for you loss.....you and your family are in my thoughts sweetie:hug:

Dear ali12
 

I'm so sorry for your loss. I hope that you feel better soon. BF:hug::hug::hug:

Ali - I am sorry I didn't see this sooner. My heart goes out to you and your family. I hope things are getting better for you. I understand how hard it is to keep the last memory of someone with you, but please do your best to remember the good time - the smiles - the hugs and I love you's instead of the last moments of tubes.

:hug:

I will keep you in my prayers and my heart goes out to you. Hang in there and take care of yourself.